Is writing Erotica sinful?

[Kaizmom]

I am a writer. I wanted to know if writing erotica is sinful? It is not for publication and does not cause a sin per se as I am married and any arousal ends up in sex with my spouse. But is the writing of graphic sexual encounters between fictional characters a sin in itself? I enjoy writing it and it helps not only my bedroom life but my writing in general . Thanks.

 

[triumphguy]

Maybe it’s fictionally sinful

 

[LilyM]

Warning: slightly graphic content.

Yes it is, for the same reason that watching a fictional sex scene in a movie with the purpose of arousing yourself would be, even if the act was only ever performed with your husband.

Either way, it is introducing a third (indeed a fourth, fith, sixth and whatever, depending on what you are writing about) ‘person’ into your relationship when there should be only two of you.

The purpose of sexuality is to ensure unity - real unity, mental as well as physical, between husband and wife. In what sense is your unity real if you are imagining people other than your husband in order to ‘get in the mood’?

And is that not what you are doing - regardless of whether the imaginings and fantasies are real or fictional? Are you not just opening yourself up for serious dissatisfaction with your sex life down the track, since reality can never possibly measure up to fantasy? In fact are you not doing exactly the same thing that someone who masturbates is - only substituting your husband’s body for the right hand or appliance or whatever you might use if you masturbate?

 

[MidnightSun12]

I agree with LilyM’s post. Remember that Christ said that when a man even thinks about a woman with lust, then he has already committed adultry with her in his heart. There is no requirement for this “women” to actually be real in the flesh. A man (or woman) could easily lust after a fictional character and this would be just as sinful as if he/she were lusting after a real person.

In my opinion, if you’re going to write this fiction, then you should limit the character’s strictly to yourself and your spouse. As soon as you start allowing “third parties” into the literature, then you’re treading on thin ice, in my opinion.

 

[CompSciGuy]

Yes it is sinful in the same way that viewing pornography is sinful, in all circumstances, and dwelling upon sexual fantasy is sinful. Lust in general is sinful no matter whether you use it to “improve” your relations with your spouse or if you do it alone for your own pleasure, it’s still wrong.

 

[MidnightSun12]

Yes it is sinful in the same way that viewing pornography is sinful, in all circumstances, and dwelling upon sexual fantasy is sinful. Lust in general is sinful no matter whether you use it to “improve” your relations with your spouse or if you do it alone for your own pleasure, it’s still wrong.

I have to disagree with part of what you’re saying. I don’t think dwelling on sexual fantasy between husband and wife as an aspect of foreplay (where the thoughts are strictly focused on the spouse) is inherently sinful. The requirement, of course, is for it to end in natural sexual intercourse as per the teachings of the Catholic church…

 

[HelenRose]

With our present social obsession with “erotica” why would anyone want to add to the pile? There certainly is enough of it floating around as it is. At one time “erotica” in literature was shocking now it is simply boring.

If one intends to devote a significant portion of his life to writing, why waste it on the trivial? Writing erotica may be a sin. To waste one’s talents is an insult to God’s gifts.

 

[joeantony]

I am a writer. I wanted to know if writing erotica is sinful? It is not for publication and does not cause a sin per se as I am married and any arousal ends up in sex with my spouse. But is the writing of graphic sexual encounters between fictional characters a sin in itself? I enjoy writing it and it helps not only my bedroom life but my writing in general . Thanks.

If you want to know , Read Bible

Mathew 18: 6-

[6] But he that shall scandalize one of these little ones that believe in me, it were better for him that a millstone should be hanged about his neck, and that he should be drowned in the depth of the sea. [7] Woe to the world because of scandals. For it must needs be that scandals come: but nevertheless woe to that man by whom the scandal cometh.

Cordially,
Joe

 

[Kaizmom]

Thanks for the comments. I write as a hobby and I do not write erotica solely for the purpose for sexual arousal or gratification, but because it is something to write about (just like writing on different creative writing prompts). Thank you everyone for your (name removed by moderator)ut. Guess it is better to stay away from it all together then put myself into sin.