Lack of Catholic women in tech in Silicon Valley

[KeyToSuccess]

Hey guys, I’m in my early 20s and live in the SF bay area but work as a software engineer in SF proper, where religion is somewhat frowned upon.

To make things worse, everyone at my local parish is fairly “up there” in age. I’m single, 24, and would like to start dating but I don’t know where to meet Catholic girls my age in the bay. Can anyone advise me here, please? Am trying to avoid a dating site if possible. Thanks for your help!

 

[pianistclare]

Call the Chancery and ask which parishes have a vibrant Young adult ministry.

God bless, and welcome to the fora!

 

[jdavani]

why are you trying to avoid dating sites?

also you’re not going to find many women in tech, period, let alone catholic women in tech.

 

[Bataar]

I know the feeling. I’m up in Seattle and it’s the same way. I saw a recent statistic that shows that for every 100 single women, there are 144 single men. Not good odds.

 

[RandomAlias]

It is possible to meet Catholic women in non-Catholic settings. It happened to me. Just get out there. What do you like to do? What could you like to do? Folk dancing? Hiking? Parks and museums? Sports?

Hey, here’s another idea. Do some volunteer or charity work through your parish. Maybe one of those old folks in your parish will bring a nice daughter (or, if they are really old, grand-daughter?) close to your age.

 

[jdavani]

yeah it’s possible but devout catholic women aren’t that easy to find in church, let alone outside

 

[RandomAlias]

yeah it’s possible but devout catholic women aren’t that easy to find in church, let alone outside

Still, you have to get out of the house (and pocket the smartphone) to meet her.

 

[jdavani]

not really, you could meet her through your smartphone. actually, with how popular online dating is, i’d say soon more people will meet romantic interests through the phone first

 

[1ke]

yeah it’s possible but devout catholic women aren’t that easy to find in church, let alone outside

As a devout Catholic woman in my 20s and 30s I could be found at the following:

At work
At Church
Prolife ministry and sidewalk counseling
Catholic young adult group sponsored activities
City flag football league
City sand volleyball league
Socializing with my friends at bars and clubs
Country-western dancing (granted, I lived in TX)
Playing pool and darts
Watching college football games at sports bars
At friend’s houses socializing with them (and they would invite eligible friends and coworkers)
Gaming with my dude friends
On Ave Maria Singles online dating site (where I actually met my husband)

 

[jdavani]

right, and how many women like you exist compared to catholic women who are nominally catholic or women who are faithless. Devout catholic men and women are hard to find, period.

 

[1ke]

ght, and how many women like you exist compared to catholic women who are nominally catholic or women who are faithless. Devout catholic men and women are hard to find, period.

The point is— live your life, do the things YOU like to do, and you will meet like minded people, men and women. Those men and women will introduce you to other like minded men and women. And so on.

If you have some very narrow criteria, then online might actually be best for you. Any reason you want to avoid it?

 

[jdavani]

I’m not OP. I recommended that OP try online dating. I agree with you that people should do what they like to do and in doing so they will meet like minded people, but it also is true that devout catholics are hard to find. Also, someone may befriend devout catholics of the opposite sex and they may not be interested in dating

 

[1ke]

I’m not OP. I recommended that OP try online dating. I agree with you that people should do what they like to do and in doing so they will meet like minded people, but it also is true that devout catholics are hard to find. Also, someone may befriend devout catholics of the opposite sex and they may not be interested in dating

Oops I got confused!

 

[RandomAlias]

Country-western dancing

I met my wife (who is Catholic) folk dancing (contra & square) in New England. There, around the same time, I also met and briefly dated another Catholic woman. Funny, I wasn’t trying to meet Catholic women. It just turned out that way.