Letters to your OBGYNs

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I was talking to a friend who was very upset that one of her 40 days for life friends from college has since become a pro-choice obgyn.

It sounded to me like over time all the maternal deaths and baby deaths and miscarriages and DNCs take such an emotional toll that they almost have to think of us all as just guts to survive sometimes. The patients that live stop coming. That’s the nature of the specialty.

Then I got to thinking maybe we owe it to these doctors to help them not to slip into despair. To help them see the families they have helped grow and know they are a part of that. To thank them for their work.

I know some people do remember to send a picture of the baby to the office or a family Christmas card. I feel bad that I never have. I want to start. I don’t know if that will seem weird after all this time.

I just really think this is a nuanced angle of the prolife movement we with families are especially equipped for. Keeping doctors connected to the value of the lives and families they serve.

Thoughts?
 
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I don’t think it’s weird if you say thank you or explain how you appreciate what they do. I am sure they would be touched by your words.
 
The rate of depression and suicide among physicians is staggering. They need prayers, encouragement that is real encouragement. Letters that say “What you do is truly the work of God in bringing healing and comfort to people in this world, I will have a Mass said for you and remember you in my daily prayers” would be wonderful, but, don’t put spin on the letter like “I hear you now are pro-choice, please, look at this picture and do not murder babies anymore”.

People do change their views on things, however, third hand accounts like this are simply camulty (spell check not working and I am short on sleep) and/or detraction. Honestly, I’d remind your friend that what she is saying could damage this physicians reputation and she ought take it to prayer instead of to the street.

This could be something like the doctor works in a state where there are not conscience protection laws and he will write an RX for hormonal birth control, someone hears about it and then they accuse the doc of being pro-abortion. There are a million different things that can be spun, best not to encourage the gossip.

I have been accused of being pro choice because I am 100% against abortion in any circumstance, and I am against the death penalty.

The longer one spends, and the deeper one gets in the Pro Life movement, the more you will find that most of the pro life orgs and leaders are okay with permitting abortions with limits. I have met very, very few (cannot find the studies right now, again, sleep deprived with a husband in ICU) there is polling out there that says only 18% are absolutely pro life with no exceptions. If you add in the other life issues (death penalty for example) that number drops even more.

Remember, kindness in all things, love your enemies, do good to your enemies. This is a command from Christ himself!
 
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don’t put spin on the letter like “I hear you now are pro-choice, please, look at this picture and do not murder babies anymore”.
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Oh certainly not. No connecting any dots for them, just thanking them for their work.
 
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TheLittleLady said:
People do change their views on things, however, third hand accounts like this are simply camulty (spell check not working and I am short on sleep) and/or detraction. Honestly, I’d remind your friend that what she is saying could damage this physicians reputation and she ought take it to prayer instead of to the street.
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A worthwhile reminder. I do not think that was her intention. She didn’t tell me the doctor’s name and only brought me in on the discussion because her conversation she had with this friend went so badly so quickly that she wanted an objective opinion on where she personally misspoke or where it took a wrong turn, there were several.

But you’re right there are trigger happy people out there who do not hesitate to ruin reputations and topple progress.
 
My OB has zillions of baby pictures posted on the wall of his lobby. I think most of his patients send him a photo or Christmas card. He even gives out little pink and blue t-shirts with the name of his practice, so lots of the photos are babies in those shirts. They’ve actually become moderately famous around town. When I’ve mentioned to others that I go to that practice they say, “Oh, did your babies get one of those shirts?”
 
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