Is this a mortal sin?

[coolcatholicguy]

Thre are these 2 twins that I used to go to the same school as that I am a little scared I look at homosexually. I would consider it more like looking at a baby and saying he/she is cute than a “hot” girl and saying she is cute. (I did sexually some but prior to my last Confession).

Did I commit a mortal sin of homosexuality with this?

 

[thistle]

Thre are these 2 twins that I used to go to the same school as that I am a little scared I look at homosexually. I would consider it more like looking at a baby and saying he/she is cute than a “hot” girl and saying she is cute. (I did sexually some but prior to my last Confession).

Did I commit a mortal sin of homosexuality with this?

You have no clue what homosexuality actually is or you wouldn’t ask a question like that.
How old are you??

Read the Church teachings before you come with waste of time questions. Have you ever actually read what the Church teaches?

ALL Church teachings are summarised in the Catechism of the Catholic Church with indexes so you can search for topics. Its free online (see link below). When you have read the CCC then come back with sensible threads.

scborromeo.org/ccc.htm

 

[runningdude]

You have no clue what homosexuality actually is or you wouldn’t ask a question like that.
How old are you??

Read the Church teachings before you come with waste of time questions. Have you ever actually read what the Church teaches?

ALL Church teachings are summarised in the Catechism of the Catholic Church with indexes so you can search for topics. Its free online (see link below). When you have read the CCC then come back with sensible threads.

scborromeo.org/ccc.htm

:banghead:

He’s 14. Did you read and comprehend the ENTIRE catechism at 14?

 

[runningdude]

Thre are these 2 twins that I used to go to the same school as that I am a little scared I look at homosexually. I would consider it more like looking at a baby and saying he/she is cute than a “hot” girl and saying she is cute. (I did sexually some but prior to my last Confession).

Did I commit a mortal sin of homosexuality with this?

I’m having a bit of trouble understanding your question, so let me try to break it down.

You’re a cool catholic guy , so I’m assuming your a guy, and the twins are also guys. You think they are “cute”, and are worried that this might be a sin of homosexuality.

I don’t think you committed a sin by merely looking at them and thinking they are “cute”. It could be something totally benign, such as maybe you want to be friends with them.

Hormones at this age can sometime a positive urge, such as simply wanting to be friends with someone, and make it feel weird or sexual. I’m only eight years older than you, and even my hormones are still over active at times.

At this stage, God just wants us to live chastely. This means more than not having sex before marriage. It means developing healthy relationships with God and other people to help us resist the temptations of sin! Maybe instead of worrying about whether the twins are “cute”, get to know them and maybe become friends with them.

Teenage hormones can rage, but, this is most important advice a priest ever gave me: Don’t beat yourself up! Simply trust in God, and do your best, and make use of the sacraments when needed

 

[thistle]

:banghead:

He’s 14. Did you read and comprehend the ENTIRE catechism at 14?

The CCC has an index. He can look up whatever subject he is interested in. Then if he doesn’t understand the teaching he can come here and ask about it.

Have you actually read the OP of all the threads he has started. 99.99% have been silly.

 

[Newbie2]

The CCC has an index. He can look up whatever subject he is interested in. Then if he doesn’t understand the teaching he can come here and ask about it.

Have you actually read the OP of all the threads he has started. 99.99% have been silly.

Way to respond with Charity.

…not. Hey, people come to the forum all the time with questions. The CCC doesn’t, as you know, address situations specific to each and every problem. If you think they’re “silly”, don’t participate in the discussion.

To address the OP’s question, I would second runningdude’s post. Hormones can make us have odd thoughts.

 

[Debora123]

You have no clue what homosexuality actually is or you wouldn’t ask a question like that.
How old are you??

Read the Church teachings before you come with waste of time questions. Have you ever actually read what the Church teaches?

ALL Church teachings are summarised in the Catechism of the Catholic Church with indexes so you can search for topics. Its free online (see link below). When you have read the CCC then come back with sensible threads.

scborromeo.org/ccc.htm

Wow, you were rude. Way to be a good Catholic.

 

[puzzleannie]

Did I commit a mortal sin of homosexuality with this?

did you commit or lust about, plan, fantasize about, commiting a sin? then no, you did not sin.

if you are still in school why are you looking at anyone of any gender in a sexual manner? save it for when you are ready for courtship and marriage and make your life a lot simpler

when you have questions about your own spiritual health go to your own priest in confession. third party advice on an internet forum is unlikely to be very helpful except in the most general way

also get out of the habit of revealing your sins or struggles with sin to anonymous third parties. that can be downright dangerous

 

[Debora123]

And no, it was not a sin. Neither does it mean you’re homosexual. You’re a young teenager and it can be normal for a teenager to have a “crush” on someone of the same sex. Adolescence is a time of tremendous upheaval and rapid sexual development. With all the hormones playing havoc in your mind, it’s totally normal to feel confused at times. Relax, it’ll sort itself out. : )

And I’m sorry about all the rudeness from some of the people here. Totally uncalled for and mean. You’re just a young guy trying to do the right thing, and that’s something to be very proud of. You can ask as many questions as you want, as much as you want. Don’t let these people discourage you and belittle you.

 

[Debora123]

if you are still in school why are you looking at anyone of any gender in a sexual manner? save it for when you are ready for courtship and marriage and make your life a lot simpler

That’s completely normal. Whether or not you are married, you are still a sexual being, and you’re going to have those feelings. It is neither healthy nor even possible to try to repress them.

Read the book “Real Love” by Mary Beth Bonacci. She explains pretty much this exact question. What I just wrote to you is only a very brief overview of what she says.

 

[runningdude]

The CCC has an index. He can look up whatever subject he is interested in. Then if he doesn’t understand the teaching he can come here and ask about it.

Have you actually read the OP of all the threads he has started. 99.99% have been silly.

No. I did not.

I should point out that by 14, I did read much of the Catechism and similar books, and in fact comprehended everything I read. However, in those eight years since, I experienced a little thing called Life.

I have actually tried to live by what I read, failed at times, succeeded at other times, and now feel I should be able to share some of the experience of the pitfalls of doing so with someone just starting out. Learning about the faith in theory has its purpose. However faith is not some abstract concept to be learned in a book. It is lived out in the real world, and influences everything you do. Faith, without interaction in the real world, is dead.

At fourteen, you’re allowed to ask silly questions. At fourteen, one is still sheltered from most of the real world. One needs to ask these questions to learn what is really important and to develop a solid faith that holds up under the pressures of the real world.