It's getting difficult again, i don't know what to do

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You’ve received great feedback already, but one phrase I like to utter the instant temptation hits (for me its alcohol) is the one Jesus used with Peter “devil get behind me”. Remind yourself that the devil wants your soul and you must fight the temptation at first thought.
 
You have received so much good spiritual advice that I will throw in some psychology! We are sexual beings, but even many “liberal” psychologists do not believe that masturbation is healthy in itself, over time. Masturbation is not the way that the mature, healthy sexual being is meant to express that sexuality. Some would then argue that multiple partner sex is perfectly okay whereas we would talk about marriage, but very few people would make the argument that masturbation should be a way of life. When it becomes a way of life, you can remind yourself that both faithful and secular people often agree that it is a problem, and you can encourage yourself to be open to correcting it. Talking about this openly is a strong start!
 
It is amazing that so many people have knowledge of the tools to fight this form of evil. It all comes down to prayer doesnt it?

In my voyage back from the dead, with sexuality literally keeping me down, I honestly believe that the Blessed Mother took me by the collar and drug me kicking and screaming back to life. Two things that I attribute as her means are 1. A couple of visits to Conyers, Ga., and the 4 volumes of the “City of God” by Sister Mary of Agreda, written in the 17th century.

I have said time and again that Catholic Answers should refer this material to all. This book will change anyone who reads it. I cant even get close to describing it. It covers the entire life of Our Holy Mother from her Immaculate Conception through her life and up to Her crowning as Queen of Heaven.

This was given to Mary of Agreda through inner locutions from God the Father and our Holy Mother, impriniteured by Popes and Bishops of those time and after. I would go so far as to say that reading this book would make the early Fathers sit back and say “wow I dont have to write anything cause here it is”

Have any of you read it? Email me if you have and give me your opinion.
 
AMEN!

I have the Abridged Version of Venerable Agredas book…its a MASTERWORK of visionary revelation… I always recommend it. Many dont realize it, but Mel Gibson ALSO used her visions as well as Anne Emmerichs to “fill out” the details in his movie… it does nothing short of bring the Rosary Mysteries to LIFE when meditating on them! I love Mystical Theology and this is THE BOOK to get for anyone like minded in this great mystery. 🙂
 
I would strongly discourage any use of insights from psychology in trying to overcome this problem. Psychology is an attempt to redefine spiritual problems in purely secular terms. Psychology may occasionally be helpful but it is very damaging overall, to social relations, and in its metaphysics. It is full of misleading conclusions and theories: no doubt some psychologists encourage masturbation. What value the world if you lose your soul? Some psychologists are god-friendly in that they’ll be “supportive” of your god fetish: in the work of the psychologist, the secular science comes first, and makes an allowance for your superstition. This is all wrong. We really don’t need psychology. God has given us His Church and His sacraments.

Regarding Venerable Mary of Agreda, Solange Hertz refers to her visions in Beyond Politics. (*)
 
I would strongly discourage any use of insights from psychology in trying to overcome this problem. Psychology is an attempt to redefine spiritual problems in purely secular terms. Psychology may occasionally be helpful but it is very damaging overall, to social relations, and in its metaphysics. It is full of misleading conclusions and theories: no doubt some psychologists encourage masturbation. What value the world if you lose your soul? Some psychologists are god-friendly in that they’ll be “supportive” of your god fetish: in the work of the psychologist, the secular science comes first, and makes an allowance for your superstition. This is all wrong. We really don’t need psychology. God has given us His Church and His sacraments.
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Do you have experience in this area? (I do ) :tsktsk: With some psy doctors, you just have to tell them what you want to do. If they don’t listen then find one who will. I think some might benifit from a *small dose *of prozac or zoloft. There are other alternative meds as well. These 2 meds will, in most people, cause a decrease in sexual urges. Your family doctor can also percribe these meds.
 
All of the previous have given excellent advice. I want to add one item: a book I picked off my bookshelf to read this week. “Theology of the Body for Beginners” by Christopher West. This is a basic introduction into Pope JPII’s 129 short talks on the meaning of our sexuality and our bodies in the spiritual realm. I’m only about one third finished, but have found it fascinating. Good luck, and God bless. I will pray for you again today.
 
RomanRyan1088,

In case you don’t have time to read four volumes of deep visionary insight, I would highly recommend reading Jason Evert’s 32 page pamphlet on purity entitled “Pure Love.” The book is written in a Q&A format, and although it’s an easy read (I can get through the whole thing in about twenty minutes), it’s very motivational. In the little section on pornography, he talks about why porn “is the perfect way to ruin your future marriage” and how soft porn can lead to worse and worse sins. Evert writes, “Pope John Paul II has said that the problem with pornography is not that it shows too much, but that it shows too little. Pornographic images reduce the person to body parts, and nothing else.” Women are NOT objects to be used for pleasure, THEY HAVE SOULS (even porn stars)!!!

A friend of mine always says, “Whatever you put in the ‘box’ is all that can and will come back out.” Meaning, what you put in your mind is what’s going to dictate the way you behave. Once you have those images burned in your head, it’s going to become extremely difficult to forget them, and they will most likely have an influence on the way treat women in the future. It’s a disservice to you, your future wife, and women in general to engage in pornographic activity.

Also, remembering that God is right there watching, and, on judgment day, every single thing we do will be evaluated by Him always helps me to avoid sin. Saying a Hail Mary during times of temptation is good too: the Blessed Mother and Satan just can’t be occupying the same space. Either appealing to Mary will expel the devil, or shutting her out will keep Satan in.

Other than that, all I can say is: WEEKLY CONFESSION & CONSTANT PRAYER!! I go to confession as often as I can, and am trying to get my prayer life back in order. It used to annoy me when people would advise me to pray about something; it seemed so pointless, but I’ve found that the more I pray, the easier it becomes, and the more I can talk to God as if He were my best friend.

Well, I’ll be praying for you that you can over come these temptations, erase the memories of your old sins, and become a gentleman modeled after Christ.

God bless you!!

~Irish Catholic
 
One idea: use a parental control program , like CyberSitter to keep these sites from being accessable. You will have control over setting up the password, but you can create a random passwork, and then “throw it away”. This will make it much more difficult to access these sites.

Good luck

Jon
 
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