Leaving CAF??

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For the last 4 days, I have been notifying a few of you of my intent to permanently dis-enroll from CAF. Two reasons basically: first, feeling like an orange in a cart of apples because of my “un”-orthodoxy, distaste for being “corrected” rather than discussed with, and uncertainty I was being helpful because of possibly being viewed as one of those “bad” Catholics who might lead the young astray. The second reason is that I am supposed to be writing a book per strong encouragement and guilting by my sp. dir. and I have found myself using this forum for procrastination purposes.

So, after four days of a few of you worried I was “mad,” I thought I’d just air my feelings and dilemmas above. One of you has engaged me in a PM dialogue long enough to make it difficult to sign off! I don’t know if that was intended but it is having that affect.

Per the second reason, I saw my sp. dir. yesterday (who is UN-orthodox, by the way–🤷), who basically said two words, self-discipline and boundaries. He also said in essence, lighten up. Strange for someone who is not a fan of CA and CAF.

So now I’m re-considering and I thought that perhaps there are some who would be glad to see me go and some who would like to see me stay. Feel free to address those two reasons. Even if I stay, it would help my feelings about this place. But I thought it would be unfair to just disappear or be mad/hurt and not be open to (name removed by moderator)ut. You guys are people too. 😃
 
Dear Bailey2,
Do not leave. I’ve seen your posts and although I disagree with your point of view sometimes that should not be reason to leave. I know what you mean about procrstination though. Periodicly, I need to disingage and let my life resume normal proportions and pace.I can get too wrapped around the axles with some of the threads.

Anyway, pace yourself, and don’t leave.
 
sounds like good advice from your spiritual director. i don’t agree with everything but have learned a tremendous amount on this site. I also enjoy all the comentary. Stay, relax and enjoy. Take care.
 
Dear Bailey2,

I’ve considered leaving the CAF forum myself and for the same general reasons you have stated. I don’t come here as often as I used to. I am a regularly practicing Catholic and consider myself, in good conscience, to be a Catholic in “good standing” even though I don’t vote as the American Bishops insist that I should. I must answer to God, not to them.

Leaving, of course, is your decision alone. But rather than just walking away, maybe you could just browse the topics and read what others have to say,without jumping into the icy waters yourself. At least, that helped me.

I wish you all the best.
 
i leave the forums when i get busy.
i leave threads when they get too argumentative.
then i come back
i try to maintain more of an eye on the prayer requests… but honestly? if you are using ANY forum for procrastination… you need a break.
computers are the great time eater you know.

but
when you say “i am leaving forever! good bye cruel blogs!” well, NATURALLY people will go “hey! no… did i say something wrong? i like your posts. wait!”

wheras if you just say “i will have to spend more time on my work, and will not be on line much for a bit… just figured i would let you know so you dont worry” you get a different response.
 
Bailey2 said:
For the last 4 days, I have been notifying a few of you of my intent to permanently dis-enroll from CAF. Two reasons basically: first, feeling like an orange in a cart of apples because of my “un”-orthodoxy, distaste for being “corrected” rather than discussed with, and uncertainty I was being helpful because of possibly being viewed as one of those “bad” Catholics who might lead the young astray.
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Wow! You mean I’m not the only one like that here?

Please stay, I need the company.
 
sawman said:
Dear Bailey2,
Do not leave. I’ve seen your posts and although I disagree with your point of view sometimes that should not be reason to leave. I know what you mean about procrstination though. Periodicly, I need to disingage and let my life resume normal proportions and pace.I can get too wrapped around the axles with some of the threads.

Anyway, pace yourself, and don’t leave.
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I like your location. 😛
 
Dear Bailey2,

Though I check on CAF regularly, I don’t necessarily read every thread. I must admit t I wasn’t aware of your intention of leaving CAF and the harshness you may have experienced on this forum.

It is great you are told to write a book by your SD. By all means do it as you are inspired. CAF should not be the reason of an obstacle.
I am sure if you refrain yourself from spending too much time online, you will have enough time to do what you are called to do.

And as usual, always ask for God’s strength and wisdom to help you through. God bless!
 
Bailey2 said:
For the last 4 days, I have been notifying a few of you of my intent to permanently dis-enroll from CAF. Two reasons basically: first, feeling like an orange in a cart of apples because of my “un”-orthodoxy, distaste for being “corrected” rather than discussed with, and uncertainty I was being helpful because of possibly being viewed as one of those “bad” Catholics who might lead the young astray. The second reason is that I am supposed to be writing a book per strong encouragement and guilting by my sp. dir. and I have found myself using this forum for procrastination purposes.

So, after four days of a few of you worried I was “mad,” I thought I’d just air my feelings and dilemmas above. One of you has engaged me in a PM dialogue long enough to make it difficult to sign off! I don’t know if that was intended but it is having that affect.

Per the second reason, I saw my sp. dir. yesterday (who is UN-orthodox, by the way–🤷), who basically said two words, self-discipline and boundaries. He also said in essence, lighten up. Strange for someone who is not a fan of CA and CAF.

So now I’m re-considering and I thought that perhaps there are some who would be glad to see me go and some who would like to see me stay. Feel free to address those two reasons. Even if I stay, it would help my feelings about this place. But I thought it would be unfair to just disappear or be mad/hurt and not be open to (name removed by moderator)ut. You guys are people too. 😃
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Are you writing a book out of pressure and guilt? Did I understand that correctly? What is a SP director; I am ignorant of the acronyms. For example, I thought Fr was for friar and not father…LOL. I was corrected. Go dbless and will check back later.
 
Masters_Servant said:
Are you writing a book out of pressure and guilt? Did I understand that correctly? What is a SP director; I am ignorant of the acronyms. For example, I thought Fr was for friar and not father…LOL. I was corrected. Go dbless and will check back later.
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SP is spiritual director. I am fortunate to have one, a priest; my confessor also.
The book is something I thought of doing but resisted doing… for several years actually… one of those nagging thought things. My spiritual director, whom I keep nothing from basically told me it was a sin of omission to not use my talent to help people. That’s what I meant by guilting. I have no pressure to write; I love to write. I know I can help people. I am just lazy like most everyone else I know! 😊
 
I’ve been thinking about this on and off today…

Perhaps instead of permanently signing off as a way to force my self-discipline or avoid confrontation… I should simply do as several of you have said, limit my time and posts here.

As for those of you who say you feel the same way I do, why the heck don’t you befriend me? I came here for friends and found myself alienating myself instead. 😦 Another reason I was getting off here… I mean I’d welcome interaction with everyone but I understand how some probably wouldn’t want that. I just thought I was quite alone in my feelings here and most would simply be happy to see me leave.

OK, thanks.
 
Bailey2 said:
SP is spiritual director. I am fortunate to have one, a priest; my confessor also.
The book is something I thought of doing but resisted doing… for several years actually… one of those nagging thought things. My spiritual director, whom I keep nothing from basically told me it was a sin of omission to not use my talent to help people. That’s what I meant by guilting. I have no pressure to write; I love to write. I know I can help people. ** I am just lazy like most everyone else I know! ** 😊
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LOL, I cannot argue that one. What is the overall theme of the book you intend to write and is it the book you hope will help people or was that separate from the book? From what I have been able to gather it seems the Catholic Church in the US is short handed when it comes to clergy or perhaps spread too thin based on the number of church’s. i believe this is a real problem facing many churches in the US and may be a signal of judgment on the nation as a whole for rejecting His moral principals and worshiping the creation rather than the Creator as the founding fathers implicitly stated in the US Constitution and what Romans 1 states in certain terms.

God bless and I look forward to hearing more about the book.
 
Masters_Servant said:
LOL, I cannot argue that one. What is the overall theme of the book you intend to write and is it the book you hope will help people or was that separate from the book? From what I have been able to gather it seems the Catholic Church in the US is short handed when it comes to clergy or perhaps spread too thin based on the number of church’s. i believe this is a real problem facing many churches in the US and may be a signal of judgment on the nation as a whole for rejecting His moral principals and worshiping the creation rather than the Creator as the founding fathers implicitly stated in the US Constitution and what Romans 1 states in certain terms.

God bless and I look forward to hearing more about the book.
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Actually, I’m keeping the topic of the book to myself; I don’t want to be known here as the one writing “that” book. 😃 But I will say it has nothing to do with church teachings, hot buttons, controversial issues, etc. It is simply a book to help people, share faith, and hopefully give people more hope and purpose. That’s all.
 
I have been really touched by the PM’s I have received and by some responses here. I really feel at peace with all this. I think I just had to get it out in the open, so to speak. Seems I have friends here I didn’t even know I had and some of them even disagree with me most of the time!

So again thanks.
 
Bailey2 said:
Actually, I’m keeping the topic of the book to myself; I don’t want to be known here as the one writing “that” book. 😃 But I will say it has nothing to do with church teachings, hot buttons, controversial issues, etc. It is simply a book to help people, share faith, and hopefully give people more hope and purpose. That’s all.
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Well I wish you the best on your writing and hope you get motivated and also hope your goal is achieved to help other in their faith as the Lord wills for you. God bless and thanks for sharing.
 
Wow, good for you for the book! I have always wanted to write one myself, but I know I am to lazy to commit myself to it. I have to much on plate as it is. Besides that, I have no idea what I would write about. LOL

Hope you do stay, while I have never read your posts, I will look them up now. Diversity is good man. 🙂
 
Sailer Kenshin, I HAVE DECIDED TO STAY!! SEE ABOVE POSTS!!

I think I have misinterpreted the situation here. I may be an orange in a basket of apples. But there are also tangerines, pears, and different kinds of apples: fuji, mccintosh, cameo, etc. I think after this thread, I belong here. And I hope others who posted here thinking as I do will see that too. 😃

But, I will be more prudent about visiting CAF and where to post. I think sometimes I am a legend in my own mind and cross over into topics I know nothing about. 🤷
 
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