It's ok to think you are a good person?

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After reviewing my most recent college transcripts, I almost a straight-A student. While I do think it is important to correct your flaws and stay humble. I do not understand why I beat myself up excessively if I am clearly doing well. Instead all I talk about is my failures and always feel like I am not good enough. I recently received my employment review my employer said I was outstanding. I did not believe him. As I am beginning to look my life, YES I AM NOT PERFECT, but I am not worst human to walk the Earth. I think every now and then it is important for Christians to forgive themselves a break and celebrate their good qualities. Maybe this will touch someone - for those of you who have a habit of only talking about your bad qualities - that is what others will notice to, not just that you will never feel happy even when you do succeed. I recently confessed to a priest, even he told me I was a good person.
 
After reviewing my most recent college transcripts, I almost a straight-A student. While I do think it is important to correct your flaws and stay humble. I do not understand why I beat myself up excessively if I am clearly doing well. Instead all I talk about is my failures and always feel like I am not good enough. I recently received my employment review my employer said I was outstanding. I did not believe him. As I am beginning to look my life, YES I AM NOT PERFECT, but I am not worst human to walk the Earth. I think every now and then it is important for Christians to forgive themselves a break and celebrate their good qualities. Maybe this will touch someone - for those of you who have a habit of only talking about your bad qualities - that is what others will notice to, not just that you will never feel happy even when you do succeed. I recently confessed to a priest, even he told me I was a good person.
You should be proud that you are doing well in your studies. Self discipline.tenacity,and the pursuit of knowledge are virtues. Humility is also a virtue but I do not think it extends to your believing you are not a good person.

No one is perfect so do not ever beat yourself up over minor or even major failings.We may fall but we can get back up again,go to Confession,and continue on our journey home.
 
Well done on your grades, that’s an achievement. If we don’t judge ourselves in some way, we won’t know if we are making progress as a person, both in our accomplishments and our spiritual growth.
 
After reviewing my most recent college transcripts, I almost a straight-A student. While I do think it is important to correct your flaws and stay humble. I do not understand why I beat myself up excessively if I am clearly doing well. Instead all I talk about is my failures and always feel like I am not good enough. I recently received my employment review my employer said I was outstanding. I did not believe him. As I am beginning to look my life, YES I AM NOT PERFECT, but I am not worst human to walk the Earth. I think every now and then it is important for Christians to forgive themselves a break and celebrate their good qualities. Maybe this will touch someone - for those of you who have a habit of only talking about your bad qualities - that is what others will notice to, not just that you will never feel happy even when you do succeed. I recently confessed to a priest, even he told me I was a good person.
I am a “straight A” student as well, even in the courses I did not like (philosophy and math). However, the more I learn, the more I realize how much I still have to learn.

I think we need to take stock of ourselves now and then to see how we’re progressing or not progressing, and I think it’s fine to acknowledge that you’ve made progress in certain areas or that you are becoming a better person. I think the key is to remain humble, and you seem to be doing that.

Good luck and congratulations on a job well done.
 
Forgive me, but to humble yourself and to think you are not a good person because you’re not perfect is not the same - to me. There is a difference between being good and being perfect.
And I think it is OK to think you’re a good person, that doesn’t make you less humble, does it? Remember, you are created in the image of God! That’s a good thing, isn’t it?
 
Forgive me, but to humble yourself and to think you are not a good person because you’re not perfect is not the same - to me. There is a difference between being good and being perfect.
And I think it is OK to think you’re a good person, that doesn’t make you less humble, does it? Remember, you are created in the image of God! That’s a good thing, isn’t it?
I think it’s fine to realize the good one has done, but if one does not retain some sense of humility, I think the person runs the risk of losing humility. We can be happy about our good points and achievements, but also remember that we are not perfect and will sin again and will make future mistakes, etc.

Yes, to be created in the image of God is something to be joyful about, however we lack God’s perfection. We have to be vigilant and constantly strive for that perfection. I do think being “down” on oneself, and failing to recognize the good one does is bad as well. It would give us a warped view of ourselves. We just have to be careful and keep pride out of the picture.
 
Gauging from your earlier posts in addition to this one, it appears you are trying to normalize internal emotions using external guideposts. It doesn’t have a good track record for success. It can have certain benefits as you described; by trying to quell your internal negative feelings you work hard and receive worldly affirmation and positive results.

What you are describing as lacking though, is the inability to fill the God shaped hole within your spirit. Only God can fill that and seeking Him is the way to get it. (“I have come that you may life and have it fully” John 10:10). Inevitably getting the hole filled is done by drawing closer to God, and you will find He will draw near to you.

There are many paths to draw nearer. Some support groups helping people heal from difficult pasts such as ACA can help, Ignation (St. Ignatious) retreats and groups can help, Unbound deliverance retreats, or joining an apostolate such as Opus Dei and working their spiritual program for living can help.

The common factor is going back and investigating where in your life those feelings of inadequacy were planted (almost always in childhood) and “re-processing” them as an adult to remove their power over you. Find a path which is in accord with, or at least not against, Christian beliefs and use it.

Good luck in your journey.
 
God wants us to be self-confident. He wants us to do the best with the talents and abilities he has endowed each of us with. That is how we build a better world. We must always give Him the credit and thank Him for what we can do through Him. You have been blessed indeed.
 
Given that our Lord himself, who can neither deceive nor be deceived, said that there is none good but God, I would be extremely wary of calling myself a good person.
 
Humility is truth, and that means recognizing the bad *and the good *in yourself. It’s also especially the recognition of the relationship between you and God. That is why we often hear people and saints proclaim that they are sinners. Humility allows them to be aware of how weak and prone to sin they are without God.

But like I said, it’s also admitting the good. If a person works hard at playing the piano and is talented with it, it’s not humility to say, “No. I suck.” That’s false. Not true. Granted, some people might say that because they have low-self esteem, but that’s also a lack of humility… Humility shows us exactly who we are. We’re not just evil beings. We’re worth so much in the eyes of God that He sent His Son to die for our sins.

No we shouldn’t say we’re good people and that’s it. Neither should someone start thinking, “I’m bad… The end.” It’s never an either-or deal.

By the way, I’ve read a couple of your threads by now, and it seems you have a lot of internal struggles regarding judgement and forgiveness. Perhaps you already recognize it, but it appears your belief about your self permeates your outlook towards others and God. I hope you are able to find help to explore why that is and how it can be resolved since it’s a theme running through your posts.
 
Some understandings to analyze:

I believe that saints have many problems (one would be humility versus pride to some sense). Because when you are in Gods ways, wisdom will come, and this can give you pride in your ways, and you forget that your ways should be Gods ways. And that you do and have wisdom because of God, that is why they say to have fear of God (and keep that fear, but is the fear of losing His ways, losing Him, for He is the source). That is what we need to keep in the conscience. Because we want to be like gods, that’s how we were tempted (in original sin for example). The other problem would be to belittle something that is good, giving it a lower standard so that it is easier to achieve it. But if only God is good, what then do we think is the standard of good?

The point in my understanding is that God should be first in your life, because in the means that God is first, you will “know” Him and be able to “see” His attributes and act “like” Him. And in this way you will care, the way you Truly Care, for only then you will act caringly like it is suppose to be acted. When God is first, that is your standard.

You should never think you are not good enough though (as a person), for you as a person have been valued since your creation. The value of the person is not what is at stake, or should be at stake, as God paid a price, and you see that He believes that, that, is the price He should pay for His creation. But He wants you to see that and follow that standard. You see that He paid a price but not for Himself (egoism) but to save His creation. Wouldn’t you think that God is better than ourselves, as He is perfect, thinking like man think, but then why does He sacrifices when we kill Him undeservingly not even from the point of justice?

The perfection should be searched not for our own benefit, but for Gods ways, because Gods ways is done for something good, and something good is always based on others. So when you do good, you do good to others. (Love is opposite to egoism, they can never make terms with each other) .

It’s a difficult subject, but the point I think is not forgetting to keep your sight on God. There could be different approaches, and what you need to look for are the basic principles in them (those that are based on God). Maybe now that I am thinking on it, maybe “perfection” can be some sort of “balance”. Not about being perfect an imperfect and being satisfied in that, but in being imperfect and looking for perfection, and staying there (on the search, as that means you will be searching for God). In that balance there are many ways, and maybe if God is the principle in all of them, they can all be correct to some sense. Meaning that there are many ways of being holy, if the north is truly God in your ways. God will take you were He wants and not what you think He wants. For probably your thinking will be realistic and pragmatic.

Some thought: Maybe in our humility we see the drive to perfection. Meaning that in our weakness we see the need to search for God, for pureness. Then our weakness helps us keep our sight on God. Because if we were “pure”, we would probably think we were gods. And if we stay satisfied of not being pure we would continue being impure.
 
“18 An official asked him this question, “Good teacher, what must I do to inherit eternal life?” 19 Jesus answered him, "Why do you call me good? No one is good but God alone. 20 You know the commandments, 'You shall not commit adultery; you shall not kill; you shall not steal; you shall not bear false witness; honor your father and your mother.” 21 And he replied, “All of these I have observed from my youth.” 22 5 When Jesus heard this he said to him, “There is still one thing left for you: sell all that you have and distribute it to the poor, and you will have a treasure in heaven. Then come, follow me.” 23 But when he heard this he became quite sad, for he was very rich. 24 Jesus looked at him (now sad) and said, "How hard it is for those who have wealth to enter the kingdom of God! “Luke 18, 18-24

The problem of the man in my understanding was not about selling his possessions per-se. The point God wants us to see, is that goodness doesn’t end. Goodness doesn’t have a limit, you can aspire for it but you can never finish it, that’s Gods love. That’s why only God is good, well that’s how I understand it. (remember goodness is for others) We can never be fulfilled by our “goodness”, in a sense, as to be good doesn’t have a limit. We can never say, I have arrived, I am good. Another point we see maybe, is that maybe Jesus wanted the man to be a little more humble, for the man states he has done the commandments but he couldn’t pass from the first one, the most important one, to love God above everything. So maybe the point was just to let the man see that following God is a hard journey, were it lasts a lifetime.

This I write not to demoralize anyone, because I believe that it is hard for a reason, and in the means we have faith in Him, He will come to our aid. For why would love create His creation to suffer if He showed us that He was willing to die for us. We have “hope” at the “end”. Then I believe that the only reason for the steep climb is to keep hope and faith in Him and endure and persevere, for only in endurance and perseverance you will truly show the faith and hope you have in Him. (You will show how truly you believe in Him.)

Another thing is that be wary of dwelling in your imperfection without hope. You see the difference of being imperfect and searching and being imperfect and not seeing a way out? In this is what faith and Gods ways resides (I believe). In hoping and having faith in hope for God is love, faith and hope, that gives life. It gives life to our soul and spirit, for it gives strength to persevere and endure (to keep having faith).
 
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