Is This Bad ??

[John89]

ok… let me see how im going to put this… umm… the thing is, that i dont really like being around people… I dont hate people or anything, but i just like being alone… when i look around at people it really just makes me sad to see the way alot of people are…from what ive seen, alot of people dont care about anyone but themselves, and this makes me really sad, ive also noticed that alot of people are fake and pretty cheap… when i look at people i just feel a sense of disgust for some reason… i havent really been talking to people lately because im kinda just sick of everyone… i would still help a person in need no matter what, but lately i just dont want to be around anyone and have found that this feeling is getting stronger… what could i do to change ??? and is this a sin ???

 

[JFonseka]

Hard to say, well you did say you help people when they need help and you just want to stay away from them because of all the trouble that some people cause. It would be a good idea to use your frustration in something that frustrates you the most to bring some good out of it.

Like, you see something that frustrates you, start something or co-operate to improve the situation. God uses our frustration to work things out.

 

[Rawb]

Be careful - you’re bordering on some pretty serious pride issues, IMO. Think about when you feel this disgust about people’s materialistic attitudes; are you overlooking any materialistic leanings you might have yourself? Are you overlooking flaws of your own that might annoy others?

I know what you mean about not wanting to deal with people because they’re hypocritical, or shallow, but remember at times that we ourselves are also hypocritical and shallow. My suggestion would be to pray for charity and humility, and to shoulder the dealings you have with people who annoy you as a cross to bear. In other words, embrace it and gladly endure it for Jesus.

ewtn.com/Devotionals/prayers/humility.htm

and the Act of Charity:

“O my God, I love Thee above all things, with my whole heart and soul, because Thou art all good and worthy of all love. I love my neighbor as myself for the love of Thee. I forgive all who have injured me, and ask pardon of all whom I have injured. Amen.”

 

[BobP123]

ok… let me see how im going to put this… umm… the thing is, that i dont really like being around people… I dont hate people or anything, but i just like being alone… when i look around at people it really just makes me sad to see the way alot of people are…from what ive seen, alot of people dont care about anyone but themselves, and this makes me really sad, ive also noticed that alot of people are fake and pretty cheap… when i look at people i just feel a sense of disgust for some reason… i havent really been talking to people lately because im kinda just sick of everyone… i would still help a person in need no matter what, but lately i just dont want to be around anyone and have found that this feeling is getting stronger… what could i do to change ??? and is this a sin ???

What makes you think they’re right and you’re wrong? Ever read the classic book Walden Pond?

 

[Pat_the_Cat]

It is bad if you are trying to avoid people altogether. It’s your duty as a Christian to be the salt to this bland word and the light amid the darkness. Although t’s NOT bad if you don’t want to be around people who are FAKE or that might in some way have a bad influence on you or your soul. That would just be PRUDENCE. In fact Jesus said it Himself **“if your eye/hand makes you sin cut it out/off” Mt 5:30, ** I’m sure the same could be said for those who waste your time and efforts. St. Paul Echos this sentiment about people “Do not yoke yourself with unbelievers” 2Cor 6:14

BUT… it IS important to have people around who can help form you, into the saint you’re called to be; because ***“It is not good for man to be alone”. *Gen 2:18 **God made us to be part of a communion, part of a family. Which means that other people NEED to be in our lives. We need them and they need us. I suggest you find a prayer group, or Catholic group, nearby and meet like-minded people who you might actually enjoy being around.

“Just as it takes a diamond to cut a diamond, it also takes a saint to form a saint” (sorry I can’t remember who said that, but it’s a pretty cool quote)

 

[John89]

The thing is with me too, ill be mad like that, but always will forgive someone no matter what they do to me… but when that feeling comes, it comes back stronger but then goes away very quickly

 

[Newbie2]

I would suggest that you consider speaking with a good Catholic councelor in your area. This may not be a moreal issue at all, but a psycological one.

Not to imply or suggest that you’re having mental/social issues, but there may be something underlying these thoughts that you don’t recognize or understand.

It wouldn’t hurt, and may be of help.

 

[MH84]

ok… let me see how im going to put this… umm… the thing is, that i dont really like being around people… I dont hate people or anything, but i just like being alone… when i look around at people it really just makes me sad to see the way alot of people are…from what ive seen, alot of people dont care about anyone but themselves, and this makes me really sad, ive also noticed that alot of people are fake and pretty cheap… when i look at people i just feel a sense of disgust for some reason… i havent really been talking to people lately because im kinda just sick of everyone… i would still help a person in need no matter what, but lately i just dont want to be around anyone and have found that this feeling is getting stronger… what could i do to change ??? and is this a sin ???

I kinda know how you feel. But there must be some people that you don’t mind talking to. I don’t think it is pride so much, but it might be. You have to be honest with yourself and find out the real reasons for your feelings. Is it something to do with yourself? Anyway you are not alone, God will guide you, especially if you ask Him.

On occasion whien I feel unsocial, like I don’t feel close to anyone or when I have low self-esteem I can be at a point where I’d think I would feel uncomfortable being around the apostles, and even Jesus, the One who gave up His life for me.

 

[Steve40]

ok… let me see how im going to put this… umm… the thing is, that i dont really like being around people… I dont hate people or anything, but i just like being alone… when i look around at people it really just makes me sad to see the way alot of people are…from what ive seen, alot of people dont care about anyone but themselves, and this makes me really sad, ive also noticed that alot of people are fake and pretty cheap… when i look at people i just feel a sense of disgust for some reason… i havent really been talking to people lately because im kinda just sick of everyone… i would still help a person in need no matter what, but lately i just dont want to be around anyone and have found that this feeling is getting stronger… what could i do to change ??? and is this a sin ???

Pray for everyone you think of and everyone you meet. You don’t need to be around people to help them. Prayer is more powerful than most of us, including me, think. By praying for them more you may desire to be around them more. In a way you are with people now. It’s a lot less personal, but you are here. Say a prayer for me.

Steve

 

[Chickie]

Hi. My experience has lead me to believe that “fake” is usually “shallow”. And this is because a lot of people put up a facade and hide behind it. It is much harder to be yourself and to think deeply all the time than to skim along the surface of life.

So what I do to these people (usually at work) is listen to them. Asking about someone’s weekend and then truly listening and asking more questions often surprises people. It makes them comfortable about letting their guard down and talking about things that matter.

It might be tough and take a while but you never know what can happen!
Cheers, Elissa

 

[latinmasslover]

ok… let me see how im going to put this… umm… the thing is, that i dont really like being around people… I dont hate people or anything, but i just like being alone… when i look around at people it really just makes me sad to see the way alot of people are…from what ive seen, alot of people dont care about anyone but themselves, and this makes me really sad, ive also noticed that alot of people are fake and pretty cheap… when i look at people i just feel a sense of disgust for some reason… i havent really been talking to people lately because im kinda just sick of everyone… i would still help a person in need no matter what, but lately i just dont want to be around anyone and have found that this feeling is getting stronger… what could i do to change ??? and is this a sin ???

No, it’s not a sin, but be careful as it can become sinful. I myself am the same way; we all have different callings, and maybe God has allowed this feeling because your particular calling is to pray, as the cloistered religious do. Continue to help those in need as situations come up, but use the time that would’ve gone to some kind of ministry for prayer for the conversion of these people. You’ll be in my prayers. God Bless.