Leaving your folks behind

[water]

I don’t know how one handles leaving them…
Pax Christi tecum.

I don’t have experience to answer this question yet, but I think that it is important to pray and learn to let go of small things being attached to our daily lives. If this is possible, we will have more trust and peace in God to let go of other things.

 

[strugglingalong]

I don’t have experience to answer this question yet, but I think that it is important to pray and learn to let go of small things being attached to our daily lives. If this is possible, we will have more trust and peace in God to let go of other things.

I understand. But they are our parents…I just can’t imagine.

Pax Christi tecum.

 

[water]

I understand. But they are our parents…I just can’t imagine.

Pax Christi tecum.

My vocation director told me “let the dead bury the dead”. It sounds cold, but that is what Jesus said. In fact, if God is calling you to a particular religious life, I am sure He will make it possible for you no matter how it seems to be impossible to you right now.

Also, I think that we shouldn’t think too far ahead. We do not receive enough graces to understand what will take place in our lives at the future moment - we will not be able to imagine how possible it is to leave our parents. Focusing on the present moment and ask God to help you fulfill it.

 

[strugglingalong]

My vocation director told me “let the dead bury the dead”. It sounds cold, but that is what Jesus said. In fact, if God is calling you to a particular religious life, I am sure He will make it possible for you no matter how it seems to be impossible to you right now.

Also, I think that we shouldn’t think too far ahead. We do not receive enough graces to understand what will take place in our lives at the future moment - we will not be able to imagine how possible it is to leave our parents. Focusing on the present moment and ask God to help you fulfill it.

Thank you! That is very, very good advice.

Pax Christi tecum.

 

[Nick9]

You broke down my post very well. Thanks! Yes, through those events, God has given me more faith and trust in Him. It is not huge faith but it is certainly better than years ago. I could also see my mother, father, and sister are more devoted to their spiritual lives.

it was a pleasure to read, thank you! This is more confirmation that if we act in faith in what we believe to be God’s will, we will be rewarded with an increased faith and those who we feel will be neglected by our following God’s will are blessed even more than if we stayed. God is good.

 

[Nick9]

I have to say that recently I’ve thought that God may be calling me to a semi-erimetical life or to a cloistered religious life.

so have I

I’ve thought about leaving my parents, who I am very very close to, and it makes me cry just thinking of it. Honestly, I don’t know if I could do it.

I feel the same. I love my parents very much and I know they love me. It is heartbreaking

I’d have to at least be able to see them once a year or something like that. If it is what God wants me to do, I’ll do it but it’ll be very difficult. I’d rather join a religious order that will allow me to be more able to visit them…

the order I am looking at allows 10 days of visiting a year in the guest house. This seems ok and they can visit on days in between I think.

I don’t know how one handles leaving them…

I don’t know either as I haven’t done it yet, but I think if we are called to leave them, God will compensate for our absence. As water said, an increase of faith was given to his family and no doubt consolation as well. After all, producing a son who is called into God’s service is a great credit to them and they will be rewarded for that.

My brother phoned me yesterday and asked me when I was going into the monastery and when I told him, he gave out some expletive or other, as if it was a great disaster. He will also take it hard. He has been estranged from my parents for nearly two years, but recently he has softened towards them and has started to visit them. I believe that when I am gone (God willing) he will take my place and look out for them. I see this as part of God’s providence towards my parents.