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I have a friend; we’ll call him Joe who feels guilty about his father’s death. Several years ago, Joe’s 80 year old dad had a small stroke that landed him in the hospital. That night in the hospital, his dad had a massive stroke but the doctors needed family permission to administer t-PA or clot busting drugs. The docs missed the window of opportunity and by the time a family member gave consent, it was a bit late. In the next couple weeks, his dad seemed to be aware of his surroundings, but could not communicate in any way – neither understand what was said to him nor respond to any commands. He could not talk and could not eat because swallowing didn’t work so he would need a feeding tube.
He could hear because when taken outside would look up at an airplane or a bird’s song. He would hold a flower and twirl it in his fingers. But he was completely paralyzed on his right side and more. The docs said he would probably not recover and the best outcome would be around the clock nursing care.
This dad had a living will framed and hanging in his living room to the effect that if he was ever rendered helpless to this level, he did not want any heroic efforts to keep him alive, but only wanted nature to take its course. So, the family decided to withhold the feeding tube as they interpreted his wishes, until he naturally died. Joe had talked to his pastor about this beforehand and was satisfied he was making the right decision, but now has second thoughts. Especially after the Terri Schiavo case, he is becoming convinced he participated in euthanasia because his dad could have lived many months – even years on that feeding tube. And who knows, maybe he would’ve regained some form of communication and even mobility with the right therapy. This is a tough case and I’m not sure how to help Joe deal with this.
He could hear because when taken outside would look up at an airplane or a bird’s song. He would hold a flower and twirl it in his fingers. But he was completely paralyzed on his right side and more. The docs said he would probably not recover and the best outcome would be around the clock nursing care.
This dad had a living will framed and hanging in his living room to the effect that if he was ever rendered helpless to this level, he did not want any heroic efforts to keep him alive, but only wanted nature to take its course. So, the family decided to withhold the feeding tube as they interpreted his wishes, until he naturally died. Joe had talked to his pastor about this beforehand and was satisfied he was making the right decision, but now has second thoughts. Especially after the Terri Schiavo case, he is becoming convinced he participated in euthanasia because his dad could have lived many months – even years on that feeding tube. And who knows, maybe he would’ve regained some form of communication and even mobility with the right therapy. This is a tough case and I’m not sure how to help Joe deal with this.