Ive commited mortal sin and cant take communion but my parents will know

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While what you say is of course true, I think the problem is that not receiving communion or the OP saying that they need to go to confession prompts questions (or at least speculation) on the part of their parents along the lines of “what did you do” an saying “I don’t want to tell you” is only going to make things worse.
 
Thank you for explaining, but I’m aware of what will probably happen haha. That being said, the reason I say this is because I think it’s detrimental to a lot of people’s faith life to try to keep a persona of “I’m ok, everything is ok, I’m a perfect little angel,” which I think leads to people (like myself) trying to hide their sins instead of outright confessing them and mortally sinning by taking communion immorally (like me) for years on end, until you finally have some privacy.

I think we have to respect each other for our human nature, people screw up, but it doesn’t mean people have to know every little thing about you. Would you want to tell your parents every little or big sin you’ve ever committed? Yeah, me neither! Lol
 
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I heard a priest say what to do in this case. Eat something less that an hour before communion. Catholics are supposed to fast for an hour before communion. A previous poster mentioned this method when he said eat a candy bar before mass.
 
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TheIttyBitty said:
Your parents should not ask what you confessed, but you aren’t obligated to share what sin(s) no matter what.
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My parents frequently asked what I confessed. It was one of the only points in my early life I felt comfortable telling them no. Didn’t stop the lecture that followed: “I need to be minding your spiritual state.”

Took me twenty years to understand how toxic they were.
 
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That’s a weird deception. Again, why can’t the OP examine their conscience and count on their parents to help them have access to the sacrament? It’s not embarrassing. They don’t get to know the sin.
If I asked my kid why they needed to go to confession I honestly think they would jokingly say, “ murderous thoughts about my parents”. Then I’d shut up and drive them to confession while never sleeping again!!
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This is not a weird deception. It is in fact the truth. It would be a weird deception if he did not eat anything, but if he did, it renders him ineligible for Communion, and allows him to truthfully give that reason for not receiving.

This was a major advantage of the old three-hour fast. If one had a private reason for not approaching Communion, he could drink coffee or take a candy to break the fast, then he had a valid, non-embarrassing reason for the busybodies.

Ideally, any decent Catholic should never ask, no matter the relationship (1) why you’re not going to Communion and (2) why you need to go to Confession. But we know that not all Catholics can mind their own business in these matters.
 
It’s deception if you plan to sabotage the sacrament by purposely eating beforehand. If the OP was going to take a drug test, knew he would fail and contaminated the specimen it would be deception.
 
People have different parents true. Which is why we probably should not give any advice at all to minors regarding their parents or their faith of which the parents are responsible for. Not people on an online forum.
 
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It’s deception if you plan to sabotage the sacrament by purposely eating beforehand. If the OP was going to take a drug test, knew he would fail and contaminated the specimen it would be deception.
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No! The sacrament was already sabotaged by the mortal sin, and this is not a drug test. He is unable to receive Communion. If he eats something, it does no further harm, and he has a legitimate reason to tell the nosy family members.

There is absolutely no deception here. “I ate something” would be the truth and a perfectly valid thing to tell his parents. Because eating something does make him ineligible to receive Communion. He is absolutely not obligated to tell “I have mortal sin.”
 
Sebastian04 said:
Me and my parents go to mass daily and if my parents see me not recieve communion they will ask me what I did and I really wish I can keep my sin between me and my future confessor.
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Sorry you’re in this situation. The other posters are right that your striving with sins is no one else’s business and it’s wrong for them to want to know.

You don’t even have to admit that you committed a sin. You can simply say, “There are some things I want to talk over with a priest.” If they say “What are they?” (and they shouldn’t), you can simply repeat “Just some things I’m going to talk over with him.” Or politely say: “Our faith doesn’t obligate me to talk about it with anyone else”
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My parents frequently asked what I confessed. It was one of the only points in my early life I felt comfortable telling them no. Didn’t stop the lecture that followed: “I need to be minding your spiritual state.”
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Yikes. You were right - they were wrong.
 
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Yes! It’s deceptive to the parents who could now surmise their kid sabotages the sacrament. Either way I don’t feel comfortable offering advice to a minor on how to keep something from his parents. Is this CA policy? It would be dangerous for my kids to be on this site. I can’t imagine it’s wise.
 
redcatholic said:
Yes! It’s deceptive to the parents who could now surmise their kid sabotages the sacrament. Either way I don’t feel comfortable offering advice to a minor on how to keep something from his parents. Is this CA policy? It would be dangerous for my kids to be on this site. I can’t imagine it’s w
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I agree with you, red. Eating something with the sole purpose of being able to give a reason for not being able to receive Communion is deception

And I can imagine the parents being cross, too, or upset, and asking why he did so, why such a lack of respect - in other words, a row.

Very bad advice.
 
redcatholic said:
Yes! It’s deceptive to the parents who could now surmise their kid sabotages the sacrament. Either way I don’t feel comfortable offering advice to a minor on how to keep something from his parents. Is this CA policy? It would be dangerous for my kids to be on this site. I can’t imagine it’s wise.
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Now you’ve caught on to something.

This site is not a good place for minors, and that should have been obvious. Heck, it’s barely a good site for adults, much less children. But this really holds true for any discussion forum on the Internet, where you get a multiplicity of various opinions. Of course you don’t let kids on this site unsupervised.

CAF is not quite the same as CA. Catholic Answers, while owning this site, does not actually police its content. If you want solid, vetted advice, you go to the main site, not the forums. The forums are just that, forums.

I am of the camp that strongly believes that no minor should ever be allowed on these forums, but the minimum age, I believe, is still 13. I think that’s a mistake, but I don’t make the rules. Nonetheless, we see too much of what happens when kids post here.

You would be indeed wise to keep your children off here. You are the primary teacher of the Catholic faith to your kids, not this site.
 
The bonus of your parents seeing that you aren’t going up for communion is that it’s a bit embarrassing (you’ll get over that. People don’t go up and we can assume they had a snack before) so you can offer that tweak of embarrassment as part of your penance.

It also shows a growth in maturity to do the right thing even if it will cause you some discomfort. It has the same effect of lifting weights to get stronger. If an action is a bit tough and you push through anyway, it strengthens your character and your ability to say no to things you should say no to.
 
The best thing would be if you could go to Confession before Mass. You can ask the priest to hear your Confession before Mass, and many will.
 
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