Just found out I'm pregnant day after honeymoon and freaking out

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We just got back from our honeymoon today. We had decided to use NFP to avoid for a couple of years for logistical and work-related reasons. My signs were a little off before the wedding due to illness and stress/sleep deprivation, so we couldn’t be sure if I had ovulated or not, but we decided that we were ready enough to be parents for it to be worth making love on our wedding night and on our honeymoon.

Lo and behold, I DEFNITELY ovulated day 1 of our honeymoon. Turns out the signs are sometimes super obvious when you know what to look for 🙂 We had had sex both the day before and two days before, so even though we skipped the day of, I knew there was a good chance (better than my husband was thinking). Again though, we talked about it and decided we are ready and excited to be parents if that is what happens.

I started feeling some strange symptoms on our honeymoon–super fatigued, sinus issues, irritable, and an awful bloating. Something definitely felt different than PMS. We just got back today and I took the the test and within seconds it was pretty obviously positive!

So we are excited but also scared. I feel in shock–even though I expected the BFP and prepared myself for it (or so I thought) it is surreal. I have no idea what to do. I told only my mom and my husband and we are waiting to tell anyone else. I’m worried that people will really judge us though for getting pregnant so quickly after getting married. I’m very happy, but this is making me dread when we eventually tell others. We have great paying jobs and we will both be around 26 when the baby is due, so it’s not a scandal by any means, but I feel like we just got all of this attention and I kind of want to fade away into anonymity for a long while :confused:

Also, as this was semi-unexpected, I have no idea what to do now. I hear things about vitamins? Doctors? No caffeine or sushi? What about my traveling job? My mind is racing, I had two hours of sleep before an international flight today, and I’m so full of hormones and mixed emotions and excitement and nerves that I don’t know what to do or where to start. Like AHHHH there is a person inside me! I feel so lucky and almost guilty that we were able to conceive so easily. I know this is a blessing, but I’m so scared about what’s going to happen to my body, how we’re supposed to start out a marriage with a pregnancy, etc. I would love any and all advice, or just a warm hug and reassurance!
 
Pretty common for first time parents to freak out specially when it isn’t planned. I remember my wife was so overwhelmed she cried and had trouble with people congratulating her! I was so scared my blood pressure went up for a week…LOL.

The truth is God provides (and I honestly couldn’t tell you how and I’m an accountant!) and it will be the greatest thing that ever happens to you.

Just roll with the freak out for now, as your entitled, and if it’s a girl don’t start stressing about prom dates and weddings before she is even born!

Congratulations and may God bless your expanding family.
 
liaeona said:
I’m worried that people will really judge us though for getting pregnant so quickly after getting married.
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A). You are an adult. A married adult. It is no one’s business what you do or when you do it.

B). If someone judges you for that, or anything else, that is THEIR problem. Why do you care?

C). People are judging you every day for something you do or don’t do. When you have a kid there will be more judgment on topics such as breastfeeding/not breastfeeding, working/not working, spanking/not spanking, private school/public school/home school, TV/no TV, when and whether you have another kid and/or another after that, and on and on into infinity.

My advice: stop worrying about what other people think right now. It will save you a lot of grief later. YOUR CHILD BEARING IS NOT ANYONE’S BUSINESS.
 
Oh and p.s. If you aren’t already keeping private things private, start now.

For instance, use or non use of NFP, trying/not trying, your sex life, your decision to have of not have additional children and said children’s timing.
 
We had a honeymoon baby. We weren’t surprised (had a heads up that it was likely to happen and said “aw, what the heck?”) and we’re fine. We wanted kids, we have kids (three now in six years) and some people may think we’re crazy but I don’t invite their opinion. We’re happy as we are.

1ke’s advice is spot on.

And congratulations!!
 
1ke said:
Oh and p.s. If you aren’t already keeping private things private, start now.

For instance, use or non use of NFP, trying/not trying, your sex life, your decision to have of not have additional children and said children’s timing.
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Yes!
 
liaeona said:
We just got back from our honeymoon today. We had decided to use NFP to avoid for a couple of years for logistical and work-related reasons. My signs were a little off before the wedding due to illness and stress/sleep deprivation, so we couldn’t be sure if I had ovulated or not, but we decided that we were ready enough to be parents for it to be worth making love on our wedding night and on our honeymoon.

Lo and behold, I DEFNITELY ovulated day 1 of our honeymoon. Turns out the signs are sometimes super obvious when you know what to look for 🙂 We had had sex both the day before and two days before, so even though we skipped the day of, I knew there was a good chance (better than my husband was thinking). Again though, we talked about it and decided we are ready and excited to be parents if that is what happens.

I started feeling some strange symptoms on our honeymoon–super fatigued, sinus issues, irritable, and an awful bloating. Something definitely felt different than PMS. We just got back today and I took the the test and within seconds it was pretty obviously positive!

So we are excited but also scared. I feel in shock–even though I expected the BFP and prepared myself for it (or so I thought) it is surreal. I have no idea what to do. I told only my mom and my husband and we are waiting to tell anyone else. I’m worried that people will really judge us though for getting pregnant so quickly after getting married. I’m very happy, but this is making me dread when we eventually tell others. We have great paying jobs and we will both be around 26 when the baby is due, so it’s not a scandal by any means, but I feel like we just got all of this attention and I kind of want to fade away into anonymity for a long while :confused:

Also, as this was semi-unexpected, I have no idea what to do now. I hear things about vitamins? Doctors? No caffeine or sushi? What about my traveling job? My mind is racing, I had two hours of sleep before an international flight today, and I’m so full of hormones and mixed emotions and excitement and nerves that I don’t know what to do or where to start. Like AHHHH there is a person inside me! I feel so lucky and almost guilty that we were able to conceive so easily. I know this is a blessing, but I’m so scared about what’s going to happen to my body, how we’re supposed to start out a marriage with a pregnancy, etc. I would love any and all advice, or just a warm hug and reassurance!
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Hey congrats in this! I’m so happy for you. You guys sound like you’ve got the world in place. Grab this moment and treasure it. You’ve got the beginnings of a family! It’s a person who will need you. And someone who will love you both. So glad for you. Relax in that happiness. And know that life suddenly has given you a whole new meaning outside yourselves to look out for. Have peace in that. And joy. And know that it’s in many ways better to get those kids in a row while you’re young and healthiest to handle all the fun challenges that come with that. 🙂 👍

Peace liaeona. Here’s a bit of a hug for you both. :grouphug: (I’m not sure who these other people are. But they probably overheard what was going on).

-Trident
 
1ke said:
Oh and p.s. If you aren’t already keeping private things private, start now.

For instance, use or non use of NFP, trying/not trying, your sex life, your decision to have of not have additional children and said children’s timing.
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Hi liaeona,

Congratulations on your pregnancy! 🙂

I agree with 1ke’s post.

I think you’ll start to find–if you haven’t already–that there will be some people who will want to know private details of your private, married life.

Oh, I can remember some of the crass and tactless comments back from when I was married the first few years into my marriage. 😦

That being said though, try not to worry about what other people think and say. This should be a really happy time for you and your husband, and I would focus on that!

May God bless you and your new precious family! :grouphug: :flowers:
 
Try to remove all of the negative thoughts and focus on the excitement. Once your baby is born, you aren’t going to care at all about what people thought, you are just going to be in love with your child!!
 
liaeona said:
We just got back from our honeymoon today. We had decided to use NFP to avoid for a couple of years for logistical and work-related reasons. My signs were a little off before the wedding due to illness and stress/sleep deprivation, so we couldn’t be sure if I had ovulated or not, but we decided that we were ready enough to be parents for it to be worth making love on our wedding night and on our honeymoon.

Lo and behold, I DEFNITELY ovulated day 1 of our honeymoon. Turns out the signs are sometimes super obvious when you know what to look for 🙂 We had had sex both the day before and two days before, so even though we skipped the day of, I knew there was a good chance (better than my husband was thinking). Again though, we talked about it and decided we are ready and excited to be parents if that is what happens.

I started feeling some strange symptoms on our honeymoon–super fatigued, sinus issues, irritable, and an awful bloating. Something definitely felt different than PMS. We just got back today and I took the the test and within seconds it was pretty obviously positive!

So we are excited but also scared. I feel in shock–even though I expected the BFP and prepared myself for it (or so I thought) it is surreal. I have no idea what to do. I told only my mom and my husband and we are waiting to tell anyone else. I’m worried that people will really judge us though for getting pregnant so quickly after getting married. I’m very happy, but this is making me dread when we eventually tell others. We have great paying jobs and we will both be around 26 when the baby is due, so it’s not a scandal by any means, but I feel like we just got all of this attention and I kind of want to fade away into anonymity for a long while :confused:

Also, as this was semi-unexpected, I have no idea what to do now. I hear things about vitamins? Doctors? No caffeine or sushi? What about my traveling job? My mind is racing, I had two hours of sleep before an international flight today, and I’m so full of hormones and mixed emotions and excitement and nerves that I don’t know what to do or where to start. Like AHHHH there is a person inside me! I feel so lucky and almost guilty that we were able to conceive so easily. I know this is a blessing, but I’m so scared about what’s going to happen to my body, how we’re supposed to start out a marriage with a pregnancy, etc. I would love any and all advice, or just a warm hug and reassurance!
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Make an appointment with your doctor, take the official medical test and follow his/her advice; vitamins and a change of diet will probably be in your future. Congratulations! You will be an awesome mom!
 
liaeona said:
We just got back from our honeymoon today. We had decided to use NFP to avoid for a couple of years for logistical and work-related reasons. My signs were a little off before the wedding due to illness and stress/sleep deprivation, so we couldn’t be sure if I had ovulated or not, but we decided that we were ready enough to be parents for it to be worth making love on our wedding night and on our honeymoon.

Lo and behold, I DEFNITELY ovulated day 1 of our honeymoon. Turns out the signs are sometimes super obvious when you know what to look for 🙂 We had had sex both the day before and two days before, so even though we skipped the day of, I knew there was a good chance (better than my husband was thinking). Again though, we talked about it and decided we are ready and excited to be parents if that is what happens.

I started feeling some strange symptoms on our honeymoon–super fatigued, sinus issues, irritable, and an awful bloating. Something definitely felt different than PMS. We just got back today and I took the the test and within seconds it was pretty obviously positive!

So we are excited but also scared. I feel in shock–even though I expected the BFP and prepared myself for it (or so I thought) it is surreal. I have no idea what to do. I told only my mom and my husband and we are waiting to tell anyone else. I’m worried that people will really judge us though for getting pregnant so quickly after getting married. I’m very happy, but this is making me dread when we eventually tell others. We have great paying jobs and we will both be around 26 when the baby is due, so it’s not a scandal by any means, but I feel like we just got all of this attention and I kind of want to fade away into anonymity for a long while :confused:

Also, as this was semi-unexpected, I have no idea what to do now. I hear things about vitamins? Doctors? No caffeine or sushi? What about my traveling job? My mind is racing, I had two hours of sleep before an international flight today, and I’m so full of hormones and mixed emotions and excitement and nerves that I don’t know what to do or where to start. Like AHHHH there is a person inside me! I feel so lucky and almost guilty that we were able to conceive so easily. I know this is a blessing, but I’m so scared about what’s going to happen to my body, how we’re supposed to start out a marriage with a pregnancy, etc. I would love any and all advice, or just a warm hug and reassurance!
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You’ll be fine! It took us 2 years with meds to conceive so you are very lucky!
 
You may feel like you are unprepared to be a parent, truth is, no one is on their first child.
 
Its important to relax and let nature takes its course. Anything can happen therefore your best bet is avoid alcohol, avoid any stressors and take care of yourself both spiritually and physically. Furthermore, you really won’t know if you conceived until you miss your period, therefore I would avoid telling anyone this wonderful news until you receive proper confirmation from a doctor and then some. The first three months are so delicate that your best bet is to tell only your closest friends once you receive confirmation. I hope the little one stuck but if it didn’t, please know that it doesn’t make you lesser of a woman. Every child is a miracle from God and only He knows when we are ready to become parents.

Please keep us in how things progress. Remember we are here for you.
 
Congratulations on both the marriage and baby!👍

I too became pregnant on my honeymoon. I was pretty surprised. I turned 26 the day I went into labor. So you and I have quite a few similarities.

Breathe. It will all be ok.
 
First of all, congratulations! 👍

Second, it’s normal to feel apprehensive about this.

Third, as many wise posters above me have said, this is ultimately a personal decision. Others are free to criticize, offer help, make comments and so on - but make sure that you do not give them control over something as crucial as parenthood.

Fourth, have a word with a good doctor, they can help you with any health-related queries or concerns you might have. On the other hand, don’t obsess over it. 🙂

Praying for all three of you. RPR Junior says hi! 😃
 
liaeona said:
We just got back from our honeymoon today. We had decided to use NFP to avoid for a couple of years for logistical and work-related reasons. My signs were a little off before the wedding due to illness and stress/sleep deprivation, so we couldn’t be sure if I had ovulated or not, but we decided that we were ready enough to be parents for it to be worth making love on our wedding night and on our honeymoon.

Lo and behold, I DEFNITELY ovulated day 1 of our honeymoon. Turns out the signs are sometimes super obvious when you know what to look for 🙂 We had had sex both the day before and two days before, so even though we skipped the day of, I knew there was a good chance (better than my husband was thinking). Again though, we talked about it and decided we are ready and excited to be parents if that is what happens.

I started feeling some strange symptoms on our honeymoon–super fatigued, sinus issues, irritable, and an awful bloating. Something definitely felt different than PMS. We just got back today and I took the the test and within seconds it was pretty obviously positive!

So we are excited but also scared. I feel in shock–even though I expected the BFP and prepared myself for it (or so I thought) it is surreal. I have no idea what to do. I told only my mom and my husband and we are waiting to tell anyone else. I’m worried that people will really judge us though for getting pregnant so quickly after getting married. I’m very happy, but this is making me dread when we eventually tell others. We have great paying jobs and we will both be around 26 when the baby is due, so it’s not a scandal by any means, but I feel like we just got all of this attention and I kind of want to fade away into anonymity for a long while :confused:

Also, as this was semi-unexpected, I have no idea what to do now. I hear things about vitamins? Doctors? No caffeine or sushi? What about my traveling job? My mind is racing, I had two hours of sleep before an international flight today, and I’m so full of hormones and mixed emotions and excitement and nerves that I don’t know what to do or where to start. Like AHHHH there is a person inside me! I feels so lucky and almost guilty that we were able to conceive so easily. I know this is a blessing, but I’m so scared about what’s going to happen to my body, how we’re supposed to start out a marriage with a pregnancy, etc. I would love any and all advice, or just a warm hug and reassurance!
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Congrats! I’m sure parenthood will suit you. Enjoy this time god has planned for you.
 
First off, congratulations!

Totally agree with keeping things private. Family/friends don’t need to know if you are using NFP, if you are trying to have a family (or not), etc. Not really any of their business, and the more they know, the more questions you may get.

As for pre-natal vitamins, etc. all your OB/GYN and tell them about your BFP. They will most likely send you for blood work. When you call, ask what vitamin(s) you should be taking. Also, your doctor will probably recommend eating certain foods and not eating certain foods, etc.
 
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