'John's' Mountain Chalet

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Alright ladies, so if you all recall, I had pretty much written off ‘Joe’ as a prospect, even though he’s more physically attractive, and an on and off again practising Catholic. So, ‘John’ was clued in to my skiing habits, and he ‘ran in’ to me at the lodge at the nearby ski resort. I had my two girls with me who are 9 and 11. So, we all were able to ski together and then of course he wanted to show us his chalet.

As you may recall, John is a pharmacist, very respectable, somewhat overweight, not practising Catholic, and very financially secure. Now, I was very impressed by his chalet, it’s very nice, and my girls were pleased. I really like the way he interacted with them. My feeling is that he would be indulgent towards them, which would probably be a positive thing for these fatherless children whose own father died when they were 3 and 1.

On talking to John I found him mild mannered, very interested in telling me about his chalet and how he decorated it, inoffensive, and slightly dull. He is middle of the road politically, and it really sounds like he needs a wife to do stuff with. He loves skiing, and was definately impressed by my fast skiing. As far as physical attractiveness, I think that I would be attracted enough to him to fullfill that aspect of married life.

The positives of him would be that I believe being married to him would make our lives very secure with lots of luxerious perks. I think he would be an indulgent, undemanding father figure for my daughters, and I believe he is a conservative solid citizen who is respectable and predictable. Also, his one son is safely tucked away in college studying to be a pilot.

What do you all think?
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Ask him to attend Mass with you and your girls.
 
when my mom was a young woman, she dated a lot of guys outside of the church. her last relationship before meeting my dad broke up over religous differences that could not be settled. I think he was Luthran. anyway, after several dates with my dad who was not even a baptized Christian, my mom decided to sit down and have a talk with him about her faith. She didn’t want to fall in love again and get her heart broken over the same thing! she had never hidden it and dad knew she was catholic and had, I think maybe, gone to mass with her a time or two (he lived in OH and she lived in IL, so he would come to see her on the weekends and she wouldn’t skip mass for him and she made him stay in a hotel) anyway, he called her every other night faithful at exactly 7. so one night, she decided this was the night to have the “talk” when he called, she said, “Barry, I need to talk to you about something” dad said, “I need to talk to you too and I’m going first (tipical of my dad LOL). I just want you to know that I signed up for RCIA today!” (or what ever they called it in the 60’s) anyway, my point is this, trust God and DON’T sacrafice your faith in any way! You will be rewarded for it. I really believe that. I don’t see anything wrong with going out on a date with this man, but as an early poster said, let him ask you. I think that’s important even if most liberal femonests don’t. When you do go out, talk about your faith with him. don’t make it the center of conversation, but it should come up. make sure he knows you are Catholic and proud of it! and after a date or two, invite him to mass if it feels right. I wouldn’t take him with the girls though. I really feel strongly about not letting your children meet every guy you date. it’s not a good idea until it gets serious. but that’s just my opinion. but if he is open to going to mass with you, go and then go out for breakfast or lunch or whatever and talk about the mass. get his opinion on it. maybe he’s been to mass before if he’s got itilian family. you said he’s kind of a “middle of the road” guy. he just might be open to it though and once he got into it, he may love it. that’s all pure speculation thoug. but you will never know what kind of a guy he is on the inside unless you go out with him. if you have a desire to get to know him better, than by all means do so. once you do, you’ll have a better idea who he is on the inside. it’s easier to find out someone is a scum bag while dating, than to marry him and find out he’s a scum bag later.
hope this helps some
ps my mom and dad were married for 33 years before my dad died. God rewarded my mother with 8 children and a million memories of a loving, faithful husband for her obediance to Christ. Don’t compramize your faith!!!
 
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