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What do you do when you notice the person you’re talking with, isn’t even listening to you? (Ie. glancing on other directions, not making eye contact, trying to brush you off…)

What does this signify?

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20101310 said:
Hope ya don’t mind 😚!

What do you do when you notice the person you’re talking with, isn’t even listening to you? (Ie. glancing on other directions, not making eye contact, trying to brush you off…)

What does this signify?

God Bless always 🤟
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A million things.

I have ADHD. People understand that is normative for me.

As a mom, it usually means that I’m stretched thin. It means I’m thinking of household projects, work, the kids, laundry, dinner and a million other things and trying for the life of me to hang onto the conversation.

I think for a neurotypical non-mom it likely means that the person just dosn’t really care.
 
How can I make someone care more about me and what I say?

How can I be instantly compelling from the moment I open my mouth to when I close it?
 
That would depend on certain variables you haven’t told us about, such as:

 Are these people close family members, or people you know slightly, or just someone sitting next to you on the bus?

 What is the subject of conversation? Are you sure it’s something the other person is interested in?

 Are your views on the subject original? Do you have something to add to what the person has already heard many times before on the same subject?
 
I mean no disrespect, but it is possible that maybe you talk too much? Perhaps the conversation is one sided with you doing all of the talking and not enough listening. If you want people to like you, you have to listen to them and show an interest in them.
 
Is this someone you romantically like and you trying to get their attention?
If it is and you want to talk with them ask them more questions than the answers you keep on giving like @Irishmom2 did. If they still try to ignore you hey probably got that you like them and the answer is “no” and so go through the pain and move on. :hugs:
 
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How can I make someone care more about me and what I say?

How can I be instantly compelling from the moment I open my mouth to when I close it?
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You can’t.

To think that one could is purely delusional. Even Jesus wasn’t compelling 100% of the time. People walked away from Him.
 
Say if a professor asked you a question, yet when you began to answer they showed the aforementioned signs of disinterest?
 
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Say if a professor asked you a question, yet when you began to answer they showed the aforementioned signs of disinterest?
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That’s still too vague. What is the subject? What is the question? How well do the professor and I know one another?
 
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Say if a professor asked you a question, yet when you began to answer they showed the aforementioned signs of disinterest?
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Either they are not a good professor or you are giving a rambling, banal or off-base answer that makes him want to stab himself in the eye with rusty fork.
 
If I’m feeling less confident I notice people are more likely to inclined to tune out of what I’m saying ,if I am feeling more upbeat the tone of my voice is more engaging and I can hold a persons attention easily 😃
Perhaps you could practice on tone of voice more, smile more ?
Many people can also be only interested in what they themselves are going to say next…they like to hear feedback about themselves…so you could talk more about them.
God bless 🙂
 
I just stop talking. I figure if I’m not compelling or interesting then I don’t want to bore people or waste my breath. If what I have to say matters, then it’s their loss, not mine.
There is a good thought though from business. If you can’t tell me that heart of what your are proposing in 10 seconds or less, you need to go back and sharpen your approach and your words
 
You can’t make anyone care more about what you say. Many people don’t listen well and are only thinking of the next thing THEY want to say. Other people just want to be entertained and don’t want a serious conversation.
 
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