I've been cruel to a teenage mother

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Ok, I am 16 years old (girl) and I’ve been cruel to a teenage mother.

Basically, I had this nickname on the internet, let’s say it was H, and she called the baby H. Now, when I heard that I got obsessed with her. I didn’t actually care about her and I didn’t think about the fact that it is probably traumatic to have a baby at the age of 16. I just wondered if she called her that because of how great I was. Anyway to cut a long story short, I was obsessed with her for several months and she eventually tried to befriend me in June. But I spent all the time completely showing off and not being in any way nice to her. A good word is, insensitive? I sort of behaved as if I was retarded because I just wanted her attention. I should have realized that SHE was the one that should be given support but I didn’t notice or care.😦

She didn’t contact me again after that one time in June. But I’ve still been just as obsessed with her ever since. The last time I saw her was 2 weeks ago. She drove past me and made eye contact just for a minute and her eyes told me, ‘you are disgusting.’ And I know she’s right and I can’t do anything about it. The thing is that when I had that ‘H’ nickname, H said a lot of stuff on the internet about anti-abortion and childbirth. But I was only looking for attention and all I cared about was how great I was. But she probably believed me and it meant so much to her she took the name. And now I can’t make it better for her. I don’t understand how it feels to have a baby; I know there is a lot of pain and blood. And it’s disgusting for me to treat her like this. Every day I want to make it better but I can’t. What should I do?
 
I assume you know where she lives. Can’t you write her a letter and apologize?
 
I think you have just learned that there are consequences for sin. I know you are sorry and want to make amends, but that doesn’t mean your relationship with this girl hasn’t been damaged beyond repair. If you know how to find her, make a simple, sincere, humble apology in person, if possible, and then leave it to her to take the next step. This is a hard lesson, but next time you will make better choices. 😊
 
Wow you sound so mean and that’s from your own perspective. You do get kudos for being so painfully honest about yourself. I would have never admitted anything like that about myself. I do have such a profound respect for you & others like yourself at any age to be so brutally honest with yourself. At my late age I am just beginning that journey.

Since you jumped the biggest hurdle…honesty with yourself, a simple, humble apology will probably be much easier than you imagine in your mind. Granted she may not accept it…but then again she may. You won’t know until you try and either way you will know you did the right thing and feel pretty good about it. And who knows this may be the beginning of a strong friendship.
 
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Ok, I am 16 years old (girl) and I’ve been cruel to a teenage mother.

Basically, I had this nickname on the internet, let’s say it was H, and she called the baby H. Now, when I heard that I got obsessed with her. I didn’t actually care about her and I didn’t think about the fact that it is probably traumatic to have a baby at the age of 16. I just wondered if she called her that because of how great I was. Anyway to cut a long story short, I was obsessed with her for several months and she eventually tried to befriend me in June. But I spent all the time completely showing off and not being in any way nice to her. A good word is, insensitive? I sort of behaved as if I was retarded because I just wanted her attention. I should have realized that SHE was the one that should be given support but I didn’t notice or care.😦

She didn’t contact me again after that one time in June. But I’ve still been just as obsessed with her ever since. The last time I saw her was 2 weeks ago. She drove past me and made eye contact just for a minute and her eyes told me, ‘you are disgusting.’ And I know she’s right and I can’t do anything about it. The thing is that when I had that ‘H’ nickname, H said a lot of stuff on the internet about anti-abortion and childbirth. But I was only looking for attention and all I cared about was how great I was. But she probably believed me and it meant so much to her she took the name. And now I can’t make it better for her. I don’t understand how it feels to have a baby; I know there is a lot of pain and blood. And it’s disgusting for me to treat her like this. Every day I want to make it better but I can’t. What should I do?
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What do you mean when you say you are obsessed with her?
 
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