Join us--wear a head covering to Mass Oct 2

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Forest-Pine:
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Yeah!!

Yes:
Forest-Pine
grotto
cargopilot’s wife
Brenda V.
netmil(name removed by moderator)
BlestOne
athanasiusrc’s wife and daughters
Lorrie
Detroit Sue
tadly’s wife
Helen HansenPye
JCPhoenix
Pug
soonersvi

Maybe
snow_white
paramedicgirl
CarolAnnSFO
the phoenix
rayne89
RosaryLady
(Any maybes who want to change to yes?)

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Not only was it clean, it was monogrammed!
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I was actually considering wearing one anyway. I’m a little concerned that people will think I’m doing it for attention, or to look especially pious. Got any words of encouragement?

Add me to the maybe column.
 
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vluvski:
I was actually considering wearing one anyway. I’m a little concerned that people will think I’m doing it for attention, or to look especially pious. .
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This is exactly the reason that I won’t consider it.
 
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Cesaria:
This is exactly the reason that I won’t consider it.
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Here’s where I’m conflicted:

Is it any more inappropriate not to do something we feel called to do for fear that others will wrongly assume we do it for the wrong reasons than it is to do something we don’t feel called to do because people will wrongly assume we’re doing it for the right reasons?

For example, I like to fold my hands without my fingers crossed. I’m certain it looks rather conspicuous, but I do it mainly because it requires a certain degree of self-discipline to do so. I am considering wearing a head covering to show my respect for the rich traditions of the church, and as another poster said, a sign of personal devotion. I do like the way both of these practices look, but that is not my primary reason.
 
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Cesaria:
This is exactly the reason that I won’t consider it.
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I understand your coil. You love God and are trying to live a holy and good life. The silly issue of to veil or not to veil is just plain rediculous.

I don’t care if people do or they don’t. It is not going to make me holier by wearing a veil. And it won’t make me less holy if I don’t. Faith is way too important to worry about external garbage. Lot’s of white washed tomb’s on both sides of the issue to my way of thinking. :rolleyes:

If I feel like wearing one, I will. If I feel the mood not to, I won’t. Meantime, I am more interested in doing God’s will than what some other flawed human being might think. I don’t think any of us are showing up to Mass, for the fashion show, or the arobic’s workout. 🙂
 
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Yes:
Forest-Pine
grotto
Brenda V.
netmil(name removed by moderator)
BlestOne
athanasiusrc’s wife and daughters
Lorrie
Detroit Sue
tadly’s wife
Helen HansenPye
JCPhoenix
Pug
soonersvi
Cathy
MamaBear7
Cradle
the phoenix

**
Maybe
snow_white
paramedicgirl
CarolAnnSFO
rayne89
RosaryLady
vluvski
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vluvski:
Here’s where I’m conflicted:

Is it any more inappropriate not to do something we feel called to do for fear that others will wrongly assume we do it for the wrong reasons than it is to do something we don’t feel called to do because people will wrongly assume we’re doing it for the right reasons?

For example, I like to fold my hands without my fingers crossed. I’m certain it looks rather conspicuous, but I do it mainly because it requires a certain degree of self-discipline to do so. I am considering wearing a head covering to show my respect for the rich traditions of the church, and as another poster said, a sign of personal devotion. I do like the way both of these practices look, but that is not my primary reason.
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It’s inappropriate to not do what you think God wants YOU to do. It doesn’t matter what anyone wrongly assumes.Christ and Mary are perfect examples of this. What if Mary had said no to God because people would wrongly assume something about her pregnancy which I’m sure many did? Yes, we can always be doing something we think is God’s will and is not. I’m sure that many of us often make this mistake. If we are sincere, we can usually figure out that we’ve blown it or are doing the right thing. The most imprortant thing is to worry about what God thinks.
 
Count me in. I love hats and have a fun variety of them. It does not bother me one whit if someone doesn’t like my hat. I sit in the back of the church with my hubby and DD SIL so my hat does not block anyones sight. I wish I had kept all the hats in my life, aside from the nostalgia, they could be worth a few $ in the “grandma’s attic shops”.

Pretty scraves are an option. I have lots of them as well. I have never purchased one, they are gifts from people who don’t know what to get me so they get me a pretty scarf.

I love the idea of wearing a hat or scarf out of respect. I also wish the nuns would wear clothing that we could recognize their state in life.

Love and peace

Mom of 5
 
I support all of you ladies who choose to wear a head covering to Church. Hopefully you will stick to this as a custom instead of just turning into a one-time event. I wear a modest black or navy blue beret on occasion, especially in the cooler weather.
I have attended Masses in where they may be a larger Hispanic or Italian population and it is looked upon as a humble and traditional practice.Nothing out of place there.
I dont get why you are met with hostility. Traditionally women were supposed to keep themselves covered in order for men not to be distracted by a woman’s “crowning glory” and to avoid feelings of temptation. Now women are accused of doing just that by covering their hair. Go figure.
Why shouldn’t people choose to wear their “Sunday Best”? After all, they are going to visit the House of the Lord. It is always a special occasion and it should be celebrated as such. Im just glad that you are attending Mass and love being there. Just don’t get too involved in the trivial things and don’t let anyone turn it into something negative for you either. God Bless.
 
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vluvski:
I was actually considering wearing one anyway. I’m a little concerned that people will think I’m doing it for attention, or to look especially pious. Got any words of encouragement?

Add me to the maybe column.
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vlvuski - I checked your personal profile and you are almost exactly 24 years younger than I am. I remember being 24 and getting those “stares” from the older parishioners for daring to bring my babies to Mass with me but like cargopilot (who if he were his wife would wear a headcovering just because the others wanted to be “catty”) I continued if for no other reason than to buck the trend in my Parish!

Wear a headcovering on Oct. 2 and see what happens, 9 times out of 10 you won’t get anything more than a funny look.

The only way I even knew that some of these people didn’t like my bringing my babies to Mass was that they would be behind me coming out of Mass and comment to their partner about how “babies don’t belong in Mass” or some other very rude comments that were obviously loud enough for me to hear. I just ignored them because my babies deserved the Graces that they received from just being there (and yes, I took them out if they were being overly disruptive but one little cry until I could feed them is not a bad thing).

The other thing I have to say is that being 24 years older (again, almost to the day, my bday is March 25) I no longer care what others say. I am also old enough to get away with this attitude - I can be considere eccentric now instead of “odd”. Believe it or not, those of us who don’t do things the way everyone else does them are “odd” in our youth but “eccentric” as we get older and this is with no change in behavior or attitude.

Allow yourself to be “odd” for one Sunday, you might find that no one will even say anything. (cargopilot, you might wish to share this with your wife, I have plenty of friends, always have and have always been “odd” or now that I am a bit older “eccentric”.)

BTW, I haven’t found my crocheted scarves yet, still looking.

Brenda V.

P.S. As far as knowing when to sit, stand or kneel at Mass it is not odd that a family of Cradle Catholics might forget especially at something like a funeral - we are used to the cues others give us, not necessarily the cues from the parts of the Mass (and if their Priest tends to say please all stand now or whatever then it is even less odd as that is their cue). I have been at Funerals and Wedding Masses where I even forget when to stand etc.
 
Count me as a yes then. I’ve been feeling called to do this for a little while- perfect opportunity, and great idea Forest Pine!

Maybe my sister and mom (we’re separated geographically) will do it too.
I wonder how my future sister in law and her daughters would react? I’ll ask! 😃 they’re local.

Someone please PM me- I’m so forgetful, I’ll need a reminder.

Haha, come to think of it, I wonder what my 8th grade confirmation students will say/think!
 
I was actually banned from RCIA at a certain Parish, because I specifically wished to wear a veil. There were other reasons, too, but this is one of them.

I asked if I could wear a scarf or hat. I was told yes, but not a veil.

I eventually took instruction from another Priest.

The ironic thing is, now I prefer to wear a scarf, because it doesn’t show off my hair.

When I cover my hair, I want it COVERED! I don’t want people to see it!
 
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GoLatin:
I was actually banned from RCIA at a certain Parish, because I specifically wished to wear a veil. There were other reasons, too, but this is one of them.

I asked if I could wear a scarf or hat. I was told yes, but not a veil.

I eventually took instruction from another Priest.

The ironic thing is, now I prefer to wear a scarf, because it doesn’t show off my hair.

When I cover my hair, I want it COVERED! I don’t want people to see it!
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:whacky: How very silly! (Not your reaction, but that veils would be prohibited.)
 
Up until Vatican II this thread would of been laughable.

How hard the apostolate of reality is…
 
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GoLatin:
I was actually banned from RCIA at a certain Parish, because I specifically wished to wear a veil. There were other reasons, too, but this is one of them.

I asked if I could wear a scarf or hat. I was told yes, but not a veil.

I eventually took instruction from another Priest.

The ironic thing is, now I prefer to wear a scarf, because it doesn’t show off my hair.

When I cover my hair, I want it COVERED! I don’t want people to see it!
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I think that the reason why I was banned from specifically wearing a veil, was because some people had complained to the Priest, saying that it was an “affectation”.

My opinion is that I, or any other woman, has a right to cover her head, and if it is an affectation, it is the individual woman’s problem, not anyone else’s.

Women have a right to cover their heads!
 
Just a question…coming from one who is in favor of ladies wearing a head covering {but not expecting it unless she is either assisting the Priest as an Alter girl or as an Eucharistic Minister}…but I digress… to my question…

What is the difference…Really… between the devotion of wearing the head covering/veil… and wearing one of the various scapulars?

In either case… it’s not a requirement, it is an outward sign of a persons devotion, an aspect of their spirituality…why is one not given so much as a flinch, and yet, the other causes such disdain in so many?

I can say for certain that my lady friend will be wearing a Mantilla on Oct. 2nd. and she isn’t even Catholic yet. We attend a rather traditional Parish in Portland, Oregon… Novus Ordo, but traditional, she saw the Veils that other women were wearing, looked into the practice and found herself in agreement of it. I warned her that there could possibly be negative coments from a few people about it…but she insisted that it was somthing she felt she should do to show her surrender to G-D. This coming from a born, bred, raised and formerly devoted Evangelical Protestant!😃
funny thing is, she met with a Priest last week about converting…they got on the subject of the veil too…and HE even tried to discourage her…from it… Imagine!
 
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