Thanks again for all your (name removed by moderator)ut!
My boyfriend and I talked about it and I just got terribly upset. I cried. I wish I could express myself as well as you guys. I don’t think I deliver the answers to him effectively, because my emotions would always get the best of me. I also feel bad at the same time for my actions towards him and the way I try to initiate the topic of religion, because I don’t want to seem like I’m being forceful (nagging) to start argument or fight between us.
I hear mass every Sunday and there are times that I long for him to be there with me. It’s my dream to someday have a family of my own that goes to church together like I do with my parents. We have also discussed this and he said that was also the case for him. He is the only in his whole family that attends his church. His parents attend to a different one.
Anyway, let me tell you a little bit of his background information. He was actually baptized as roman catholic, but he was never confirmed because his parents (also baptized, confirmed, married as catholics) converted to baptist when he was 4 or 5 years old. My boyfriend also attended a private roman catholic school all throughout grade school and highschool days!! This is a school where students must pass the religion class in order to graduate. He did it all…learned to recite Our Father, Hail Mary and he still knows them to this day!
Sometimes, I think it’s harder for him to revert back to Catholicism (in his case) because he spent years in a catholic school. Yet, he didn’t believe. One thing he said to me was that…yes his parents also came from the catholic church, but they had some questions about the religion and they “found” the answers through the baptist way of teaching. They did something about it and he trust his parents.
I also want to add that when we were talking about religion, he admitted that he is not knowledgeable with the scriptures as he used to be. He hasn’t attended a bible study for a long time. Because of this, he is hesitant to discuss religion with me. I told him that I can find answers to all his questions about catholicism. I even suggested that I can take him to a priest. His questions by the way are your usual common questions you hear from protestants… why pray the rosary, why pray to the saints, why do you put the Pope in a pedestal, why confess your sins…etc.
One thing that you should also know is that I remember him telling me before that there’s not much diffrence between us, just the “traditions”. That’s how he put it. He said that he grows spiritually in his own church because he can talk to his pastor like a friend and not like a priest where people seem to put them on a pedestal and the priest acts like they are higher class of people. He said that he prays directly to God and doesn’t have to go through anybody.
Wow, my post has gotten long already and I feel like there’s more to say. I wonder what you guys think so far. My boyfriend is a really good guy. During our 2 years together, I never felt that he has tried to convert me to be a baptist. He is not vocal as I am. I have actually told him once or twice before to convert back to catholic, but took my words back as I know it has to come from his heart and decide for himself.
Please pray for us.
