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dulcissima said:
If I remember correctly the OP is a man.

To the OP, I think someone smiling at you probably isn’t much of a sign. I smile at practically everyone.

I think additional signs might be if she laughs at your jokes and seems to give you her full attention when you talk to her. If seems very interested in discussing a mundane topic, well that is a really good sign.
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oh well, then scratch any answer that i wrote on this thread. i was trying to help you attract a boyfriend. sorry.

how embarrasing.😊
 
childofmary…please restate your question for us thread-challenged folks…please?😊 We really want to help, but for some reason…we’re confused!:o
 
If there is a guy I like and I think that the feeling might not be mutual, I will give no indication whatever that I am interested in him, perhaps even the opposite… So, yeah, women can be mysterious. 😃 Try giving her some extra attention and kindness and see how she responds. Make her feel special.
 
JeannetteCML said:
If there is a guy I like and I think that the feeling might not be mutual, I will give no indication whatever that I am interested in him, perhaps even the opposite… So, yeah, women can be mysterious. 😃 Try giving her some extra attention and kindness and see how she responds. Make her feel special.
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Good advice. I’ll second it.
 
JeannetteCML said:
If there is a guy I like and I think that the feeling might not be mutual, I will give no indication whatever that I am interested in him, perhaps even the opposite… So, yeah, women can be mysterious. 😃 Try giving her some extra attention and kindness and see how she responds. Make her feel special.
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ask her to coffee. going to drink a cup of coffee is not a date and it can be done by two people who have no feelings for one another except friendship. so, you won’t sound like you are coming on to her, but you will have the opportunity to better gauge if she likes you.
 
For the sake of clarity and your peace of mind let me clear up any misconceptions.

I am male as ‘whatevergirl’ will attest. I am not a teenager, I am 37. I am asking you Women what ‘intentional’ signs that you (women) consciously may give to let a man know that you are romantically interested in him.

I hope that helps and clarifies my intent here.
 
childofmary1143 said:
For the sake of clarity and your peace of mind let me clear up any misconceptions.

I am male as ‘whatevergirl’ will attest. I am not a teenager, I am 37. I am asking you Women what ‘intentional’ signs that you (women) consciously may give to let a man know that you are romantically interested in him.

I hope that helps and clarifies my intent here.
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When my husband and I met I let him give ME all the signs and then I reciprocated. I guess I am a little guarded of my feelings and afraid of rejection. However, eye contact is key. You can see the difference when someone is romantically interested in you.
 
Talk to him, pay special attention to him, let him know that you’re interested in him and what he has to say, and if all else fails, tell him flat out. The vast majority of the time, guys DO NOT GET our ‘feminine wiles’ as my boyfriend likes to call them; ie, those signals that you or another woman would pick up on INSTANTLY that go flying straight over the head of a man. It needs to be painfully obvious to you for him to understand. This isn’t because men are slow or thick or anything, they simply don’t communicate that way. So don’t expect him to pick up on subtle hints. They need to be obvious hints. Getting a girl friend to point those hints out to him isn’t a bad idea. Of course, the best course would be for him to be the initiator, but you can do your best to let him know that you would be responsive to any attempts on his part to start a relationship.
 
OK - I’m gonna field this one.

ChildofMary, you are a 37 yr old man. You need to take charge of a relationship. If you want to be romantically involved with a woman, why bother trying to figure women out ( because you cannot or you’ll get it wrong every time).

If this women is someone you are attracted to, then stop trying to decide if she is interested and take some initiative on your own.

Ask her out, bring her flowers, act completely interested in her. Your job to convey that YOU are interested.

There done. Now stop worrying and trying to guess what a woman is thinking. We are farrrrr tooo complex and think like women.
 
Amen Jrabs!!

If you want to go out with a woman, ask her out. If she says “no” then take that as a “No” and move on. If she says “yes” take her to dinner.
 
jrabs said:
OK - I’m gonna field this one.

ChildofMary, you are a 37 yr old man. You need to take charge of a relationship. If you want to be romantically involved with a woman, why bother trying to figure women out ( because you cannot or you’ll get it wrong every time).

If this women is someone you are attracted to, then stop trying to decide if she is interested and take some initiative on your own.

Ask her out, bring her flowers, act completely interested in her. Your job to convey that YOU are interested.

There done. Now stop worrying and trying to guess what a woman is thinking. We are farrrrr tooo complex and think like women.
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Nothing like good 'ol male cynicism to make this thread seem great!

You have probably heard the old expression “A good offense is the best defense” and that is what is happening here.

For the record there is no “woman” in my life at this time. Where I am currently attending church I am the youngest person there by about 20 years. However I am going to college in the fall and its been a while since I have seen people so I wish to go in prepared to know who is expressing a romantic interest and who isn’t.

As for meeting that special someone I won’t need to ask these questions.
 
childofmary1143 said:
Nothing like good 'ol male cynicism to make this thread seem great!

You have probably heard the old expression “A good offense is the best defense” and that is what is happening here.

For the record there is no “woman” in my life at this time. Where I am currently attending church I am the youngest person there by about 20 years. However I am going to college in the fall and its been a while since I have seen people so I wish to go in prepared to know who is expressing a romantic interest and who isn’t.

As for meeting that special someone I won’t need to ask these questions.
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I bring no male cynicism to the thread. I speak from a female perspective. I am sorry if you thought I was being cynical - I was not.

Women love confidence and a strong male presence. Women like to be approached. If you are to be in charge of the household, then you best take charge and approach a woman of your choice. So you get turned down? Who cares. But then you may not get turned down.

I am talking to you like the 37 yr old man that you are because I know you can handle a frank discussion. Take charge. When the time comes and you are attracted to a woman, then approach her and compliment her - but honestly, forget about women that are interested in you. Focus on the woman that interest YOU.

You cannot in a million years try and figure out if a woman is interested. Our minds work like nothin a man can imagine. I do not mean that to be negative - it’s simply the Mars Venus thing and so true.

With all that in hand, you will be great and woo those women you meet.
 
jrabs said:
I bring no male cynicism to the thread. I speak from a female perspective. I am sorry if you thought I was being cynical - I was not.

Women love confidence and a strong male presence. Women like to be approached. If you are to be in charge of the household, then you best take charge and approach a woman of your choice. So you get turned down? Who cares. But then you may not get turned down.

I am talking to you like the 37 yr old man that you are because I know you can handle a frank discussion. Take charge. When the time comes and you are attracted to a woman, then approach her and compliment her - but honestly, forget about women that are interested in you. Focus on the woman that interest YOU.

You cannot in a million years try and figure out if a woman is interested. Our mids work like nothin a man can imagine. I do not mean that to be negative - it’s simply the Mars Venus thing and so true.

With all that in hand, you will be great and woo those women you meet.
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my apologies jrab about thinking you were a man. Thanks for the compliment and I appreciate the help.
 
Women love confidence and a strong male presence. Women like to be approached. If you are to be in charge of the household, then you best take charge and approach a woman of your choice. So you get turned down? Who cares. But then you may not get turned down.
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I am talking to you like the 37 yr old man that you are because I know you can handle a frank discussion. Take charge. When the time comes and you are attracted to a woman, then approach her and compliment her - but honestly, forget about women that are interested in you. Focus on the woman that interest YOU.
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Whoa! Hold the phone! There is a way to approach a woman, though, and there is a way NOT to approach a woman.

Do NOT approach a woman unless she has given you permission. Meaning: If you see someone you like, don’t ever just approach her out of nowhere and start talking to her. That will give most women the creeps, like you are a stalker. You have to wait for the subtle permission signs.

Eye contact.
A smile from her.
You say “Hi, gosh, it’s rainy. Let me get that door for you.” She smiles and says “Thank you.”

One time I was at the post office, and I smiled at a guy who looked familiar. I asked him if he was from my hometown. Seems I made a mistake. I politely wished him a nice day and conducted my business. Went out got in the car. Pulled out of the parking lot. Became aware he was pulling out behind me. He followed my car two miles down the road to a Blockbuster. I went in and could see he was parked in the parking lot waiting. I went next door to the grocery store. Did some shopping. Went around the corner from the bread aisle and he was STANDING RIGHT THERE. Eek! :eek: I made a joke about running into him again and went through checkout and got in my car and took a circuitous route home and lost him.

That is how NOT to interpret a woman as being interested.

If she smiles, lingers when you talk to her, any woman that consistently tries to sit in a desk near yours (I see you’re going back to school) or starts conversations with you, or walks with you to your next class may be interested. The best way to know is to talk to her. And if you like her, write down your email on a piece of paper and give it to her and tell her to drop you a line sometime. If she does, that is a clue she wants to get to know you better.
 
Liberanosamalo said:
Whoa! Hold the phone! There is a way to approach a woman, though, and there is a way NOT to approach a woman.
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Hey, my advice was to approach - he’s gotta come up with the small talk.

I think it’s obvious one should NOT approach a woman as a creep. 😃
 
childofmary1143 said:
For the sake of clarity and your peace of mind let me clear up any misconceptions.

I am male as ‘whatevergirl’ will attest. I am not a teenager, I am 37. I am asking you Women what ‘intentional’ signs that you (women) consciously may give to let a man know that you are romantically interested in him.

I hope that helps and clarifies my intent here.
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I’m still confused. LOL Ha! Kidding.😃

I have to make myself something to eat…but will come back later…I think my initial answer then fits. There should be a natural happiness to be around you. You are a good person, Childofmary. Don’t rush into anything that doesn’t make you feel comfrotable…and naturally, you will not be attracted to a game player…there are tons of men and women out there–only interested in playing head games.

You will do just fine!👍

Blessings to you always,
Sharon:)
 
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