Mijoy2, I feel the same way as you do. I often get very depressed about the world and where things are going. That being said, we have to remember that knowledge is the one component that may often be very lacking in society. Whether Catholic or not, a lot of people just don’t know that certain things are sins. Some of them are written in our hearts, yes, and we will more or less always be culpable for. However, so many sins of grave matter, like skipping Mass on Sunday, or fornicating, are just things that the world has taught so many people are not bad. Now I don’t know to what extent people’s culpability is lessened because of this, but I do know that not everyone doing these things is comitting mortal sin.
There are so many things we state that simply do not add up.
i.e. “Anyone who is in hell chose it for themselves” - however this does not make sense. IMO it is a cop-out of a statement. It is exactly the same as saying that if one misses Mass, masturbates, has premarital sex, uses contraception… he/she has asked for eternal horrendous punishment. When one says things like this they should conceptually attach a loved one to it.
Believe me, I have plenty of loved ones who do these things. Here’s something I think may help. If the idea that doing these things is choosing hell for oneself doesn’t make sense to you, I can understand that. It’s not a perfect way of saying it. What it comes down to is really this, and I think it may help you see it a little differently.
See, what God wants of us is for us to be turned toward Him. He knows we are gonna have weakness, and He knows we are gonna fall now and then. What He is
not is a legalist. He is not sitting there waiting to get us, just waiting until we commit some sin to say, “Aha! Now I’ve got you!” This is an attitude that a lot of us have picked up due to Protestant influence, because Protestants do almsot veiw God as a legalist. (They say it doesn’t matter because He forgives every sin through faith alone, but their concept is still one of sin is sin, that’s that, no ifs ands or buts.) This is not really how God works, though, and sometimes we have to look past this attitude we have picked up from our largely Protestant society. When it comes to mortal sin, it comes to a person turning their back on God. Not so much choosing hell, but turning their back on God. So God knows we’ll be weak, and fall here and there. He’s forgiven us that through baptism and our faith. Now sins that are grave though aren’t just stumbling. Sins that are grave are things that are just
sooo far from God’s intentions, that are just
soooo disgusting in God’s eyes that you’d
have tp be against them to deliberately commit them. See, when you know God, and you know what His plan is for you and the world, you start to see things from His eyes, in a certain way. So you see how disgusting fornication is to God. You understand it, in a certain way. There’s a difference between that and slipping a lie here or there. THose things you see as apart from God’s plan, but they don’t seem that terrible. Other things, like masturbation just seem so horrible that if you had the knowledge of how horrible it was to God, you couldn’t
possibly masturbate intentionally without rejecting God, because you know just how disgusting it is to Him.