Kicking Out a Drug Addict

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I’m wondering if I did what was right (as a Catholic).

I was letting a homeless guy “rent” a room in my domicile. He has a job, but just needed a place to live in. I allowed myself to help this guy out.

I thought this guy was a regular honest good guy.
He said that he is clean and sober and followed Jesus Christ as a Christian.
Although he used to do drugs when he was younger. I guess you can say I trusted him.

I told him that illegal drug-use is strictly not allowed.

The homeless guy goes and asks my boyfriend where he can get narcotics illegally…

I then promptly told my boyfriend that this homeless guy has to go.

So we packed up his stuff and dropped his stuff off at his workplace and told him that he isn’t allowed back due to trying to get drugs.

He started blaming family trouble for it…I just said “Sorry, we don’t allow drug addicts to live with us.”
 
Does anyone want to tell me if I was right or wrong?

The homeless guy lived with us for about a week before he started to seriously seek drugs.
 
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Does anyone want to tell me if I was right or wrong?

The homeless guy lived with us for about a week before he started to seriously seek drugs.
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You did fine.

Make sure you change the locks.
 
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Does anyone want to tell me if I was right or wrong?

The homeless guy lived with us for about a week before he started to seriously seek drugs.
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I think you were right. You told him the conditions, and he broke them.

Lou
 
Does anyone want to tell me if I was right or wrong?
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Addictions are very powerful. Pray for him that he seeks help.

At the time that he agreed, he probably thought he could stay clean and sober. At a time of weakness, the cravings and addiction kicked into high gear.

I tend to believe in the theory that addiction is a disease that needs ongoing treatment.

In the future, if the person isn’t in some kind of formal, ongoing treatment program, you will probably run into the same situation again.

If you want to help someone who is homeless, or an addict, your time, energy, and money would be better spent providing donations to those organizations that specialize in this kind of help. That is not to say you should turn a blind eye, but you should focus your attempts to help in ways that don’t put you in harm’s way and still contribute to the cause to help.
 
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Addictions are very powerful. Pray for him that he seeks help.

At the time that he agreed, he probably thought he could stay clean and sober. At a time of weakness, the cravings and addiction kicked into high gear.

I tend to believe in the theory that addiction is a disease that needs ongoing treatment.

In the future, if the person isn’t in some kind of formal, ongoing treatment program, you will probably run into the same situation again.

If you want to help someone who is homeless, or an addict, your time, energy, and money would be better spent providing donations to those organizations that specialize in this kind of help. That is not to say you should turn a blind eye, but you should focus your attempts to help in ways that don’t put you in harm’s way and still contribute to the cause to help.
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I just got word that he is also running away from an active warrant in another state.

I will have a harder time to really trust people. I will pray that addicts and criminals can get the help they need whether in a rehab or in a jail cell.

I hope well meaning people don’t try to trust people with haste; especially when someone “needs” help.

My advice to others:
Always trust your own gut instinct when it comes to people.
Maybe God is trying to tell you something.
 
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I just got word that he is also running away from an active warrant in another state.

I will have a harder time to really trust people. I will pray that addicts and criminals can get the help they need whether in a rehab or in a jail cell.

I hope well meaning people don’t try to trust people with haste; especially when someone “needs” help.

My advice to others:
Always trust your own gut instinct when it comes to people.
Maybe God is trying to tell you something.
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I’m just glad that you didn’t come to any harm. You certainly do not want this kind of person under the same roof as you.
 
You did a kind thing and you were right to end his stay when he broke your (quite reasonable) rules.
 
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You did a kind thing and you were right to end his stay when he broke your (quite reasonable) rules.
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I agree. OP may God bless you abundantly for your kind heart and I am glad you had the wisdom to have him go when the warning sign first appeared.

Mary.
 
Pray to St. Maximilian Kolbe on his behalf. You did the right thing. Tough love.
 
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Does anyone want to tell me if I was right or wrong?

The homeless guy lived with us for about a week before he started to seriously seek drugs.
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You did just fine. I am a ex drug addict clean 7 1/2 years. I had to learn how to deal with the problems of life (family problems included) without running back to drugs, this guy needs to learn it too. We stop when we really want to stop. He does not want to stop no matter what his excuse it. And I have heard people even say “I was using drugs against my own will” That is nonsense. You did the right thing.
 
Sounds like you did the right thing. You let him stay and told him no drugs. He broke the rules. It’s not like he had no warning.
 
Psychologically, it is the easiest to extinguish a behavior when the negative results from doing the wrong thing are predictable and immediate. He’s the most likely to straighten out if he comes to expect everyone with empathy for his situation to do exactly what you did.

IOW, in the same situation, you ought to want the same treatment. Golden Rule.
 
You did the only thing you could do. Allowing an active addict to live in your home is a recipe for disaster. They will steal from you to get drugs. If they have drugs in your house, the police could hold you responsible. If they don’t pay a dealer, you could have some very scary people paying you a visit.
 
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