Ok I have forgotten since last year. I have never fasted because I am diabetic and was told I am exempt from this. I want to go to confession tomorrow because I am moving and can get back into Mass regularly. I also didn’t think and ate a hamburger today. Now it’s Friday so what I should’ve done then was got Fish right? Do I need provided I get to confession tomorrow to confess that I had beef today because I forgot? Is that mortal or venial sin or neither since I forgot?
We are not required to do something that is harmful to our health.
As I said before, we can offer the self-discipline of strictly following a diabetic diet in the place of offering the self-discipline of fasting. To tell the truth, it is a lot harder than fasting. It isn’t just one day. It is every day. Make yourself follow the regimen prescribed or recommended by your doctor. View food as medicine which must be taken at the required dosage at the required time consisting of the correct foods.
Abstaining from meat does not affect diabetes since there are multiple protein sources available to substitute.
The Church does not make up rules to confound the faithful. There is a purpose to fasting and abstaining. We need to look at what spiritual benefit comes from telling the body, “No”.
Lent is a time when we follow our Lord into the desert to be tempted. Purposely fasting and abstaining gives us something to be tempted with, something small, I won’t eat meat one day in the week; I will have small meals for one day of the year. The Church gives this to us to help us strengthen our ability to withstand temptation. It strengthens our “NO” muscles so that when a bigger temptation comes along it is not beyond our strength.
The other thing the Lord did when He went into the desert was pray. We can also strengthen our ability to withstand temptation by deepening our prayer life. Prayer is not just asking the Lord to do things for us. It is time spent with the Lord.
Most parishes offer Lenten courses. Check them out. I think you would benefit.
To refresh your memory - from the Catechism:
IV. The Gravity of Sin: Mortal and Venial Sin
1857 For a sin to be mortal, three conditions must together be met: "Mortal sin is sin whose object is grave matter and which is also committed with full knowledge and deliberate consent."131
1858 Grave matter is specified by the Ten Commandments, corresponding to the answer of Jesus to the rich young man: "Do not kill, Do not commit adultery, Do not steal, Do not bear false witness, Do not defraud, Honor your father and your mother."132 The gravity of sins is more or less great: murder is graver than theft. One must also take into account who is wronged: violence against parents is in itself graver than violence against a stranger.
1859 Mortal sin requires full knowledge and complete consent. It presupposes knowledge of the sinful character of the act, of its opposition to God’s law. It also implies a consent sufficiently deliberate to be a personal choice. Feigned ignorance and hardness of heart133 do not diminish, but rather increase, the voluntary character of a sin.
1860 Unintentional ignorance can diminish or even remove the imputability of a grave offense. But no one is deemed to be ignorant of the principles of the moral law, which are written in the conscience of every man. the promptings of feelings and passions can also diminish the voluntary and free character of the offense, as can external pressures or pathological disorders. Sin committed through malice, by deliberate choice of evil, is the gravest.
Most parishes offer Confession by appointment, especially if you have a lot to discuss. Here, they will hear a quick Confession before Mass, if you have need. Obviously there are time constraints immediately before Mass so if you anticipate a long discussion, you should call the parish and make an appointment.