Last minute advice - Wedding this Friday

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Peace be with you all.

My fiance and I are getting married this Friday (21 Nov). The past several weeks have been very hectic and I’ve found little time to reflect or appreciate what we are about to undertake. While I have no doubts at all about what I’m about to do, I feel I’ve been too caught up with the worldly logistical aspects of the ‘wedding day’ as opposed to the profound spiritual component of a life-long marriage.

Fortunately the 11 weeks of wedding preparation we had in our parish was a good way to ensure we set aside at least a couple of hours each week for the purpose, which culminated nicely on Sunday, spending all day with the catechists and other couples (morning prayer, eating lunch together, celebrating the Eucharist).

Anyway, I really feel the need to step back and make the most of these final 4 days, to contemplate (in what time I have) the journey we’re about to embark on.

So I guess what I’m asking is if anybody has any good online Catholic references they would recommend for for last minute reading, or any other suggestions, please fire away.

At the moment I feel like a child who didn’t listen to any Christmas carols during Advent to get the ‘Christmas cheer’ 😛

Thanks in advance.
 
De Profundis, Shalom!

At this stage of the game NO ONE is going to GIVE you time for this. One of the purposes of engagement is to see how well you work together under stress, and how you assign your priorities. I salute you on your desire to appreciate the spiritual aspect of your marriage; now YOU have to take that desire and DO something.

I would recommend getting together with your fiance and spend at least 20 minutes every day praying the Rosary. Don’t think of it as “squeezing time” from something else; think of it as the most important thing you can do for your marriage. Put it in that perspective, and see where everything else falls.

Better yet, make it a Novena. Start tomorrow, and continue with praying the Rosary together every day for the next nine days. Make it the last thing you do before beginning your wedding night (or rather, make it the FIRST thing you do to begin your wedding night).

By acting to put G_D first in your marriage, you will have captured the spiritual essence of marriage far more that any other reading or meditation you could do.

I will keep you and your fiance in my prayers.

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Best wishes and may God Bless you both on your wedding day!
Keep God first and you will have a Blessed marriage.

Try to attend a Mass this week-when you will be able to really focus and offer yourselves completely to God-Friday may pass all too quickly and in a blur!

Pray together every day for the rest of your lives.

Always be kind to each other.

You have chosen a noble vocation-Christ’s Peace be with you.
 
After you are with your wife, if you ever come across the most beautiful woman in the world, she is the second most beautiful woman in the world (she meaning the woman you come across)🙂 .
 
de_profundis said:
So I guess what I’m asking is if anybody has any good online Catholic references they would recommend for for last minute reading, or any other suggestions, please fire away.

At the moment I feel like a child who didn’t listen to any Christmas carols during Advent to get the ‘Christmas cheer’ 😛

Thanks in advance.
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If you haven’t done Engaged Encounter, find out when the next Marriage Encounter Weekend is. It’s time well spent by all accounts.

Spend some time in quiet prayer, every day. Ask St. Joseph and St Mary the Theotokos to pray for you.

Read Ruth, Chapter 1, starting verse 16… It is one of the options for the OT Lection.
 
de_profundis said:
So I guess what I’m asking is if anybody has any good online Catholic references they would recommend for for last minute reading, or any other suggestions, please fire away.

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I wouldn’t read, or engage in any but necessary last minute activity, but spend my free time in silence, prayer and contemplation, perhaps with scriptures on marriage, Proverbs 31, Ephesians, the wedding at Cana etc.
 
puzzleannie said:
I wouldn’t read, or engage in any but necessary last minute activity, but spend my free time in silence, prayer and contemplation, perhaps with scriptures on marriage, Proverbs 31, Ephesians, the wedding at Cana etc.
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Best advice is what Puzzle says. ALso remember, most people feel this stress that you are feeling at the last moment.

I have read that weddings are the biggest affair most couples actually coordinate in their life.

Kudos to you by think of your spiritual life in this distracting time.

I know my wedding was an absolute production and we had very little help pulling it off…Now that I look back I find it amazing that us two youngsters actually pulled off such a huge event.

Oh by the way COngratulations and a a HUGE college football fan bless you for not picking a Saturday this time of year for you wedding…( I am sure there will be more than a few young men who are happy they get to have a fun weekend with their friend and their team:D )
You will be getting married on a Marian day (the presentation of Mary to be exact)

Have fun and God Bless you
 
I absolutely love the prayer that Tobiah and his wife Sarah pray together on their wedding night (Tobit 8:4-9) usccb.org/nab/bible/tobit/tobit8.htm
When the girl’s parents left the bedroom and closed the door behind them, Tobiah arose from bed and said to his wife, “My love, get up. Let us pray and beg our Lord to have mercy on us and to grant us deliverance.” She got up, and they started to pray and beg that deliverance might be theirs. He began with these words: “Blessed are you, O God of our fathers; praised be your name forever and ever. Let the heavens and all your creation praise you forever. You made Adam and you gave him his wife Eve to be his help and support; and from these two the human race descended. You said, ‘It is not good for the man to be alone; let us make him a partner like himself.’ Now, Lord, you know that I take this wife of mine not because of lust, but for a noble purpose. Call down your mercy on me and on her, and allow us to live together to a happy old age.” They said together, “Amen, amen,” and went to bed for the night.
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Tobiah and Sarah sought deliverance from demons that had killed each of Sarah’s previous husbands on their wedding nights. You need to pray for deliverance from all the “demons” that threaten the holiness of marriage and families in our time.

God bless you and grant you many holy and happy years together.
 
Though I am unmarried, myself… I’m going to pass on some words of wisdom.

I believe it was Father Corapi, I was watching one night, on EWTN… and he was talking about preparation for marriage. He said that the most important thing for a man and a woman to remember, in marriage… is that they will be helping one another to get to Heaven.

And that the goal you should set for one another is to help each other become saints. That is the most profound love that a married couple can have.

Wishing you much happiness and God bless you both.
 
MarieVeronica said:
Though I am unmarried, myself… I’m going to pass on some words of wisdom.

I believe it was Father Corapi, I was watching one night, on EWTN… and he was talking about preparation for marriage. He said that the most important thing for a man and a woman to remember, in marriage… is that they will be helping one another to get to Heaven.

And that the goal you should set for one another is to help each other become saints. That is the most profound love that a married couple can have.

Wishing you much happiness and God bless you both.
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I’ve always liked this quote:
Ecclesiates
4:9 Two are better than one, because they have a good reward for their labor.

4:10 For if they fall, the one will lift up his fellow; but woe to him who is alone when he falls, and doesn’t have another to lift him up.

4:11 Again, if two lie together, then they have warmth; but how can one keep warm alone?

4:12 If a man prevails against one who is alone, two shall withstand him; and a threefold cord is not quickly broken.
 
Many thanks to everyone for their advice and encouragement… your replies are just what I needed.

A few people mentioned praying the rosary together, thanks for the suggestion, I always forget that the simplest course of action is often best, rather than getting bogged down with intellectualism.
PhilotheaZ said:
I absolutely love the prayer that Tobiah and his wife Sarah pray together on their wedding night (Tobit 8:4-9)
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Me too… we actually chose this for our first reading, after hearing a wonderful catechesis about praying before the marital act.
MarieVeronica said:
Though I am unmarried, myself… I’m going to pass on some words of wisdom.

I believe it was Father Corapi, I was watching one night, on EWTN… and he was talking about preparation for marriage. He said that the most important thing for a man and a woman to remember, in marriage… is that they will be helping one another to get to Heaven.

And that the goal you should set for one another is to help each other become saints. That is the most profound love that a married couple can have.

Wishing you much happiness and God bless you both.
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Thanks, that’s a great way to think of it (and to live it)! I remember hearing once that the Hebrew word for marriage also means sanctification?
 
Congratulations and many blessings!!! Being married only 5 years, our wedding day and the week before it, is still in very recent memory for me.

I think the best advice I can give you is to try to set time aside this week for just pure, complete silence and allow God to speak to you. It is so easy to get lost in the logistics, planning and especially dealing with family when there is a wedding. You need silence with yourself AND with your fiance.

On the wedding day itself, don’t worry about anything. At this point, the planned details of the day will either work out or they won’t and you just don’t let it bother you if things aren’t going totally as planned for the day. I remember making a concious decision to think this way, even long before the wedding day when I was still in the planning stages. I kept in focus that the mass and the Sacrament of Marriage was the most important. Just focus on that and having this Sacrament. I can honestly say that the mass and our ceremony was the most enjoyable part of my day. It was the only time during the day where I felt that I could block out everything and everyone except for my husband, the priest who married us and God. Doing that made the time move slow - in a very good way.

Anyway, I hope that’s not too much advice. God bless!!!
 
attend a Theology of the Body seminar by Christopher West together…if you cannot, order a dvd of the TOB I seminar…

and go here:

www.e5men.org

God Bless your marriage!
 
Kolbelover said:
attend a Theology of the Body seminar by Christopher West together…if you cannot, order a dvd of the TOB I seminar…

and go here:

www.e5men.org

God Bless your marriage!
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Thank you!
Good advice… we have been watching the Created and Redeemed DVD series over the past month or two, however we still have not finished 😦 will definitely make sure we finish it at least in the first few weeks of our marriage.
Alphonsus_John said:
Congrats dude, I’m getting married this Saturday as well.
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Congratulations to you too 🙂
 
Congratulations!

Before I do anything “big,” I like to spend a couple hours in front of the Blessed Sacrament. Even if I’m mostly thinking other thoughts to get them over and done with and out of my head, it does me a great deal of good to sit and look at Jesus and know that He is looking at me.

And try to remember that no matter what bloopers may happen, if you’re married at the end of the day, you’re in good shape 🙂

Evelyn
 
Nov. 21 is day 1 of the your life together as husband and wife.
Congratulations:thumbsup:
 
fellowChristian said:
Nov. 21 is day 1 of the your life together as husband and wife.
Congratulations:thumbsup:
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It is also the Feast of the Presentation of the Blessed Virgin Mary, so it is certainly a beautiful day on which to marry. God bless you! Entrust yourself to the Blessed Mother.👍
 
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