It is okay to court a girl if I have been so immoral like I have been?

[Archedreamer]

Hi!

There is a dilemma that makes me anxious since I have become a practising christian…

I have had a disastrous teenager age… since I had 11 until I have 18 I was somelike as an sexopath… I just kept my chastity because I was rejected… I had not any girlfriend but because I have social problems… that is the only reason because I have not had any contact whit a girl (I have not kissed anyone, I have not sleept whit anyone… nothing). That sure makes me happy… but I am so sorry because all the other things I have really done… literally thousands of masturbations…literally thousand of visit to sex and pornographic websites… a giant sexual interest… I can’t writte this whitouth feeling I am sick

Now I am so remorseful! I just try not to think in that…

And I have met a tender girl at the College… I think she is like many girls in Argentina… I say that she surely has gone to discos and kissed boys here… I think she has had the same historial of most girls…

But even she is very much tender that the most of people (not religious people). I think she is virgin… because she is anguished when that thematic is talked by professors (that is the society whitin I live).

I am so confused If it would be okay if I try to become some special for her… I am sure I would never do again the sins I have done… now I see how beautiful is the life of a princess… af that of a knight who cans make her loved and protected with the obedience of God…

but I think i am not worth it… I have done too sins… and she, even she has not been a fairy, she has been some like a flower… I am someone like a frog who has seen itself in the mirror of the water an knows now how ugly he has been…

What I should do? I can try to become the knight of a princess? Or I must to be a good person and not to be near her?

The other boys are just like I was… I think that the most probably is that she would not find a prince… but I could be only his friend and help her to find him or, if God wants, to make she catholic… so a possible spouse of a good catholic young.

 

[Trishie]

Pray with King David, who committed adultery with the wife of one of his commanders, and then had him killed so he could marry the widow.
David repented, and God forgave him:

“Have mercy on me, O God in Your goodness,
in Your great tenderness, wipe away my faults;
wash me clean of my guilt,
purify me from my sin.

For I am well aware of my faults,
I have my sin constantly in mind,
having sinned against none other than You,
having done what You regard as wrong.

You are just when You pass sentence on me,
blameless when You give judgement.
You know I was born guilty,
a sinner from the moment of conception.

Yet since You love sincerity of heart,
teach me the secrets of wisdom.
Purify me with hyssop until I am clean;
wash me until I am whiter than snow.

Instil some joy and gladness into me,
let the bones You have rushed rejoice again.
Hide Your face from me sins,
wipe out all my guilt.

Be my saviour again, renew my joy,
keep my spirit steady and willing;
and I shall teach transgressors the way to You,
and sinners will return.

Save me from death, God my saviour,
and my tongue will acclaim Your righteousness;
Lord, open my lips,
and my mouth will speak out Your praise.

Sacrifice gives You no pleasure,
were I to offer holocaust, You would not have it.
My sacrifice is this broken spirit,
You will not scorn this crushed and broken heart.” (Psalm 51)

 

[Young_Thinker]

She sounds lovely. Unless there is much to it than what you have stated (if you are a serial killer, for instance!), I am sure that your past is not as dark as those of many other men (and remember that no one, save Christ and His Mother, is perfect), and you sound like you are willing to change. So, I would not miss out on the opportunity to find a wife like the girl you described.

 

[Young_Thinker]

…Just try not to be in total shock if she turns out to already have a boyfriend.