Leaving a "bad" mass

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Like most American Roman Catholics, I’ve seen my fill of “Liturgical Horrors” and walked out of some. However, as the years went by, this convert found the Traditional Latin Mass (TLM) and I’ve NEVER gone back. Can’t say I’ve ever seen typical Novus Ordo problems at the TLM. (I am an indult TLM Catholic.)

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I would not walk out, even if I had my teenaged children with me. If the Eucharist was invalid, I would not receive it. This week I did attend a life teen Mass that was rather difficult to sit through and I used the experience to teach my son. Together we looked for the elements of the Mass that is present in all Masses. We discussed what was illicit and what was just not to our taste. In the end my son told me he learned something very helpful. He learned he didn’t care for the life teen Mass.
 
One thing that bothers me is that the parish I attend is the parish in which I was baptised. It is my parish and I don’t want some stupid priest to drive me away. Besides, if you leave, you can’t annoy them anymore. My pastor calls me the Liturgy Police. I accept that title proudly
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AMEN! I feel the same way. After our priest told me I should go elsewere, I refused. This is MY parish, not his. I live here, he’s just passing through. In fact, he’s leaving this week!

I decided it was my job to afflict the comfortable (wish I had thought of Litury Police) & sat front & center every Sunday. 🙂
 
You leave the Mass, call the Bishop immediately and see if he can get there in time to laisize (sp?) the “priest.” In any event, you certainly have NO obligation to stay, and you would not be required to attend another Mass that day; however, I would still do so in order to receive the Blessed Sacrament. In any event, I don’t attend Novus Ordo at all, so this would not be a problem for me. Canon Law makes it very clear that the Priest must say the Mass according to the rubrics, and if he does not we can have a “moral impossibility” and be dispensed from having to attend Mass. In that case, you would have already attended a Mass that would fulfill your obligation. God bless.
 
If there were another Mass available that day, I would take my children and leave. I make it a point to not be critical of the Church or of priests to my children, but I would surely sit them down and tell them why I did what I did, and why what they saw at that particular Mass was in error.
 
The original post was supposing we were on travel and found the nearest church in the phone book. I go to Mass not out of fulfilling my obligation, but because I want the Eucharist…I want (need) to take Holy Communion. When I travel out of town, I ordinarily am visiting in cities unfamiliar to me…also, around here at least, most Masses begin at the same time(s).

I would never leave a Mass for fear that I would end up missing one completely that day, which would break my heart (LOL, I’m exaggerating a bit but I would feel sad). As long as I know that Mass is valid, I’m staying.

But I have been to Masses in my own area (that LIfe Teen Mass immediately comes to mind) and no, I would not go back there and I would not take my daughter back there. But travelling? I can’t take the chance I’ll miss Holy Communion by leaving a Church I probably had difficulty finding to begin with (I usually pre-plan my travel Masses by visiting www.masstimes.org).

JELane
 
I had a very upsetting experience this weekend at mass and I know that I can trust all here to help me sort out how to handle how I feel. I have heard of sacred dance before but had never attended a mass before. This was a confirmation mass with 10 young canidates, our Bishop was present and officiated. The mass began with a 14-16 year old girl running down the main aisle in dance. As she turned I was sick to see that she held the holy oil in her hands. As the dance progressed she lifted her hands to the crucifix at the altar, her skirt hem was attatched to her hands, so up goes the hands and up goes the skirt! Bare legs and her underwear!! I was simply horrified. It was all so distracting and I felt like crying. I almost left. It was even worse at offetory, So after communion I left shaken. I feel like giving up I am completely wore out. I have been to every parish in the community and each one is so progressive that I always leave feeling distracted and disoriented. I love my faith and I love my church, please help me find a way to practice without feeling like an orphan. My most sincere thanks to all you faithful people of God. God Bless
 
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delorean_boy:
I had a very upsetting experience this weekend at mass and I know that I can trust all here to help me sort out how to handle how I feel. I have heard of sacred dance before but had never attended a mass before. This was a confirmation mass with 10 young canidates, our Bishop was present and officiated. The mass began with a 14-16 year old girl running down the main aisle in dance. As she turned I was sick to see that she held the holy oil in her hands. As the dance progressed she lifted her hands to the crucifix at the altar, her skirt hem was attatched to her hands, so up goes the hands and up goes the skirt! Bare legs and her underwear!! I was simply horrified. It was all so distracting and I felt like crying. I almost left. It was even worse at offetory, So after communion I left shaken. I feel like giving up I am completely wore out. I have been to every parish in the community and each one is so progressive that I always leave feeling distracted and disoriented. I love my faith and I love my church, please help me find a way to practice without feeling like an orphan. My most sincere thanks to all you faithful people of God. God Bless
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You can go to a Traditional Latin Mass that has no innovation, ever. It is the Mass as the Church has had for over 1500 years. Go to latinmass.org for information or email me at **********************@**************. God bless.
 
I have never left a mass, since I always think that even if humans fail, God is there. However I came very close one time. The priest introduced a visiting priest who gave the homily. He proceeded to bash our government, talk about a plan to take a bus to an Army base about 4 hours away to protest, and invited us all to a planning meeting for it later that day. I was at my child’s college parish, and for once I was glad she was at work and unable to join us. Later I asked if she had attended a mass where he spoke later in the day. It was one time I talked to my adult children about not always going along with their church and that they needed to learn to think about what they were doing. I was so offended but never wrote to the church. It was then that I realized that we have liberal churches as well as conservative.
This same church recently offended me again in the priests discussion of his Bishops letter. He made very light of the Holy Eucharist question in conjunction with the politicians.
I don’t think I will be going there again, but will find the other parish in town.
 
I still remain.

Christ is still present on the altar, and I am there to worship Him.

If it turns out that I am the single person there who is worshipping Him as He truly deserves, can I do any less for my Savior.

and maybe my prayers and example can touch hearts.
 
I have both stayed and left illicitly celebrated Masses. My choice depended on the availability of alternatives. When I travel, I try to research ahead of time the times of Masses at the various churches within a reasonable commuting distance. I’ll attend the earliest Mass and, if it proves problematical, I’ll leave and attend another one. However, I have been stuck in remote areas where you only have one choice. Then, I grin and bear it and pray for all those present.
 
JElane:
The original post was supposing we were on travel and found the nearest church in the phone book. I go to Mass not out of fulfilling my obligation, but because I want the Eucharist…I want (need) to take Holy Communion. When I travel out of town, I ordinarily am visiting in cities unfamiliar to me…also, around here at least, most Masses begin at the same time(s).

I would never leave a Mass for fear that I would end up missing one completely that day, which would break my heart (LOL, I’m exaggerating a bit but I would feel sad). As long as I know that Mass is valid, I’m staying.

JELane
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Neither would I. The idea of leaving a valid Mass, and then not finding another is too scary. I have left a bad Mass before, but I’ve generally known there was another one I could attend (and known where it was).

John
 
If I were traveling I probably stay so I wouldn’t risk missing Mass. Unless I had some certainty the Eucharist was invalid in which case I would leave.

However, I have left Mass in my hometown parish. Sister was invited to give the homily during Catholic Schools week. I guess you could say it was the last straw. And I believe the pastor was trying to stick to me so I figured I would leave since staying probably would have been a near occasion of sin. :banghead: So I called my Mom and had her call a different church to find out when it had it’s last Mass of the day.
 
I attended a funeral mass that had “liturgical dancers” at the very end, the were immodestly dressed. I had heard of this but this was my first experience. it was bishop’s mass, so I felt helpless to “tell the bishop”. I cried, but it was a funeral. It did not occur to me (then) to leave, but now I have thought about it and will be better prepared in the future.

I don’t believe that the Tridentine mass, although beautiful, is the end all answer to liturgical abuse. We need to fix the problem.

-Tex
O Blood and Water which gushed forth from the Heart of Jesus as a fountain of Mercy for us; I trust in You!
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My one bad experience w/ a Mass in an unfamiliar city, we stayed–we didn’t know we would be able to find another Mass (time and location issues, since the city did not have street maps in the phone book). Until it actually came time to receive, it looked like it could still be valid (though weird). However, what we were given at communion was a lump of what appeared to be raw gingerbread (tasted like it, too). :eek: We ended up unable to find another Mass after this–what can you do? We made our best effort.

All you can do is pray that these “I’m ever so much cleverer” folk will wake up and realize that all they’re doing is smearing our window on Heaven.
 
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