Latecomers to Mass

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In our parish latecomers are simply ignored, even the family who is late each and every week, arrives just after Father begins his blessing, and INSISTS upon traipsing to the front pew and disturbing everyone else.
 
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mommyaprilj:
In our parish latecomers are simply ignored, even the family who is late each and every week, arrives just after Father begins his blessing, and INSISTS upon traipsing to the front pew and disturbing everyone else.
O my gosh.

That sounds like too simple a solution. 👍

Can you really do that? You mean you can just sit there and not become offended? :eek:

Should the rest of us be offended about that family since you aren’t? 😛

Alan
 
Anna Elizabeth:
Tell me you’re kidding! :whacky:

Anna
Nope, that bugs the nuts outta me too. Just flippin SLIDE over, wouldya?? And it’s not just if you’re late, we’re almost ALWAYS early, by at least 10min if not more. But people just HAVE to sit on the end…why is that!!! I have to step in a skirt and nice shoes and drag my two small children past them, and of course, they’re acting like it’s MY fault, as if I asked to sit in the middle or something…LOL. Inevitably, in their efforts to stay off the peoples feet, one of my kids loses his/her balance (they’re 4 and 2) and falls smack into their lap…was THAT what they had in mind? Is the “end seat” that important!!! Geeze – yep, that really bugs me too!
 
Man, I try to be early, but today, I had to walk to Mass (being the car-less college student I am) and was like 3 minutes late. My friend and I just took the second-to-last pew and tried not to disturb anyone. We got a few dirty looks though 😦 I thought we left early enough, but apparently not.

Eamon
 
My personal favorite is showing up even 1 minute late and if people see my two children they automatically give a dirty look. I wonder if they even know they are giving me and my husband dirty looks!

Are my children’s baptismal promises any less valid than yours?
I consider this a cross to carry but hopefully it will help get me into heaven.
 
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AlanFromWichita:
O my gosh.

That sounds like too simple a solution. 👍

Can you really do that? You mean you can just sit there and not become offended? :eek:

Should the rest of us be offended about that family since you aren’t? 😛

Alan
Actually it made me madder than you know what, but what good did it do? It’s not like the woman didn’t know better she teaches CCD, does me getting mad at her do anything but give me an ulcer?
 
THE LAW IS HEAR MASS COMPLETE ON SUNDAYS, SO IF YOU DONT HEAR IT COMPLETE YOU RE IN SIN AND IF YOU EXCUSE THOSE LATECOMMERS YOU ARE LETTING THEM GO TO HELL so tell them to arrive early…
 
We once had a priest who addressed th eproblem of habitual latecomeres this way…“You are always welcome in God’s house. I fyou should arrive during the reading of the Word, it is a very holy moment, so please be respectful by waiting in the entry way until the reading is complete before taking your seat.” Many found it embarrasing, and began arriving on time. :rolleyes:
 
We not only have a problem with late comers but with people leaving early. A few weeks ago our pastor asked two ladies if they had diarhea becasue they were leaving before the dissmisal. 😃
It was funny but it does bother me when people come late, just this sunday a man came in late AND he had a dog with him! :mad: He wasn’t blind so I don’t think it was neccesary. Ora pro nobis!
 
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monkeyman89:
We not only have a problem with late comers but with people leaving early. A few weeks ago our pastor asked two ladies if they had diarhea becasue they were leaving before the dissmisal. 😃
It was funny but it does bother me when people come late, just this sunday a man came in late AND he had a dog with him! :mad: He wasn’t blind so I don’t think it was neccesary. Ora pro nobis!
Did he do that publicly? I think that’s just totally rude.

Especially given that there are a number of valid reasons one could have for unfortunately having to leave Mass early.
 
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monkeyman89:
We not only have a problem with late comers but with people leaving early. A few weeks ago our pastor asked two ladies if they had diarhea becasue they were leaving before the dissmisal. 😃
It was funny but it does bother me when people come late, just this sunday a man came in late AND he had a dog with him! :mad: He wasn’t blind so I don’t think it was neccesary. Ora pro nobis!
One thing I have learned as a male, is NEVER to ask a woman about what she’s doing in the bathroom, or otherwise speculate on or joke about bathroom habits – unless I know those women pretty well and they’re used to such talk.

There is a really good chance that you do not want to know the truth. There are some things men should never know about! 😛

Alan

[edit] About the dog. I’m assuming you are talking about the four-legged kind? :rolleyes:
 
miguel delgado:
THE LAW IS HEAR MASS COMPLETE ON SUNDAYS, SO IF YOU DONT HEAR IT COMPLETE YOU RE IN SIN AND IF YOU EXCUSE THOSE LATECOMMERS YOU ARE LETTING THEM GO TO HELL so tell them to arrive early…
Uh oh, once we start getting into rules about going to hell I get nervous that we are using subjective or ill-defined measures.

What does “don’t hear it complete” mean? If you are in the cry room and can’t hear the speaker continuously? If you show up during the opening hymn? The profession of faith? What about if you made it into the building right as the priest opened the Mass?

Exactly what is the precise moment which defines “complete” for the sake of not going to hell in this context? If we can’t define it, then it is subjective and/or relativistic and we need to be very careful about making idle threats.

I’ve heard, never tell someone they are going to hell unless you can make them go.

Alan
 
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AlanFromWichita:
Uh oh, once we start getting into rules about going to hell I get nervous that we are using subjective or ill-defined measures.

What does “don’t hear it complete” mean? If you are in the cry room and can’t hear the speaker continuously? If you show up during the opening hymn? The profession of faith? What about if you made it into the building right as the priest opened the Mass?

Exactly what is the precise moment which defines “complete” for the sake of not going to hell in this context? If we can’t define it, then it is subjective and/or relativistic and we need to be very careful about making idle threats.

I’ve heard, never tell someone they are going to hell unless you can make them go.

Alan
in all seriousness, my mom always said you had to be there for the gospel, the eucharist and the closing blessing – if you get there after the gospel, you’ve missed one of what me and my 6 brothers/sisters used to call “the big three” – not sure if it was just what she considered crucial, or if there’s a rule out there somewhere – she’s pretty by-the-book tho…
 
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leaner:
in all seriousness, my mom always said you had to be there for the gospel, the eucharist and the closing blessing – if you get there after the gospel, you’ve missed one of what me and my 6 brothers/sisters used to call “the big three” – not sure if it was just what she considered crucial, or if there’s a rule out there somewhere – she’s pretty by-the-book tho…
My wife uses something like that, maybe the exact same standard.

It isn’t like saying “well there’s no late fee until the gospel so we’re not really late until then” but only a measure in the rare instance we do actually come in quite late and have no later option. Then the reason we need to have a definition is so we know whether we are in mortal sin – that should ensure a visit to the confessional this week so it is relevant to have such a standard.

Alan
 
miguel delgado:
THE LAW IS HEAR MASS COMPLETE ON SUNDAYS, SO IF YOU DONT HEAR IT COMPLETE YOU RE IN SIN AND IF YOU EXCUSE THOSE LATECOMMERS YOU ARE LETTING THEM GO TO HELL so tell them to arrive early…
I didn’t think getting to church a couple of minutes late was a mortal sin…:hmmm:
 
For me personally, I am always on time or early for everything. That is just me . I believe in being prompt.

Generally, I sit up front for mass, so I don’t know who is late, nor do I care. However, I dislike it when people leave early. That bothers me more than being late.
~ Kathy ~
 
Almost 100% of my family, relatives and friends don’t go to church at all. I would be very pleased if they showed up for church, no matter how late they were.
 
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AlanFromWichita:
They should station security guards at the door with Tazers.
😃

Our last priest, at the beginning of every Mass, used to announce exactly how long we would be there, as in “Mass will be 56 minutes and I don’t think that’s too long to worship the Lord.” It really cut back on people leaving early.

Most of the people who come late to Mass at our parish tend to be visitors. Our attendance doubles in the summer due to tourists, who aren’t familiar with our Mass schedule.
 
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monkeyman89:
We not only have a problem with late comers but with people leaving early. A few weeks ago our pastor asked two ladies if they had diarhea becasue they were leaving before the dissmisal. 😃
It was funny but it does bother me when people come late, just this sunday a man came in late AND he had a dog with him! :mad: He wasn’t blind so I don’t think it was neccesary. Ora pro nobis!
It could have been a Care Dog. Care dogs do a lot of things for disabled people. It a person cannot walk very easily the care dog can get out of a car, go into a shop and hand over a little wallet containing money and a note saying something like “My master is waiting outside. Every step causes him pain. Please will you take a writing pad and a can of coca cola outside to him.” Not all disabilities are evident.

Some latecomers are adults with AHD. We all know about children who attention deficiency. Those children grow up, their problem does not go away. They try to do too many things at once. When it is time to go to Mass they suddenly remember the dog is still outside, the oven is still on, a pan is bubbling away and the iron is still plugged in. That is often the cause of persistent late coming. Yes they would be late for their own funerals, they are late for everything.

My policy is, its my job to get there on time. If other people cannot manage it is none of my business.
 
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