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jmcrae
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I could dress them, and throw a fit before the ceremony. My cats would love the food there.
I can get pet insurance cheaply through my job. I thought “AWESOME!” They are becoming more like my children everyday.
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CountrySinger
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senses that this thread will be hijacked about cats
My cats are ministers in the Universal Life Church (fee: one can of Fancy Feast), and are enrolled at a local community college. One day I wanted to see if I could do it.
Now back to kids. They are less fuzzy though!
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Miserys_Fence
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My fiance died this past August; I was also widowed almost 9 years ago. If you ever need someone to talk to or a shoulder to cry on, please feel free to message me.
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bekalc
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Oh I luvve this. I wonder if I could get a deal for my three.senses that this thread will be hijacked about cats
My cats are ministers in the Universal Life Church (fee: one can of Fancy Feast), and are enrolled at a local community college. One day I wanted to see if I could do it.
Now back to kids. They are less fuzzy though!
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pnewton
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Yeah, this is what I was thinking. There is no excuse for not letting such a persnickity rule being known. That way you and your wife could have made a decision for no one to go or just her.
God will hit such people with reality some day and they will grow up.
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Sparki777
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Kids can be very noisy, but all my kids from the age of 2 on (some earlier) knew how to be quiet in church, because we always took them to Mass and taught them to be quiet. Even my youngest, the noisiest by all accounts, was successfully taught to either be silent or whisper in church. I could take them to any wedding, funeral, baptism, whatever, and never have to worry about them being noisy or distracting.
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pnewton
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FYI - This thread reminds me why I do not play at weddings. I have only done one in ten years, and that was for a favor. Trying to please one woman in my life is enough.
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CountrySinger
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I’ve helped at 25 in the last five years. Brides can be horrible! I had one freak out because the flowers aren’t the right shade of pink. Now that I’ve moved out of state, after the next two weddings, I am done. At least till mine (if I ever have one).
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SamH
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I wouldn’t call it “getting huffy”. My family and I are a unit, if a person specifically invites some members and specifically excludes other members at a family event then I won’t be attending. Its a pretty insulting thing to write - especially to your friends and family.You could get all huffy and tell them that, since apparently your cats aren’t welcome, you won’t be coming, either. :tsktsk:
And Catholics do this too. Last summer my wife and I were invited to her cousin’s wedding that is 8 hours driving away. We had planned on attending until my wife noticed that the RSVP specifically banned children under 12. As she put it, “What am I going to do, drive the family 8 hours there, then have my husband sit in a hotel room while I go?”. While the invitation did mention “daycare” we were not interested in turning our two children (one with a serious medical condition) over to people we had never met before and would never see again.
If they can’t handle children attending their wedding heaven help them when they have children of there own.
As for dry weddings, go save a buck somewhere else. I have never talked to a person three years or more after a wedding the commented how beautiful the flowers looked (or how they were just the right shade of pink). My wife and I got married 13 years ago and most of our guest how much fun they had to this day – a few don’t remember it all though.
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Sina
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I am surprised at some of the comments here.
If the wedding ceremony is taking place in a church, I think children should always be welcome. If it is an evening affair and in a hotel, then fine.
I can understand people not wanting kids at the reception later on… I even considered asking a friend to not bring her kids… BUT… I read some comments on CAF about how that would be considered rude to some, and people go everywhere as a family unit. I am SO glad I invited the kids. They danced with everyone and were the stars of the show. They always talk about me, (3.5 years later ) in my wedding dress and I just adore them.
The Catholic church I got married in, specifically had a policy where no kids under 7 could participate in the ceremony. That is understandable.
If the wedding ceremony is taking place in a church, I think children should always be welcome. If it is an evening affair and in a hotel, then fine.
I can understand people not wanting kids at the reception later on… I even considered asking a friend to not bring her kids… BUT… I read some comments on CAF about how that would be considered rude to some, and people go everywhere as a family unit. I am SO glad I invited the kids. They danced with everyone and were the stars of the show. They always talk about me, (3.5 years later ) in my wedding dress and I just adore them.
The Catholic church I got married in, specifically had a policy where no kids under 7 could participate in the ceremony. That is understandable.
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lufty
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I can understand that someone would request no young children at a wedding, or other formal function. I would however expect this would be stated in the invitations.
Personally, I wouldn’t mind if this extended to Mass as well. The last 2 times I went to mass, there were kids eating, jumping on the pews, running around, etc. I find if difficult to focus my prayer and meditation with unruly children present.
Personally, I wouldn’t mind if this extended to Mass as well. The last 2 times I went to mass, there were kids eating, jumping on the pews, running around, etc. I find if difficult to focus my prayer and meditation with unruly children present.
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lizaanne
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Puce is a gorgeous color!!!I’ve been involved in many weddings (never as a bride). The brides says it is because kids are too noisy and will “ruin their day”.Like the rude cousin isn’t loud.
—> PUCE~Liza
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Sina
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There are many topics on CAF regarding this. Just wait until you have kids. The Catholic church is pro life, and embraces families. Just where are the peope with families supposed to go for mass if children are not allowed?
I can understand the difficulty in hearing mass, but try to get past this, and pray about it.
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SamH
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That was much nicer than the comment I was going to post, and you said it much better.
Recently my wife was practicing with the children’s quire on a Saturday morning for the Christmas Mass. After the children left a mean old bat came up to her complaining that “THAT SINGING DISTRACTED ME FROM MY PRAYERS”. My wife was taken a back by the comment and said the children needed to practice and she was sorry. The old woman continued to rail about how inconsiderate she was to have practice “IN A CHURCH” until my wife finally cried. I told her she should have just said “I’m sorry your faith is so weak that a few children singing could shake it so badly”.
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Malia_Belen
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The same thing happened to a friend…a relative was hurt because her young child couldn’t be at the wedding so I don’t think she(the mom) was able to make it either. As a result, my friend is making sure that guests know that all children are welcome at her wedding and they will be at mine too. I think it’s a lovely idea to have children at weddings and a great teaching opportunity for wedding vows and wedding symbolism (i.e. white dress, rings etc). It, also, shows them that marriage is something indeed to look forward to and the beauty of a wedding generally captures the imagination of all girls alike.
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pnewton
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Ain’t it the truth. Unfortunately too many today are getting married while lacking the maturity and wisdom to see the big picture. For them, a wedding is a showcase stage. On the bright side, the reality of marriage and especially children can mature even the most childish.
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Sina
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haha I was going to say a lot more on the topic of kids and mass, but I have seen it here so many times, and the poster was new, so I figured he/she could go look up the topics for themselves to see the arguments.
I used to get a little annoyed myself before I had children. It’s all in one’s perspective. Once it was all explained to me, and I had my own kids, I got it.
I used to get a little annoyed myself before I had children. It’s all in one’s perspective. Once it was all explained to me, and I had my own kids, I got it.
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Corki
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This may be just throwing gasoline on the fire but…
Technically, no one can be kept from attending the actual Church service, at least a Catholic one. They are community celebrations. So while small children might not be “welcome” they are “allowed”.
Technically, no one can be kept from attending the actual Church service, at least a Catholic one. They are community celebrations. So while small children might not be “welcome” they are “allowed”.
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lizaanne
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Wedding crashing is not highly thought of amongst most peopleThis may be just throwing gasoline on the fire but…
Technically, no one can be kept from attending the actual Church service, at least a Catholic one. They are community celebrations. So while small children might not be “welcome” they are “allowed”.
~Liza
This reminded me of a story I read in “Reader’s Digest”…
A little girl attended a wedding with her mother. She asked, “Why is the bride all dressed in white?”
The mother said, “Because white symbolizes joy and this is the happiest day of the bride’s life!”
Then the little girl asked, “So why is the groom all dressed in black?”
(see, if you exclude kids, you don’t get stories like this!)
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