Join us--wear a head covering to Mass Oct 2

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Oh, I forgot in the last post to say that at my own Parish there are women who regularly where a Mantilla and as far as I can tell no one says anything to them. I have even worn my own homemade scarf with as far as I could tell no comments or “funny looks” etc.

I was just wondering how you know if someone thought it was odd unless they actually said something to you.

Another thought, Oct. 2 is the first Sunday in the Month of the Rosary, that is a really good time to try out wearing a head covering 👍

Brenda V.
 
Brenda V.:
First, what a wonderful thread to just talk aobut. I will try and join y’all in wearng a headcovering on Oct. 2. Just have to remember and dig out one of the many choices I own.

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Can you tell I am old enough to remember wearing a head covering? The only thing I have against them is that I was never able to keep one on my head, Mantilla or Chapel Veil or for that matter, the clean tissue that Sister would put on our heads if we had an unscheduled visit to the Church from school.

Everything I’ve seen says bobby pins–or to get those little snappy hair clips that you push on and they go in, then sew them to the inside of the veil or hat to keep it on.

I have made my own very simple scarves that I tie at the back of my head that stay on pretty well now but I don’t often wear them.

**Cool! I saw several ways of making scarves that stay on in my searches. It seemed the most ideal was having a very large piece of fabric to work with. Netmil(name removed by moderator) said she’s going to crochet her own snood. And I posted a homemade crochetted bandana style which was from a page of all sorts of homemade things. You are so crafty… **

To add to some suggestions for what you can wear to cover your head, try a pretty scarf that you tie behind your head (a bandana in a color that matches your clothes would be okay too).

Will have to add some more pictures! Woohoo! I love pictures. (People with dial-up probably hate my posts! Ha ha ha!)

Brenda V.
Thanks for joining us!
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Brenda V.:
I was just wondering how you know if someone thought it was odd unless they actually said something to you.

Apparently some women have had comments directed at them. I haven’t, and I don’t anticipate to. I personally have been more fearful of the What Ifs than the actualities.

Another thought, Oct. 2 is the first Sunday in the Month of the Rosary, that is a really good time to try out wearing a head covering 👍

Cool! Thanks for pointing that out!

Brenda V.
 
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Forest-Pine:
This is such a blast from the past. In the 60’s I went to Catholic school and we went to Mass every day. I had an assortment of matillas and the chapel veils, but if I forgot one, I had to wear a tissue on my head!
Good memories.
 
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Forest-Pine:
YingYang,
We are not here for you, but for each other. If we get nasty comments, it is part of our experience and will most likely cause fear, frustration, embarrasment, etc–the very things that have kept us from wearing anything to date. I have hope that we will not, any of us, and our fears will prove to be all for naught. Even still, some might not be able to focus on interior feelings being so fearful of people just such as you. That would be their experience and I would expect to hear that.

To use Bear’s previous example, I am sure some people standing on the street corner protesting abortion (something allowed, not required, and some are called to), that some of those people would be fearful the first time they did it. To tell them that they are only allowed to talk of their spiritual self and remove the physical from any subsequent discussion is ridiculous.

For you to presume to dictate what will or will not be acceptable on our thread is presumptious (at best). Please start your own if you feel a need to discuss other topics.
I’m not sure I’m saying this right, but I’m not afraid for ME if I cover my head and someone says something mean to me, or even behind my back. I’m afraid for THEM. I don’t want to be the cause of anyone thinking bad thoughts.
I think wearing a mantilla like I used to when I was younger would help me to stay focused during Mass, but I wouldn’t want to distract someone else. I’m pretty active in my parish and I don’t want people to get the idea that I think I am holier than they are. (In fact, the reason I’m so active is I’m NOT holy. Well people don’t need a doctor)
I have decided that I WILL start wearing something on my head and just pray that I’m not leading someone into temptation.

Thank you for all your (name removed by moderator)ut. You have been a blessing.:blessyou:
 
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RosaryLady:
I’m not sure I’m saying this right, but I’m not afraid for ME if I cover my head and someone says something mean to me, or even behind my back. I’m afraid for THEM. I don’t want to be the cause of anyone thinking bad thoughts.
I think wearing a mantilla like I used to when I was younger would help me to stay focused during Mass, but I wouldn’t want to distract someone else. I’m pretty active in my parish and I don’t want people to get the idea that I think I am holier than they are. (In fact, the reason I’m so active is I’m NOT holy. Well people don’t need a doctor)
I have decided that I WILL start wearing something on my head and just pray that I’m not leading someone into temptation.

Thank you for all your (name removed by moderator)ut. You have been a blessing.:blessyou:
I understand your concern and I thank you for it but I’m afraid that if someone is spending the time of thinking ill of those who wear mantillas (or for those who don’t for that matter) that they probably aren’t focused on what they should be. They’ve already lost out long before you walk in with a mantilla.
 
Does anyone have any good pictures of First Lady Laura Bush and/or Secretary of State Condollezza Rice when they attended JPII’s funeral? I was so proud of them and thought they were so beautiful.
 
Interesting idea. I’ve toyed with the idea, but probably not for the correct reasons. If you feel called to cover, I think you should.

I confess, as a child, I used to think women who veiled were either old or weird or both, but it wasn’t from a giant mean streak. It was just something that I was not used to seeing and so it was therefore “not normal” to my limited experience - not something that should stop anyone else from veiling. Some women may see it as a sign male domination/female oppession, and I see where they are coming from, but a truly liberated woman can choose what to wear on her own head. Good luck!
 
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cargopilot:
Does anyone have any good pictures of First Lady Laura Bush and/or Secretary of State Condollezza Rice when they attended JPII’s funeral? I was so proud of them and thought they were so beautiful.
For the funeral:
http://newsimg.nate.com/picture/2005/04/08/184/v_00408869.jpg

President George W. Bush and first lady Laura Bush meet Pope John Paul II on June 4, 2004. Reuters/Jason Reed
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For the memorial mass meeting Cardinal McCarrick:
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Condoleeza Rice: Barely visible on far right.
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My wife really admires Laura Bush and was blown-away to see her wearing that black lace veil at JPII’s funeral. Very respectful.
 
Here they both are together!
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I don’t know where to purchase a head covering. Any ideas? (I’m not too fond of the mantilla or chapel cap.)
 
Poorly disguised boasting?

I’m curious about the proliferation of topics in which the poster announces that he or she performs such-and-such pious action or habit, and then asks all of us what we think about it. ie. “I pray this many times a day, I lower my head when I see liturgical abuses, I wear a mantilla,” etc.

Obviously, there’s nothing wrong with any of these practices. Why, then, create a post announcing your habit? Do you really want feedback or do you want us all to know that you are, for all appearances, a very holy person? If you believe that what you’re doing is right, then keep doing it; no one’s opinions should stop you. If you believe it might be ostentatious or uncharitable, then don’t do it. Regardless, if it’s not an obvious ethical matter, then it’s simply between you and God and it doesn’t require, to paraphrase the Gospels, a trumpet announcement in the streets.

Some topics are just “curiosity” polls and some involve real discussions where a question of moral conduct is debated, and I don’t refer to either of these. But quite a few topics are formulated in a way that doesn’t invite discussion at all, but seems to involve mere spiritual boasting.

Please believe I intend to attack no one. Really. And I don’t mean to appoint myself supervisor of post-appropriateness. But I’m just so puzzled by these topics. Any thoughts? Have I misunderstood them completely? :confused:
 
newsong said:
Poorly disguised boasting?

I’m curious about the proliferation of topics in which the poster announces that he or she performs such-and-such pious action or habit, and then asks all of us what we think about it. ie. “I pray this many times a day, I lower my head when I see liturgical abuses, I wear a mantilla,” etc.

New Song,
Welcome to our little thread-house. Your discussion is an interesting one and would make a lovely thread. I’m sure you would get lots of responses if it weren’t buried here. You wouldn’t happen to know where I could find headcoverings for the cheap would you? Haven’t figured that out yet…

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I really liked this one I spotted on ebay. I have debated back and forth in my mind about a head covering. I do not want to call undue attention to myself. I will continue to pray about it.
 
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rayne89:
I really liked this one I spotted on ebay. I have debated back and forth in my mind about a head covering. I do not want to call undue attention to myself. I will continue to pray about it.
Rayne,
That’s nice! Are those two different pieces? A snood and a head band? If so, you could use just the wide head band and no one would think anything about it. If you wanted to, you could later add the snood (like in the winter time when people are bundled up more and wouldn’t notice).
 
I’ve been doing some looking around. Still no luck… Phooey!
 
At our parish I would say about 1% of the women wear head coverings at Sunday Mass and about 5% of the women do at daily Mass.

My wife thinks it is good that some women wear the head covering, but she says she probably not going to unless a lot more women do.

I think she is afraid of drawing attention to her self which she doesn’t want to do.

Trick
 
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