Is this a sin i need advice

[Asiacamie]

My mom is hard to respect sometimes her actions and the things she says aren’t what a parent should do or say. Its hard to respect her I feel the need to say something when she’s acting out in situations she calls me names, yells at me, and I act out sometimes by rolling my eyes and talking back and raising my voice and afterwards I feel guilty and feel the need to go to confession. But it feels unfair because how can I respect her when she doesn’t give me equal respect my actions has changed toward her this year in good ways and I remember telling her I’m trying to respect you in an argument but shes so toxic to the whole family can you give me advice because I went to confession and confessed twice being disrespectful but its so hard to remain calm when she yells at me or tries to argue.

 

[Legend]

How old are you? If you’re an adult, why do you live with her, or see her so often? In most cultures, it’s not considered disrespectful for an adult child to move out. Try and separate yourself from her, as much as possible.

 

[Viki63]

Dear Friend,
You have a difficult situation no matter what your age. As Legend says, if you are an adult moving out may be an option, but I suspect you are not yet self-supporting. You are to be congratulated for your efforts to be respectful in spite of her difficult behavior.
Yelling and name calling are usually done by people who haven’t mastered self control or who were raised to think those are acceptable behaviors. However they are not effective ways of relating to others, especially family members.

One thing you could do is leave the room when she yells at you or argues. You could do it with respect, just saying something like,“I don’t think this is a good time to talk right now.”

Some people have personality disorders and have a hard time getting along with anyone. If that’s the case you must try not to take it personally. Try to respond to the facts, and not to the name calling or insults. You could apologize for whatever you might have done to make her feel bad (even if you didn’t do it on purpose or she’s misunderstood you.)

It is hard to stay calm during an argument, even if you are trying not to participate in it. Don’t be too hard on yourself when you slip up, but do keep trying to be respectful. Do it for Jesus, and ask him to help you.
God bless.

 

[Norseman82]

If you are simply defending yourself against abuse, I don’t see it as a sin, just self-defense.

 

[Legend]

If you are underage, or have another legitimate reason for not moving out, my advice as to trying not to be in her company too much stands. Don’t give her opportunities to abuse you. Do you go to school? Look up extracurricular activities you can get involved with, clubs you can join. If your mother asks about what you do, don’t lie, but don’t volunteer information, either. Develop a lifestyle of your own, to the best of your ability.
If people start speaking well of you in your mother’s presence, it will be more difficult for her to belittle you.
Are there any church or community sponsored service activities you can join? look into these, too. You can help yourself by helping others, which will be hard for your mother to criticize.