It should be quiet in church before Mass begins and after Mass is over

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Convert2013 said:
I said yes. However the Rosary being prayed prior to Mass is ok as someone else mentioned it should end a short time before Mass to allow folks to come in and kneel and pray and prepare themselves spiritually for Mass.

The children in our parish school at their Mass are quiet. That is grades k- 8. If they can do it and thatā€™s a few hundred children, then we as adults can do it. Sadly they will go to Mass on the weekend and get the bad example from the adults and think its ok. :rolleyes:

If I know that particular Mass is going to be noisy especially within the 5 min before Mass, I will simply go much earlier and enjoy the silence and pray. The added benefit of extra time with Jesus is awesome! šŸ™‚
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Side question:
Do people clam the kneelers at your parish? They do at ours, and it is grating! šŸ˜¦
 
Entering (or at least leaving) in silence gives people no opportunity to grow as a family and body if believers that we are.

I like it quiet entering but think unless itā€™s a special occasion (ex: Good Friday) that people should feel free to socialize afterward.
 
I voted yes, but I have to confess Iā€™ve violated my own rules many times. Mea culpa.
 
Indeed it should be quiet.

A couple months ago, I had just gone to Confession at a neighboring parish shortly before Mass and when I got back to my pew to start saying my penance, a bunch of the people behind me were talking about taxes and lawn care. Not even kidding! At my regular parish, it is completely silent before Mass and most people go outside to talk after Mass. I find it wonderful. It makes it lots easier to focus on conversing with the Lord. :o

EDIT: If anyone here likes Fr. Z, he has something to say about itā€¦just canā€™t remember the name of the post. :ouch:
 
Jon_S said:
Entering (or at least leaving) in silence gives people no opportunity to grow as a family and body if believers that we are.

I like it quiet entering but think unless itā€™s a special occasion (ex: Good Friday) that people should feel free to socialize afterward.
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I thought they meant while people are still there praying post Mass. You pretty much would be really rude if you didnā€™t speak or greet someone on the way out.
 
Graubo3 said:
šŸ‘ I donā€™t care anymore, even the crying baby, whining toddler, loud talking deaf old man, or the hacking old lady.šŸ˜‰
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Oh, the old deaf guy! He screams everything in the quiet church after Massā€¦

ā€œYEAH, Iā€™M GONNA GO TO THE MENā€™S ROOM AND Iā€™LL MEET YOU AT THE CAR.ā€

ā€œNO, I DONā€™T WANT PANCAKES. LETS JUST GO FOR COFFEE.ā€

"WHAT? ā€œWHAT? WHAT DOES WORK HAVE TO DO WITH ANYTHING? WHAT?ā€

I hope thatā€™s me someday. šŸ˜ƒ

-Tim-
 
TimothyH said:
Oh, the old deaf guy! He screams everything in the quiet church after Massā€¦

ā€œYEAH, Iā€™M GONNA GO TO THE MENā€™S ROOM AND Iā€™LL MEET YOU AT THE CAR.ā€

ā€œNO, I DONā€™T WANT PANCAKES. LETS JUST GO FOR COFFEE.ā€

"WHAT? ā€œWHAT? WHAT DOES WORK HAVE TO DO WITH ANYTHING? WHAT?ā€

I hope thatā€™s me someday. šŸ˜ƒ

-Tim-
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:rotfl:
 
I would be a nervous wreck going to church with most of the people who are responding.

I would be afraid to breathe, cough, afraid the church bench would creek, etc.:eek:
 
coachdennis said:
I would be a nervous wreck going to church with most of the people who are responding.

I would be afraid to breathe, cough, afraid the church bench would creek, etc.:eek
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People are responding and referring to the total lack of understanding that there is a difference between the inside and the outside of the church.
Not basic common sense, or basic cordiality. šŸ¤·
Maybe itā€™s not so bad where you areā€¦but in many places, itā€™s really bad.
 
pianistclare said:
People are responding and referring to the total lack of understanding that there is a difference between the inside and the outside of the church.
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Although one question I posed that no oneā€™s addressed:

What if itā€™s not in a church? What if itā€™s at an ecumenical chapel at a summer camp? Or what if your Newman Center is undergoing renovations, and itā€™s in the Union Ballroom instead?
 
TimothyH said:
It should be quiet but here in Georgia **we havenā€™t been able to get the locomotive engineers to comply. **
Same thing with the pilots over Queens, I guess. šŸ¤·

-Tim-
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Oh, yeah! We have a railroad line right thru the middle of town, a block from the church, and every at-grade crossing gets the mandatory two longs, a short, and a long. Some engineers just love to make that sequence last as long as they can.
 
tafan said:
Yes on both counts: people should be able to pray in silence to prepare for mass and after mass. And it should be silent so more people are encouraged to do so. Before mass, everyone needs to pray and do an examination of conscience as part of the preparation. After mass, many people like to pray also, since they have just received the communion.

I am not one of these who say no one should ever talk in church, but before mass and after mass: quiet. Definitely.
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DaveBj said:
Oh, yeah! We have a railroad line right thru the middle of town, a block from the church, and every at-grade crossing gets the mandatory two longs, a short, and a long. Some engineers just love to make that sequence last as long as they can.
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Our parish is near the quarry. Imagine the BLAST after a particularly stirring homily! šŸ‘
 
Razanir said:
Although one question I posed that no oneā€™s addressed:

What if itā€™s not in a church? What if itā€™s at an ecumenical chapel at a summer camp? Or what if your Newman Center is undergoing renovations, and itā€™s in the Union Ballroom instead?
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Well, in those cases, people would easily forget where they are, no?
Perhaps a word from the pulpit would be helpful. But if people see the place as more secular than their parish, itā€™s going to be a hard one to enforce. Even though the Holy Sacrifice of the Mass has just taken place. Good questionā€¦People still a bit of peace to prayā€¦either way. Itā€™s really a matter of respecting and recognizing private prayer in the pew. (or chairs.) šŸ™‚
 
I do like silence so I can pray before Mass and prepare myself, but I can take people talking and whispering around me, etc. What irks me is when thereā€™s a ā€œnew songā€ that the choir wants to teach the assembly (seriously - if youā€™re musically inclined, you can sight read. If youā€™re the 99% of people who donā€™t sing anyway at Mass, you donā€™t care anyway) or when someone (usually also the cantor from the choir) asks people to ā€œgreet each otherā€ before Mass. After Mass, though, I donā€™t mind talking.
 
Razanir said:
Although one question I posed that no oneā€™s addressed:

What if itā€™s not in a church? What if itā€™s at an ecumenical chapel at a summer camp? Or what if your Newman Center is undergoing renovations, and itā€™s in the Union Ballroom instead?
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Before Mass, yes, should still be quiet. But I do think this is a little different because there is no Tabernacle. The main reason for quiet after is to give thanksgiving and out of respect for people who are trying to pray in Adoration to God who is inside the Tabernacle. When you attend a Mass without a Tabernacle, you will not have people praying in Adoration to the Blessed Sacrament after Mass. However, people should still be respectful to others who might be sitting and praying after Mass

This one Church in Center City, Philadelphia does it right I thinkā€¦ they have Adoration in the Daily Mass Chapel all day before and after each Mass. So you must be quiet when entering and leaving. After the last Mass there is Rosary every day and some days a devotion to a Saint.

Only if more would do this on Sundays! šŸ™‚

NOTE: No one is saying you canā€™t talk in the lobby and of course there will be a little noise as a few hundred people all leave at the same time. But thatā€™s not the same thing as simply hanging round the pews and chatting away after Mass.

God Bless
 
I voted for the quiet but it will not happen in our church because two people publicly and proudly stated that they knew they disturbed others but didnā€™t care and would not stop talking before, during and after mass. They (along with family and friends) happily attend mass in splendid isolation (empty pews in front and behind). It is so sad that they do not understand that whilst they consider themselves faithful devout mainstays of the church, many simply see them as the exact opposite because of their behavior and they are setting a poor example for their children. Mass without them is beautiful and so reverent, but God brought our community of sinners together, so I keep praying for them (and of course, for help overcoming any bad behavior and attitudes that I am blind to).
 
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