Is venting considered detraction?

[angell1]

It’s always the same. If you would ask a priest in real life about all these family issues, you might have a chance to resolve them.its been almost three years that CAF posters have suggested a priest.
You have every excuse.
Sounds like refusal to me, sorry. It’s always the same. Is this bad is this ok. At some point you’ll have to get a counselor a mentor ir a spiritual director.
I have no idea why you won’t seek appropriate help.
I know full what you are asking.
And you know full well what and who is the problem.
You’re always in our prayers. One day I hope to hear that you’ve taken steps.

nno, I don’t know full well much of anything, or else i wouldn’t have asked the question, my question had to do with talking to close friends, which I finally think I might have one

I was always taught to never talk about problems because no one cares about them and it was just complaining or gossiping, regardless if you were looking advice or not. also did not have the best experiences with counsellors in the past

and if you really want to know, I tried for three months to book an appointment with my pastor, not just about this, other stuff too. we never had a time that worked for both of us

finally decided to ask another priest, he said he would call me, which he finally did a couple days ago but I missed it, then he was busy after that when I called back, so we will have to try and arrange something else.

so yes, actually working on it

 

[pianistclare]

nno, I don’t know full well much of anything, or else i wouldn’t have asked the question, my question had to do with talking to close friends, which I finally think I might have oneThis is not what I was talking about and you know it.

I’m out.

 

[Edmundus1581]

I was always taught to never talk about problems because no one cares about them and it was just complaining or gossiping, regardless if you were looking advice or not. also did not have the best experiences with counsellors in the past

I grew up in a non-Catholic family, but that was the attitude also. We never talked about problems because we had to fix them ourselves, and other people were too busy. Also, that if we mentioned a problem and made one mistake in describing it, we were shot down.

Myself and my brothers have taken decades to recover from this and to be able to talk about our problems, or “vent”, without terror.

This extends to counselors. If we see a counselor, or a priest, we feel afraid to admit the roots of our problems. Our fear is that they too will say: “I’m not interested. Stop blaming others. Fix it yourself”.

So, it’s not just a “Catholic” thing about the sin of detraction, there are also environments where children learn to repress feelings, questions and discussions - and take a long time to recover.

 

[angell1]

nno, I don’t know full well much of anything, or else i wouldn’t have asked the question, my question had to do with talking to close friends, which I finally think I might have one

This is not what I was talking about and you know it.

I’m out.

ok, well that’s all I was asking.

not all my threads have to do with previous stuff

 

[Xantippe]

Right.

Angel needs to take action to resolve or help her come to terms with her home situation. Venting isn’t going to do a thing.
She vents here all the time.
True, IRL friends are more sympathetic, but from a long time posting history, this is something that requires personal counseling.

But it is possible to wear out their sympathy if you keep complaining about the same exact thing and never doing anything about it.