Is this a mortal sin? Replies are dreadfully needed!

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Hey everyone, i feel like i am in hot water

my mom has a problem with a collection agency, and since the account was on my dads name, only he could discuss the situation with the person on the phone, my mom didnt have permission. the problem started when she told me to call and lie in my dads name, saying i was my dad and giving my permission to talk with her about the amount owed. so i did. she did this because she didnt want my dad to find out and get mad at her and the agency. Is this a mortal sin on my part?

I wanted nothing to do with this, i did NOT enjoy it, i was shaking inside as i was about to call, so i wasnt for it. However i did.

i hate lying, especially like this, and i feel very bad

Is this ia mortal sin, because if it is, Oh ****! i need confession, then im gonna call the Priest right away and get a confession tommorrow. i dont think i’ll sleep if it is. I also feel like i want to abandon my Faith, because this is just too much, i cant go anymore,

As you read this, please keep in mind, that i am scrupulous,

i need clear replies, and all replies ARE NEEDED AND APPRECIATED!

please tell me if i need a confession.
 
To commit a mortal sin you must knowingly and willingly consent
but your consent was unwilling.
You did not give full consent, therefore it wasn’t a mortal sin.
Pray for your mother that she will be more honest and also not coerce you act against your conscience.
 
So, would this land me a spot in hell? i am so scared and on edge right now. I am so terrified right now, please help me someone! i need answers not opinions!
 
Because you mentioned that you are scrupulous, I’d like to direct you to the website of SA, in case you are not already aware of it: mission.liguori.org/newsletters/scrupanon.htm

I myself suffer scruples, and the newsletters, Father Santa’s book, and the Ten Commandments for the Scrupulous, have been very helpful, especially when it comes to the sort of questions like the one you have now.

Peace be with you.

(I also posted this in your other thread. In short, an answer to your question–which I’d say was already answered above by the first reply-- is that unless you are certain that you committed a mortal sin, you did not. It sounds to me like you are not certain, and the anxiety you are displaying commonly comes with a bout of scrupulosity, not necessarily because of committing mortal sin. Again, check out the link I posted above to SA. And again, peace be with you, please be at peace.)
 
mymamamary said:
Hey everyone, i feel like i am in hot water

my mom has a problem with a collection agency, and since the account was on my dads name, only he could discuss the situation with the person on the phone, my mom didnt have permission. the problem started when she told me to call and lie in my dads name, saying i was my dad and giving my permission to talk with her about the amount owed. so i did. she did this because she didnt want my dad to find out and get mad at her and the agency. Is this a mortal sin on my part?

I wanted nothing to do with this, i did NOT enjoy it, i was shaking inside as i was about to call, so i wasnt for it. However i did.

i hate lying, especially like this, and i feel very bad

Is this ia mortal sin, because if it is, Oh ****! i need confession, then im gonna call the Priest right away and get a confession tommorrow. i dont think i’ll sleep if it is. I also feel like i want to abandon my Faith, because this is just too much, i cant go anymore,

As you read this, please keep in mind, that i am scrupulous,

i need clear replies, and all replies ARE NEEDED AND APPRECIATED!

please tell me if i need a confession.
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Talk to a priest. From my view point, it looks like mortal sin,but also criminal fraud.
However, your age will have a lot to do with whether it was mortal sin or not. I would suggest that you talk to your mother about the sin she committed in making your do this.

Don’t worry though, make an honest act of contrition and go to confession ASAP.

God knows the heart and understands the situation. His mercy is beyond what you can conceive.

Jim
 
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So, would this land me a spot in hell? i am so scared and on edge right now. I am so terrified right now, please help me someone! i need answers not opinions!
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All you will get here are opinions.

Only a priest can advise you if this is mortal or not. In my opinion, it is not. I don’t believe that this was serious matter. If it had been, I don’t believe you understood it was grave. I don’t believe you gave consent. In other words, I believe you have failed on all three things that would have made it mortal.

Just talk to a priest and follow what he says.
 
I am scrupulous too, and the worst thing about it (besides loss of peace) is not being able to tell sometimes if I’m exaggerating a venial (or nonexistent) sin or if I really have committed mortal sin. The thought of committing a mortal sin is so repulsive/frightening to me that I probably am not LIKELY to commit a mortal sin but that does not mean I am not CAPABLE of committing one because we ALL are capable. Okay, from one scrupulous person to another–here is what I would do. First I would tell your mother how terrible you felt after making this phone call and that you are sorry but you will not be able to do anything like that again. Then I would make a sincere act of contrition and make plans to go to confession this weekend. Since this is already Thursday evening and most parishes have confession on Friday or Saturday, you haven’t got long to wait. This sin seems to me to be in the “iffy” gray area. You knew it was wrong and didn’t want to do it, but you were feeling a lot of pressure to obey your mother. That probably reduces your culpability, but since it is at very least a DELIBERATE (not accidental) venial sin, I would confess it and get it off my conscience. Make a good act of contrition and sleep peacefully, knowing that God KNOWS you are sorry and won’t do it again with His help. God bless 🙂
 
Am i obliged to tell my dad, because i know he wouldnt be happy,
 
I am going to say that you should probably stay out of the matter. If you tell your father he may be very angry and then he and your mother may have an argument and it will cause problems in their marriage. I would however encourage (and pray for) your mother to be courageous and tell your father the truth about the collection agency and bills. If the collection agency calls and your father is home, I’d give him the phone. BUT I would definitely ask the priest when you go to confession, and he will be able to advise you on what to do.
 
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