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JamalChristophr
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Sorry, Joy. I’m more a listener than a talker. If you want a really wordy chap you will have to look elsewhere.
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Gwendolen
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I wanted the man who would get up in the middle of the night when the kids were sick, change PJs, and put the sheets in the washer.
Some type of divine patience when parenthood is at its most trying.
Some type of divine patience when parenthood is at its most trying.
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Giggly_Giraffe
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My husband is two inches shorter than me. I have always had a hard time finding tall guys. It seems that tall guys usually get paired with shorter women (5’ 1"). I was very self conscience about height differences in college. Now it seems like a normal thing to see taller women with shorter men. I have given up my high heels (most of the time) since it really brings out the height difference. It really bugged me to see my Italian shoes gathering dust … Then I had a baby and my feet got bigger and never shrank … I miss my small feet, and can still be found in the closet trying on my beautiful Italian shoes looking like Dressela (Cinderella) trying on the glass slipper. Sigh.
I will say men who are willing to let a women dress him up by selecting his attire is a fu. THing. My husband allowed some of this but had well defined boundaries. Probably a good thing.
I have always had a soft spot for blondes probably because my dad was blonde … But brunettes have always lured me I. And I usually get in trouble with the brunettes.
Eyes, blue are dreamy, and green are mysterious. I’m too old for the tattoo unshaven look thats trending. Since my husband has boundaries against unshaven, I’m always trying to get him to try the scruffy look for a weekend. My womanly powers are defiantly diminishing as our marriage matures.
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JamalChristophr
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No worries…G.G…pretty sure you’ll get your little princess feet back in Heaven. :yup:
Maybe you could persuade DH to get a temporary tattoo just for the weekend.
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Estevao
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brah, you need to balance this with what men say, so here goes:
Estevao’s top 10 "what women want"™ list
Estevao’s top 10 "what women want"™ list
- money
- social status
- height
- muscle definition
- personality (bad boy edge in particular)
- able to care for children
- sense of humor
- emotional and intellectual maturity
- intelligence
- nice car
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Gertabelle
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Are we to assume, then, that you’re shorter than 5’10"? 
Height doesn’t matter, and for me at least, neither do looks. I mean, how a man presents himself may indicate aspects of his character – exposure of chest hair during mass, or a lack of basic hygiene could be deal-breakers.
But basic appearance… Well, maybe I’m just too practical – I just can’t place a lot of value on appearances that could be changed in an instance
“Charm is deceptive, and beauty fades; but a woman who fears the LORD will be greatly praised” (Prov. 31:30). I would assume this applies to men as well
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BlueEyedLady
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I’ll be honest, short guys never really turned my head. I’m 5’2, and I always had a strong preference for tall men (6’+). I think it’s a primal thing; they make me feel safe and protected. No, it probably isn’t “fair”, but attraction never is. I have no doubt that dating is more difficult for short guys, just like it is for overweight people. But, it’s by no means impossible.
I lucked out, hubby is 6’6. I didn’t specifically look for someone that tall, but I’m certainly not complaining.
I lucked out, hubby is 6’6. I didn’t specifically look for someone that tall, but I’m certainly not complaining.
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Xantippe
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Oh my goodness!I’ll be honest, short guys never really turned my head. I’m 5’2, and I always had a strong preference for tall men (6’+). I think it’s a primal thing; they make me feel safe and protected. No, it probably isn’t “fair”, but attraction never is. I have no doubt that dating is more difficult for short guys, just like it is for overweight people. But, it’s by no means impossible.
I lucked out, hubby is 6’6. I didn’t specifically look for someone that tall, but I’m certainly not complaining.
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Pax2u
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OP…just thought I’d add this…most women I know don’t like to be referred to as “gals”
And as far as height…I never cared at all. My DH is about 5’ 9", and never was at a loss for female companionship!!! My Mom was about 3 inches taller than my Dad…didn’t stop them from having a long and happy marriage and large family.
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pensmama87
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Very good point. I actually noticed you used the same terminology today on another thread, and also referred to all women as “girls.” I’m sure it was innocently meant, but it irks a lot of women to be constantly referred to as if we were children.
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EasterJoy
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And while thou…but basic appearance… Well, maybe I’m just too practical – I just can’t place a lot of value on appearances that could be changed in an instance
“Charm is deceptive, and beauty fades; but a woman who fears the LORD will be greatly praised” (Prov. 31:30). I would assume this applies to men as well
Gertie
livest, dear Kate, take a fellow of plain and
uncoined constancy; for he perforce must do thee
right, because he hath not the gift to woo in other
places: for these fellows of infinite tongue, that
can rhyme themselves into ladies’ favours, they do
always reason themselves out again. What! a
speaker is but a prater; a rhyme is but a ballad. A
good leg will fall; a straight back will stoop; a
black beard will turn white; a curled pate will grow
bald; a fair face will wither; a full eye will wax
hollow: but a good heart, Kate, is the sun and the
moon; or, rather, the sun, and not the moon; for it
shines bright and never changes, but keeps his
course truly. …Henry V, Act 5, Scene 2
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EasterJoy
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People who say both guys and gals or use both girls and boys to describe the same age group usually get away with it. People who use “men” to refer to adult males over a certain age, whether it is 18 or 21 or 25, or males who have married while carrying the word “girl” on and on to apply to all women short of grandmotherhood are in a different boat.
After all, I have known a woman who expressed surprise at the age of 25 when she was referred to as a woman in a newspaper article. She was still in college and it even surprised her to realize that she was fully in the adult range!! Most of her friends who were still in school understood her point completely. It is like the shock that comes the first time a younger person calls you ma’am or sir!
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wild_thing
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Hmmm…what would I look for in a husband at this time in my life?
Simple kindness.
Simple kindness.
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Zzyzx_Road
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Being too short is the male equivalent of being too heavy for women. Just as men tend to prefer slender women, women tend to prefer tall men. As someone under 6 feet and not that good looking, I have to work harder to get interest from women. Doesn’t matter if they’re Catholic or not, they’re women first in that way. This gets very brutal when it comes to online dating, I had to give it up after a few years of going nowhere. But a good friend near my age is 6-2 and never has a shortage of dates from online dating. I’m not jealous of him, he is still a good friend, it is what it is.
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EasterJoy
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Tom Cruise is 5’7". Where is a will to get around these things, there is a way.
Besides, as the old lady once told her grandson, there isn’t a straggly horse in the world but that you can find a straggly bush to tie it to. She wasn’t trying to insult her grandson. She was pointing out that you only have to find one.
It ought to be a bigger concern whether one is going to be a worthy spouse than anything else. Be that person, look for someone who is of a like mind, and do not worry about whether or not you find a spouse. Worry only about whether or not you are pursuing a path that will lead to a valid and fruitful marriage. As bad as it is to want to be married and never to have been married, it is infinitely worse to want to be married and to have instead gone through a divorce or legal separation from a very wrong choice for a spouse. As one priest put it, too, there is nothing more lonely than to be lonely in the same bed with someone else.
After all, would you trade romantic places with Tom Cruise or want to be one of his ex-wives? Let’s hope not. Physical attraction will not only “just get you so far.” It can get you way too far with a very wrong person.
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Havard
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Meh. IMO, it’s the closest thing to a female equivalent of “guys”. “Girls” connotes immaturity, “women” isn’t casual enough to use informally, and “ladies” may not even be applicable. I know some people use “guys” as gender neutral, but a lot of women dislike that usage as well.
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Pax2u
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I realize that not everyone dislikes this…I was speaking about my own preferences, and those of most of my female circle of friends and family. OP seems to be asking for things that attract or don’t attract women, and “gals” isn’t verbiage I find attractive.Meh. IMO, it’s the closest thing to a female equivalent of “guys”. “Girls” connotes immaturity, “women” isn’t casual enough to use informally, and “ladies” may not even be applicable. I know some people use “guys” as gender neutral, but a lot of women dislike that usage as well.
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Havard
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Fair enough. Whelp, I should probably take my leave, I just noticed the “Ladies only”.
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Xantippe
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You’re fine, as long as you don’t go on and on about what you find most attractive in a man.Fair enough. Whelp, I should probably take my leave, I just noticed the “Ladies only”.
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Pax2u
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That’s ok…my circle of women friends/family like men who are comfortable jumping right in on conversations with usFair enough. Whelp, I should probably take my leave, I just noticed the “Ladies only”.
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