Is this still a sin even if I mention the truth?

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Hello, everyone! This is my first discussion on this website. I found out a lie about someone I know in real life and now I want to talk about the issue with a couple friends. However, I will not mention this person’s name or identity to them, just talk about a statement that he/she told me about a year ago, and now he/she is doing the complete opposite of whatever he/she told me in that moment. I want to criticize this person’s contradicting action to my close friends, but I’m doubting if I should talk about it or not since it’s still considered an indirect gossip.
 
Something to bear in mind, our words are heard and God knows our hearts.
 
True story:

A brother found out his other brother was going to sin.

He told the police and the police apprehended his brother.

Under the constitution, the accused is allowed to inquire as to who reported them.

The brothers’ relationship has never been the same since.

The accused brother isn’t mad about the sin. He is mad about the betrayal and not taking it directly up with him.

Charges were dropped as it was just a comment with no action but the brothers do not talk to one another.

Is the “pursuit of righteousness involving a third party” worth losing a loved one?

The phrase, “my brother, you are dead to me” should never happen in society.

This happened to me.
 
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Why do you feel the need to talk about this with your friends? Bring it up to the person involved or drop it altogether.
 
Is there some reason you need to bring this up to your friends, such as to protect them from harm? (Example: the friend solicited donations for a charity, you gave him a donation and later found out he spent the money on a new car for himself, now he’s asking your friends for donations and you want to keep them from being ripped off.) That might be a good reason to bring it up.

Or do you just feel like you need to talk through this / vent with some friends to deal with your frustrations? If so, maybe you could pick people who don’t know the person you’re venting about.

If it’s just for idle gossip I would not talk about it.
 
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Would the advice in Matthew 18:15-17 apply?
If your brother sins [against you], go and tell him his fault between you and him alone. If he listens to you, you have won over your brother. If he does not listen, take one or two others along with you, so that ‘every fact may be established on the testimony of two or three witnesses.’ If he refuses to listen to them, tell the church. If he refuses to listen even to the church, then treat him as you would a Gentile or a tax collector.
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If this person requires correction, start by correcting him gently and in private. Don’t bring in other people unless it is truly necessary.

The only reason to confide in your friends would be if you need advice on how to broach the subject in a loving, gentle way with the person you intend to confront. If you just want to point out someone’s hypocrisy, I don’t see the point. I wish I always had the integrity to do everything I profess that I should do, but I know I have failed many, many times. Be understanding that the person in question may have just made a human mistake. Also, be open to the possibility that what seems like hypocrisy may not be once you know the details – it could be that circumstances are different from what they appear.
 
You’re right. No one is going to be harmed. What I was trying to say earlier today was that I was going to mention this person’s contradiction in a conversation with my friends like this but with more detail on the subject: “How would you feel if someone told you a statement or assumption they strongly disagreed with, but then a year later they do the thing they themselves said they wouldn’t agree on doing? Because I know a person that contradicted him/herself that way and it makes me feel odd.”
The person didn’t do anything bad. Just contradicted his/her past statement. Maybe I’m overthinking the issue and should get over it.
 
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Put yourself in their shoes… If someone said that to you, wouldn’t you want to know who it was? Wouldn’t you be asking for more details? You are still gossiping whether it’s true or not. And you are coaxing your friends to join you in gossiping. It no ones business, except the person you want to talk about. As someone on TV said “It’s not your story to tell.”

It serves no purpose to discuss the contradiction with anyone except maybe the person that said it to begin with. And even then, you really don’t need to point it out to them, they probably already know and it doesn’t concern you.
 
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Depends on the crime. Really its the accused brother’s fault for not being careful with what he says.
 
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Not true whatsoever. Life experience trumps opinions. Words are protected under the constitution and nobody should lose a brother over a scuffle like that.

Brother: “do you really mean that?”

Second brother: “no, I’m just going through a lot right now, let’s talk about it over a coffee.”
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Brother: “I’m glad we talked”

Second brother: “me too, your a great brother for talking the time to talk”

Brothers hug

Update: we are back in touch and both realize/agree that being an “alarmist” is counter productive in relationship building
 
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