Generally speaking, Diana’s post immediately before yours is an exemplar of the liberal Mormon attitude that I am writing about. Except for They should both be respected as just different callings, because all people are unique.
Now, are you going to contradict Diana?
this is the first time I have ever been described as a ‘liberal’ Mormon…and I am now a tad bit confused.
I certainly don’t see how Zerenius or I contradicted each other in any way.
LJ, the foundation of our belief involves the family. Man and wife together, sealed to their ancestors and their children. Family is *everything. * “Celibacy” is never just a 'different calling."
it is expected of all those who are not married, period.
We do not believe that a deliberate choice to eschew marriage in order to live a celebate life is a good one. Ever. it is always, ALWAYS, simply the expected way to live if marriage is not possible, for whatever reason.
I get the impression that Catholics (and others) consider a life of celibacy to be an honorable thing; above and beyond the call of ordinary living. Someone who chooses to be celibate is considered to have given up something–or made some special sacrifice or effort that makes him or her special in the eyes of God and the church. Celibacy as a calling, as you have put it.
but it’s not a calling, any more than refraining from bashing people over the head on one’s daily walk is a calling. It is an expectation for all of us. We are EXPECTED to be chaste–and that means celibacy outside marriage bonds. It is a basic expectation.
…and it is always a second choice. Marriage is always the first one. There are, however, many reasons that one might not get a chance to marry here–including simply that one doesn’t meet someone who is 'right." Or…one could be homosexual and realize that it would be incredibly unfair to a spouse. (Though very, very, VERY few homosexuals are so far on the homosexual end of the spectrum that they cannot desire/fall in love with someone of the opposite sex.) OR…any number of other reasons. then, of course, one is expected to be celibate.
Not because being celibate is a good first choice.
…but because it is expected of those who cannot marry. Period.