Lay Person's Prayer Rule

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I know all prayer rules should be devised with a spiritual father, but I am just trying to gather a little general information. What would a typical lay person’s prayer rule look like, especially what prayers would be promienent? For example a devout RC might typically pray a Rosary and Chaplet of Divine Mercy everyday. Thanks for the help!
 
I know all prayer rules should be devised with a spiritual father, but I am just trying to gather a little general information. What would a typical lay person’s prayer rule look like, especially what prayers would be promienent? For example a devout RC might typically pray a Rosary and Chaplet of Divine Mercy everyday. Thanks for the help!
In my experience, most people use a prayer book of some sort, and follow whatever is written for Morning and Evening prayers, as well as prayers for other occasions (sickness, pre-Communion, etc.).
 
Relax and just talk to Him in your own words: He is your loving Father; pour out your personal troubles to Him. Jesus said, “come to me all who are burdened and I will give you rest”; also “my yoke is light”: you are yoked with Jesus and He does the Hard part!:). The Lord MADE you a one-off personality and He loves you warts and all: He loves to hear what YOU think. And LISTEN for Him, although this requires some personal training as there will be three voices trying to talk to you. One is yourself, so if that voice follows your predictable train of thought you can bet its you. Second is the other fellow: if that voice leaves you feeling uncomfortable or even horrid, resist Him, as James advises, and he will flee. The third is the gentle voice of Our Lord: usually his reply will come from outside right field - way off your train of thought and will ALWAYS be accompanied by an uplifting feeling of peace, love, and often, “why didn’t I think of that!” Our Lord always calls you by your name; the other fellow hates you and it comes across if he tries to impersonate HIS MASTER and speak your name.
Of course, for set prayers you can’t beat Jesus’ teaching, "when you pray, pray like this: “Our Father…”. And try to listen. “Our Father Who art in Heaven”; “yes, My son?” “Don’t interrupt, I’m praying!”😃
 
I use the Publican’s Prayerbook or the Jordanville. I’d really like to try the Holy Trinity Monastery one though. I also say akathists to my favourite saints.
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It would be the Usual Beginning Prayers, Psalm 50 and the morning or evening prayers. And of course the Jesus Prayer.

The Anthology has daily prayers, and the Little Hours as well. These are easily prayed, perhaps one hour per day, and all of the necessary troparia and kontakia are included. The Anthology also has the Canon of Preparation for Holy Communion and all of the pre- and post-Communion prayers.

Small Compline also is easily prayed using the Canon of Supplication to the Mother of God and there are several versions on-line of this service that can be prayed privately.

In terms of general prayer books, besides the Anthology and the Horologion after using many others I still prefer the Old Orthodox Prayer Book (I still use the first edition, which is no longer in print) but my wife prefers the Jordanville.
 
One good resource (geared mainly toward mothers) is Holly Pierlot’s A Mother’s Rule of Life.
 
This is personal: the Lord requested me to devote a half-hour of prime time (early mornings) to Him. I am simply to sit and be with Him: no prayers, no bible readings, no singing or other mental distractions, just be with Him. I find this difficult, more so because I used to close my eyes but The Lord said “open your eyes, Ian: everything you see is made by Me. Be aware of my beautiful world.” Sometimes weeks will go past without any word from the Lord; it is then I remind myself that my Father is also Almighty God and ANY word from Him is a tremendous honour. Recently, after a longish time of silence, I said, “Speak, Lord, your servant is listening.” Immediately He said: “You are not my servant, Ian, you are my son!” I wept.
The morning prayer of one of my friends, as he wakes, is to raise his hand and say, “catch hold, Lord, I’m getting up for the day!”🙂
I did go to a spiritual advisor, a Charismatic priest, Father Leo Taggart and asked him that very question. He said the same thing as the Lord later said to me: "be aware of this beautiful world, Ian. Whenever a bird sings, I say, “I hear You, Lord.” Then he stopped, “but you speak in tongues! What better way to praise Him!”
PS On a retreat once, a Nun rushed past me looking anxious. I said, “don’t worry Sister it may never happen!” She said, “oh it has, I haven’t done my three hours this morning yet.” I felt blessed: I only have half-an-hour to do!!!😃
 
I know all prayer rules should be devised with a spiritual father, but I am just trying to gather a little general information. What would a typical lay person’s prayer rule look like, especially what prayers would be promienent? For example a devout RC might typically pray a Rosary and Chaplet of Divine Mercy everyday. Thanks for the help!
Something that draws you near to God. If it don’t work for you, don’t do it or if it works for you do, do it. You will learn with trial and error. My personal prayer rule though I don’t call it a rule in that sense but what I do is just try to focus on the Presence of God. Thats it. No words. For me personally, words are pointless because God does already know what we want/need and for me personally, He isn’t the one that grants them as such but we achieve by working together with each other. So I don’t waste any time with lots of petitions because not only I can’t see where they are going, which is my real basis for not praying with words, but since then, knowing that God already knows and sees what we want and need, he isn’t going to just give, but wants us to work them out amongst each other. So my prayer rule is simple just trying to focus on the Presence of God. Sometimes I feel him by doing so. A few times He has come to me in this way. And sometimes I feel like I fail but try to tell myself God is here. Its taken me 25 years to get to where I am relatively happy about prayer with God and okay I don’t do any of the worded prayers at home but that how it works best for me and yes I didn’t suddenly achieve this though had glimpses in the past but didn’t know what I was doing. But received good guidence that helped get me here only this year so prayer in itself is a life long journey and your need of what style of prayer will change in time. I do remember asking very early on about prayer but the advice was whilst standard, didn’t help me that much where as the place where I was at this year and the support I received helped me enormously because he was able to listen to me and help me find a way I can do where as the priest 25 year ago couldn’t. He just gave an answer that is correct teaching but was unable to help me find my way with it.

Perhaps you might like to look up Benedictine website and the Oblate Order because they have a set prayer routine. I know I couldn’t do it at all but we are all purposefully different
 
Something that draws you near to God. If it don’t work for you, don’t do it or if it works for you do, do it. You will learn with trial and error. My personal prayer rule though I don’t call it a rule in that sense but what I do is just try to focus on the Presence of God. Thats it. No words. For me personally, words are pointless because God does already know what we want/need and for me personally, He isn’t the one that grants them as such but we achieve by working together with each other. So I don’t waste any time with lots of petitions because not only I can’t see where they are going, which is my real basis for not praying with words, but since then, knowing that God already knows and sees what we want and need, he isn’t going to just give, but wants us to work them out amongst each other. So my prayer rule is simple just trying to focus on the Presence of God. Sometimes I feel him by doing so. A few times He has come to me in this way. And sometimes I feel like I fail but try to tell myself God is here. Its taken me 25 years to get to where I am relatively happy about prayer with God and okay I don’t do any of the worded prayers at home but that how it works best for me and yes I didn’t suddenly achieve this though had glimpses in the past but didn’t know what I was doing. But received good guidence that helped get me here only this year so prayer in itself is a life long journey and your need of what style of prayer will change in time. I do remember asking very early on about prayer but the advice was whilst standard, didn’t help me that much where as the place where I was at this year and the support I received helped me enormously because he was able to listen to me and help me find a way I can do where as the priest 25 year ago couldn’t. He just gave an answer that is correct teaching but was unable to help me find my way with it.

Perhaps you might like to look up Benedictine website and the Oblate Order because they have a set prayer routine. I know I couldn’t do it at all but we are all purposefully different
Thank you, Rose: that’s exactly my prayer routine and why. Years ago, when I was young in the Spirit, I went to a day of renewal conducted a Catholic priest (sorry, can’t remember his name). During Mass he suddenly called to an old Nun, “stop praying for yourself, Sister, you won’t go to Purgatory - its full up!” I felt guilty, because I often prayed for myself. Suddenly I had a vision of a log jam; the Lord said, “that’s what happens when you pray for yourself, Ian. When you pray for somebody and that somebody prays for someone else and so on until someone eventually prays for you. That way the prayers are like logs floating serenely down the river. As soon as someone prays for himself, there’s a log jam.”:). The other reason I concentrate on the Lord is because I EXPECT Him to answer. Thomas Merton wrote: “For mature Christians prayer becomes a dialogue.” When I pray, I listen for an answer: if one doesn’t come, I leave that one with the Lord and move on to the next. But beware: I have prayed “Lord, please help John, he has no money .” Answer: “Why don’t YOU go and give him some, Ian!” Whoops! And often: “please heal Susie of her depression, Lord.” “You go around and cheer her up, Ian.”😊
Once I had a spiritual problem. I didn’t pray - as Rose says He knows - but the lord kept insisting “ring Leo” (he was my spiritual director some years ago). I rang him out of the blue and told him the Lord told me to ring him. “Oh, isn’t that wonderful, Ian. I preached at an open air Mass last sunday and caught cold, so I’m feeling sorry for myself. Isn’t the Lord wonderful, telling you to ring and cheer me up.” I felt guilty.:o
 
I’d say look up the Daily Office, either in Latin, or Byzantine Rite (or any other rite, for this matter). I just subscribed to the Byzantine Daily Office, at ecpubs; and it’s pretty extensive, and offers different packages: complete, lite, and propers. I hope this helps!
 
I’m 76 and must have said a lorra lorra “Glory Be’s” in my cradle Catholic life. But it was only THIS MORNING that my devotions came to a juddering halt: I could not say “Amen” to “world without end”. Surely the world IS going to end…and soon, by the signs?:confused:
 
Devout Copts will pray the Agpeya every day. Even people who aren’t very good at it (e.g., me) will generally try to pray Prime and Compline hours from it everyday (I carry an abbreviated Agpeya on me at all times with just those two hours in it, so that I can use it while I’m out and about). Here is an average Coptic Orthodox person’s take on daily prayer, which I agree with even though I don’t have so many nice icons and other helps as that guy does. :o
 
Buddhists, who have great ideas about how to live amicably with others and the world, seem to have perfected painless prayers when it comes to Buddha. A thousand prayers are written around the rim of a prayer wheel: one spin as you pass and a thousand prayers are sent upstairs!🙂 Even more ergonomical are prayer flags: simply write all your prayers on a flag and hoist it in a windy place: every flutter and you’ve done a month’s worth of prayers:D
Reminds me of once when I cut short my half-hour morning devotion.
"Sorry Lord, "I said, “but I’ve got a lot of work in the garden today.” The Lord commented, gently: “one morning’s work WITH Me, Ian, will accomplish more than you can do in a week!”
Gotcha, Boss!😃
 
I’m 76 and must have said a lorra lorra “Glory Be’s” in my cradle Catholic life. But it was only THIS MORNING that my devotions came to a juddering halt: I could not say “Amen” to “world without end”. Surely the world IS going to end…and soon, by the signs?:confused:
and what signs may they be IanGE?
If you are assuming that your world gotta end soon then, thats what you are doing, assuming… Both my grandmothers lived till they were 95/94. Another 20 years for you yet may be. Don’t forget either than many don’t get to be in their 70’s. Ones world coming to an end aint about our ages. It just happens.
So you’ve had one blip in your cradle Catholic prayer. I bet you’ve had more blips over various prayers at various times in your life. Focus on now and not the next 5 years.
 
I’m 76 and must have said a lorra lorra “Glory Be’s” in my cradle Catholic life. But it was only THIS MORNING that my devotions came to a juddering halt: I could not say “Amen” to “world without end”. Surely the world IS going to end…and soon, by the signs?:confused:
Ahh. The translation many eastern catholics use is

*Glory to the Father, and to the Son, and to the Holy Spirit, now and ever and unto ages of ages *

Which is a bit more accurate, and to which one can heartily say “amen!”
 
Ahh. The translation many eastern catholics use is

Glory to the Father, and to the Son, and to the Holy Spirit, now and ever and unto ages of ages

Which is a bit more accurate, and to which one can heartily say “amen!”
The monks at the Cistercian monastery near me say

***Glory to the Father, and to the Son, and to the Holy Spirit, the God who is, who was, and who is to come, until the end of the ages. ***

-Tim-
 
and what signs may they be IanGE?
If you are assuming that your world gotta end soon then, thats what you are doing, assuming… Both my grandmothers lived till they were 95/94. Another 20 years for you yet may be. Don’t forget either than many don’t get to be in their 70’s. Ones world coming to an end aint about our ages. It just happens.
So you’ve had one blip in your cradle Catholic prayer. I bet you’ve had more blips over various prayers at various times in your life. Focus on now and not the next 5 years.
Not my world, Rose: THE world, THE End Times, the last book of the NT, Revelation/Apocalypse, perhaps the most baffling Book in the Bible. Plus other mentions of the end times and the signs of their coming all through the NT. Possibly more Commentaries have tried to unfathom those signs than any other Book of the Bible. Many Christians are convinced that we are living in the end times right now. There are committed Christians here in Swindon who have stocked their attics with tinned food:):):)😃 but most of us are sure that we will be caught up in the rapture and taken upstairs to watch Anti-Christ get his come uppance in Armageddon. "Go on, Michel, give him one!!!😃 MARANATHA!
 
I know all prayer rules should be devised with a spiritual father, but I am just trying to gather a little general information. What would a typical lay person’s prayer rule look like, especially what prayers would be promienent? For example a devout RC might typically pray a Rosary and Chaplet of Divine Mercy everyday. Thanks for the help!
I found this for you: byzcath.org/index.php/resources-mainmenu-63/a-rule-of-prayer

I am Roman …so I can not comment further here. Except to say that in the west does it happen that a lay person has a “rule of prayer” or the like? Sure. It will vary according to person etc. I find that a certain “simplicity” is important (not over doing a daily rule)–then one might add various things at differing times to ones daily customary prayer.
 
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