Life is Hell God help me

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My life has become hell in the last 2 years. I cannot even believe it myself. I was diagnosed with cancer, my abusive mother moved in, I became estranged from my brothers and some other family. I am in constant pain. My marriage is falling apart . Just attended counseling with my husband and was told it was a failed attempt because he doesn’t acknowledge the problem (Verbal abuse) and he doesn’t want to work it out, Don’t know if I am healing or dying. My life took a 180 degree turn and most days I am ok, bedridden. I crap in a pot beside my bed. None of my extended family save for my abusive mother know of my diagnosis. I can no longer function as mother to three children. Husband will not
pay for cancer treatment. Trying to heal holistically.

My priest hears my confession, monthly. My deacon comes too. I pray a daily rosary. I beg God to help me. I try to help myself. I need your prayers. I feel horribly alone and forsaken. Please pray for me. Please talk to me.
 
You certainly have more than your share of pain and suffering.

I pray that God will bring you healing, peace, and joy – and soon!
 
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 This body too suffers from a diagnosis of cancer. While I have stress as everyone does it is nothing compared to what you have shared. I will keep you in my thoughts for positive outcomes for each of your obstacles to finding health once again for your body and mind. I was loaned a book titled Radical Remission by Kelly A. Turner, ph.d. I mention this because you wrote about going a holistic route with your healing. I am using western medicine as well as some of the things I've read in this book and found it very helpful. One thing mention by the author that most of the survivors she has interviewed have said was most helpful for them was to  have a positive attitude. Much easier said than done but a great place to start to take control of what seems uncontrollable in my view.
 May you be filled with loving kindness. May you be well. May you be peaceful and at ease. May you be happy. Blessings to you and yours.
 
I pray to have my suffering aligned with Mary’s profound suffering and that of Christ on the Cross. I am not afraid to die at this point, because the pain is excruciating…(but my spouse thinks I am healing.) I hope that this may be my spiritual cleansing on earth…my purgatory. I deserve all I get in the way of earthly troubles…I am a sinner. Christ is the one who did not deserve to suffer, nor did his Blessed Mother. Anyone who puts their hands together and prays for me…I ask that you please help me remember to give every humiliation, pain, and sorrow to Our Blessed Lord and His Most Holy Mother. Metanoia1, may God bless you in your diagnosis. May it be a gift, somehow, to us both, these horrible diagnoses.
 
Call 911 and have an ambulance take you to the hospital for treatment.
 
I’m so sorry for what your going threw. I am also passing threw some trails that I can no longer bear but I will be praying for you.
 
Are you in the US?
Do you have insurance?
You need to apply for public assistance.
I’m not sure, but I think your mother and husband may be guilty of neglect in a legal sense (I’m not a lawyer)
 
I agree with what OScarlett said. Do you have a doctor? Who diagnosed your cancer, and what does that doctor say about it now? What treatment is recommended? It shouldn’t be hard for a physician to determine whether you are getting worse or better, and what your next step as far as medical treatment should be.
God bless, praying for you.
 
So sad. You have my prayers. Above advice is good. Do you have a joint checking or savings account? Pay your own bill, or charge it to husband. Call lawyer to confirm in your own mind husband’s financial responsibility to you. You need to get medical treatment immediately.
Forget about spat with brothers. Why did mom move in? To help you with this disability, help with the kids? Does she realize she’s making it harder? How old are your children? They should at least be told that you are very ill. Older ones will be able to help out. Younger ones will try in their own sweet way. Let them know that you love them. A visiting nurse or aide could help with the physical problems.
Your courage and faith in dealing with this situation is so admirable. Don’t give up. Reach out to any and all family and friends, tell them your plight so that they CAN help you. This is an illness that you need help with, not something to be shushed up as though you’re ashamed of it. Would you keep it a secret if you had a broken leg? Of course not. You need help and have the right to ask for it and receive it. God bless you.
 
Thanks for your prayers and suggestions. Mom moved in because she is
feeble. She is depressed since dad died 3 yrs ago…just lost. Kids don’t
want to help much, save for oldest daughter. Boys are not caretakers. All
over 10. Don’t want to burden friends and family. I’m healing holistically
and hope to help others when I come out the other side.
 
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Does your priest know these details of your life, or do you tell him only things related to your confession? I think he or someone else in real life needs to know these details. We are supposed to take the means of healing ourselves which are available, and the holistic route does not seem to be working for you.

I think you need to reach out to more people with some of these details. You have not said why you and your brothers are on bad terms: does it have anything to do with your husband? If so, maybe be more open to what they say?
 
Father and Deacon know all. I believe holistic is taking root. I need time.

My mother was going to move in with brother in Texas (a world away) but
changed her mind last minute and asked to move in with us. Come to find
brother was manipulating her finances…long story. She got wise, brother
enlisted other family to disparage me…Very hard to deal with the illness
and estrangement. Brothers don’t know about illness. I pray for them.
Thanks for reaching out.
 
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You bless me. My belief is strong that I will overcome this by the precious
stripes of Our Blessed Lord. I look to the day when I open a home clinic to
help pthers. I want to glorify Him by serving.
 
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