Join us--wear a head covering to Mass Oct 2

  • Thread starter Thread starter Forest-Pine
  • Start date Start date
Status
Not open for further replies.
40.png
Forest-Pine:
Some of those are REALLY cute! And my guess would be that younger girls and women could pull off the more modern fashions without drawing attention to themselves.

My mother is an avid sewer. My little sis always took a liking to it and does a great job. It was my punishment–no joke. Sis would have to read aloud (she hated) while I had to crochet or sew (I hated). We both so wished to trade places. All I remember of crocheting is how to chain stitch using my fingers…

Now my husband is a fantastic sewer. He likes the precision part. I like the planning and choosing fabrics part! (We have quite a large “stash” between us!)
Click to expand...
That is soooo funny!
I crochet because my mom and my sisters sewed. I never had to.
Now living so far away from them, I regret my decision.

One of our ladies at church in her early forties wears those 20’s style hats every week.
She looks great! (it actually started with chemo and she has continued after her hair grew back)
 
40.png
rcn:
What exactly is the point of this proposed event?

Is it some sort of attempt to show “Feminine unity”? No, it can’t be that… feminism is a bad thing, after all.

Is it an opportunity to draw attention to one’s self? Convince me that it is not.

A way to demonstrate an independence from what the Church teaches? Remember, the church does not request this, and has not for many years.

You may (and probably will) label this as an “attack”. But I will say (yet again) that it is not… just another attempt to try to get someone to PLEASE explain their motivations. Which no one has done during any of the recent bicker-fests.

Again, there is NO hostile intent. So if you choose to blow up over these questions… if you decide to lapse into the unjustified “oh, why does everyone scorn and attack us” mode of self-pity… well then, the responsibility lies with you.
Click to expand...
Dear rcn,
Perhaps your focus is too much on the fact that the Church no longer requires the head coverings. That it is no longer mandatory does not mean it is not allowed or acceptable. It is simply a practice that some women feel God is calling them to.

And in all my observations, it is a practice of humility before God. Nothing more, nothing less. We all have to humble ourselves before God. He just calls us to do it in different ways.
 
"So why don’t we try it together and see what happens?"

See?
Now there it sounds like a test of some sort, but who are you testing?
What are you looking for?
What is your hypothesis?
Do you expect welcoming looks or scornful looks?
After the 2nd are you going to start posting your observations?
Why?
Will you be criticizing those who gave you the lifted eyebrow?
Will you be praising those who welcomed you?
What truly is the point of the experiment?
 
40.png
Forest-Pine:
We will be answering to God and not to man. Thanks for your concern YingYangMom. Have a good day!

http://smileys.smileycentral.com/cat/16/16_6_1v.gif
Click to expand...
Oh, so you’re looking for something spiritual to come out of it?
and so there will be follow up posts discussing how the wearing of the veil improved the Mass experience for the wearer?
and there won’t be any posts about being recieved rudely or the like.

That would be cool.
 
40.png
YinYangMom:
That would be cool.
Click to expand...
Thanks for your support of our wearing a head covering! It is greatly appreciated!
:tiphat: Forest-Pine
 
While I am here, I had another idea. I’ve put a call in to our youth group leader to see if the youth would like to join us.

And I found this cute throw blanket:
http://www.littleafrica.com/blankets/images/2864TU4.jpg
Church Hats
**Part No **2864TU4100% Cotton Ultraweave Coverlet
48" x 60"
Attending church requires just the right hat. This unique coverlet design offers a varied selection of original creations from which to choose.
 
Forest-Pine said:
Thanks for your support of our wearing a head covering! It is greatly appreciated!

:tiphat: Forest-Pine
Click to expand...

No prob.

I look forward to reading the follow up posts highlighting the spiritual enhancements you all experienced.
 
40.png
YinYangMom:
No prob.

I look forward to reading the follow up posts highlighting the spiritual enhancements you all experienced.
Click to expand...
YingYang,
We are not here for you, but for each other. If we get nasty comments, it is part of our experience and will most likely cause fear, frustration, embarrasment, etc–the very things that have kept us from wearing anything to date. I have hope that we will not, any of us, and our fears will prove to be all for naught. Even still, some might not be able to focus on interior feelings being so fearful of people just such as you. That would be their experience and I would expect to hear that.

To use Bear’s previous example, I am sure some people standing on the street corner protesting abortion (something allowed, not required, and some are called to), that some of those people would be fearful the first time they did it. To tell them that they are only allowed to talk of their spiritual self and remove the physical from any subsequent discussion is ridiculous.

For you to presume to dictate what will or will not be acceptable on our thread is presumptious (at best). Please start your own if you feel a need to discuss other topics.
 
40.png
Forest-Pine:
some might not be able to focus on interior feelings being so fearful of people just such as you. That would be their experience and I would expect to hear that.

For you to presume to dictate what will or will not be acceptable on our thread is presumptious (at best). Please start your own if you feel a need to discuss other topics.
Click to expand...
???
You have nothing to fear from me, ever.
Why does asking questions in order to gain an understanding make me someone to be feared?

I’m not presuming to dictate anything. Your thread is intended to be upbeat and positive, you so stated that. Is it presumptious of me, then, to expect to read positive, upbeat posts after the said event?

I’m not discussing any other topic. I’m specifically asking questions about wearing a head covering on October 2nd. If I post my questions on a different thread how would I get an answer from the ladies who are wearing head coverings on Oct 2nd?

By the way, I get the message and will stop posting here. I get that I’m not welcome among such humble women.
 
40.png
YinYangMom:
Why does asking questions in order to gain an understanding make me someone to be feared?

I’m specifically asking questions about wearing a head covering on October 2nd. If I post my questions on a different thread how would I get an answer from the ladies who are wearing head coverings on Oct 2nd?
Click to expand...
Why is not up for discussion. Arguing motives is not the topic. Please do not continue in this vain. This is a thread for women who would like to wear a head covering and anyone who wants to put in some supportive words. Why was covered at length and you had your say in the other thread. We do not need to answer why and no one is obligated to do so. If they feel a tug to join us, this is the place. Please stop now.

Edited in response to YingYang’s edit:
YingYangMom:
By the way, I get the message and will stop posting here. I get that I’m not welcome among such humble women.
Click to expand...
You are always welcome to doff a head covering and join us. Or to do as Bear has done and wish us well. We wish you peace on your journey!
 
Hey! Thanks for the invite gals…I thought you were my friends! I had to stumble on the post…wasn’t I invited?
 
40.png
paramedicgirl:
Dear rcn,
Perhaps your focus is too much on the fact that the Church no longer requires the head coverings. That it is no longer mandatory does not mean it is not allowed or acceptable. It is simply a practice that some women feel God is calling them to.

And in all my observations, it is a practice of humility before God. Nothing more, nothing less. We all have to humble ourselves before God. He just calls us to do it in different ways.
Click to expand...
The church doesn’t call us to fast 3 days a week or abstain from meat a certain number of days (except lent of course).
Some choose to go the extra mile.

I agree with you fully.
 
40.png
BlestOne:
Hey! Thanks for the invite gals…I thought you were my friends! I had to stumble on the post…wasn’t I invited?
Click to expand...
I’m sorry. I started sending a couple PMs last night but got side tracked. I haven’t had the opportunity to get back to them today. You were thought of, and we are happy to have you join us! (Please invite others if you know of them!)

http://smileys.smileycentral.com/cat/5/5_1_124.gif http://smileys.smileycentral.com/cat/23/23_3_36.gif http://smileys.smileycentral.com/cat/5/5_1_124.gif
 
40.png
Forest-Pine:
Why is not up for discussion. Arguing motives is not the topic. Please do not continue in this vain. This is a thread for women who would like to wear a head covering and anyone who wants to put in some supportive words. Why was covered at length and you had your say in the other thread. We do not need to answer why and no one is obligated to do so. If they feel a tug to join us, this is the place. Please stop now.
Click to expand...
God Bless you!

BTW, I love the white hat.
I would look like a dork in it however.😛
 
40.png
YinYangMom:
By the way, I get the message and will stop posting here. I get that I’m not welcome among such humble women.
Click to expand...
I never said I was humble!!!
I said I was working on it so until that time I just have to say, SARCASM ROCKS!
Thanks for sharing.
 
netmil(name removed by moderator):
God Bless you!

BTW, I love the white hat.
I would look like a dork in it however.😛
Click to expand...
Yes, that one would go with a “sassy” sorta outfit, wouldn’t it? I’m more inclined to go with the '20s crocheted hats I saw above. Much more feminine and modern. Wouldn’t be so obvious, I think. Though I have always had a liking of formal hats. I remember as a kid going through hats shops in awe. My favorite Christmas gift one year was a soft brown bucket hat. Another year was a “formal” black one–I wore that one EVERYWHERE!!
 
:hmmm:

YinYangMom said:
"So why don’t we try it together and see what happens?"

See?
Now there it sounds like a test of some sort, but who are you testing?
What are you looking for?
What is your hypothesis?
Do you expect welcoming looks or scornful looks?
After the 2nd are you going to start posting your observations?
Why?
Will you be criticizing those who gave you the lifted eyebrow?
Will you be praising those who welcomed you?
What truly is the point of the experiment?
Click to expand...

The problem of course is, how do you know what a person is thinking unless they say what they are thinking?? I have had many people say to me “are you mad at me?” and I’ll say, of course not, why would you think that, and they will say “you looked weird at me” etc. how can you know the results unless you take a poll of everyone at your church “how did you feel about my head covering today, please let me know” 😃
If you want to cover your hair, just cover your hair but how can anyone know with certainty what anyone else is thinking unless the words are spoken?? People make all sorts of weird faces but often a person doesn’t even realize they are doing so, like me, if I appear mad at someone, I am probably not even aware of my facial expression.
If you want to wear a veil just do it, what is all the fuss?
 
40.png
Forest-Pine:
Oh. Well, that poses a bit of a problem, huh? The link should still be valid and the thread visible for anyone interested. This thread is for joining and supporting the wearing of a head covering on Sunday, Oct 2, 2005. If anyone wants to debate, they need to open another thread.

That said, I do not have a clue what I will wear. I’ve heard the words mantilla, chapel cap, veil, and hat. So many options! (I had to look up mantilla and still need to look up chapel cap.) I am going to think about my options. Do you think a hat would be more out-of-place-ish?
Click to expand...
First, what a wonderful thread to just talk aobut. I will try and join y’all in wearng a headcovering on Oct. 2. Just have to remember and dig out one of the many choices I own.

As to what a chapel veil is, it is like a Mantilla only much smaller. It is generally round and is made of lace. It was very easy to keep in your purse along with your tissues so you had a head covering readily available if you were out and about and wanted to just drop in and talk to Jesus “in the day”.

Can you tell I am old enough to remember wearing a head covering? The only thing I have against them is that I was never able to keep one on my head, Mantilla or Chapel Veil or for that matter, the clean tissue that Sister would put on our heads if we had an unscheduled visit to the Church from school. I have made my own very simple scarves that I tie at the back of my head that stay on pretty well now but I don’t often wear them.

To add to some suggestions for what you can wear to cover your head, try a pretty scarf that you tie behind your head (a bandana in a color that matches your clothes would be okay too).

Brenda V.
 
Status
Not open for further replies.
Back
Top