Oh, foolish, foolish woman! Do not fear for the ones she torments, for they will only have her to deal with for a little while. Fear for her, because she is squandering the graces being offered to her! Her relatives ought to try their best to forgive her and pray for her repentance always, hoping that she will indeed be granted a good death in spite of her arrogance, because she’s asking for a one-way ticket to Hell with that attitude. She is exhibiting an entrenched and serious level of presumption: that is, she is willfully refusing to serve both God and neighbor, and instead presuming upon God that she will “obtain his forgiveness without conversion and glory without merit.”
From the Catechism of the Catholic Church:
Hope
2090 When God reveals Himself and calls him, man cannot fully respond to the divine love by his own powers. He must hope that God will give him the capacity to love Him in return and to act in conformity with the commandments of charity. Hope is the confident expectation of divine blessing and the beatific vision of God; it is also the fear of offending God’s love and of incurring punishment.
2091 The first commandment is also concerned with sins against hope, namely, despair and presumption:
By despair, man ceases to hope for his personal salvation from God, for help in attaining it or for the forgiveness of his sins. Despair is contrary to God’s goodness, to his justice - for the Lord is faithful to his promises - and to his mercy.
**2092 **There are two kinds of presumption. Either man presumes upon his own capacities, (hoping to be able to save himself without help from on high), or he presumes upon God’s almighty power or his mercy (hoping to obtain his forgiveness without conversion and glory without merit).
Also, do ask to see her wallet…does she have anything in it that points out that she is a Catholic and that she would like a priest to be called if she is gravely ill or mortally injured? Does she think emergency responders are mind-readers?
a) If she dies instantly, she won’t get Last Rites. You can name all of the good Catholics you know who died without last rites…those who died instantly, before reaching the hospital, or very shortly after arriving. The sacraments are not given to the dead! (Does she know this??)
b) If she does not survive in a condition to be contrite for her sins, absolution won’t help her, either. Reconciliation with God requires contrition and a firm purpose of amendment. Does she think she’ll automatically find contrition when she hasn’t practiced a shred of it in decades?
If she lives with an attitude of presumption such as she is, she has no reason to believe that neither a) nor b) will apply to her.
*At that time some people who were present there told him about the Galileans whose blood Pilate had mingled with the blood of their sacrifices. He said to them in reply, “Do you think that because these Galileans suffered in this way they were greater sinners than all other Galileans? By no means! But I tell you, if you do not repent, you will all perish as they did! Or those eighteen people who were killed when the tower at Siloam fell on them - do you think they were more guilty than everyone else who lived in Jerusalem? By no means! But I tell you, if you do not repent, you will all perish as they did!” And he told them this parable: “There once was a person who had a fig tree planted in his orchard, and when he came in search of fruit on it but found none, he said to the gardener, ‘For three years now I have come in search of fruit on this fig tree but have found none. (So) cut it down. Why should it exhaust the soil?’ He said to him in reply, ‘Sir, leave it for this year also, and I shall cultivate the ground around it and fertilize it; it may bear fruit in the future. If not you can cut it down.’”…
Someone asked him, “Lord, will only a few people be saved?” He answered them, “Strive to enter through the narrow gate, for many, I tell you, will attempt to enter but will not be strong enough. After the master of the house has arisen and locked the door, then will you stand outside knocking and saying, ‘Lord, open the door for us.’ He will say to you in reply, ‘I do not know where you are from.’ And you will say, ‘We ate and drank in your company and you taught in our streets.’ Then he will say to you, ‘I do not know where (you) are from. Depart from me, all you evildoers!’ And there will be wailing and grinding of teeth when you see Abraham, Isaac, and Jacob and all the prophets in the kingdom of God and you yourselves cast out. And people will come from the east and the west and from the north and the south and will recline at table in the kingdom of God. For behold, some are last who will be first, and some are first who will be last.” *
Luke 13: 1-9, 23-30
Pray for her, and do penances in order to win her conversion. Her tempter has her much deceived, and she lives in mortal danger.
