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Hello everyone I am new to this but as I was on the Internet I figured it was worthy try. The reason I signed up for this is because I feel like I am having issues with my life that if eel I can no longer control. I am 20 years old and a year and a half ago my girlfriend broke up with me. I felt crushed and I still feel the same now. I fell as if god is punishing me because no matter what I do I cannot let go which leads to me getting hurt. I wake up every mourning feeling worthless because she does not want me anymore and I also do not treat my parents as I should. I guess if anyone has any words of advice, any prayers, or anything at all that will help it will be greatly appreciated.
 
Try praying the Rosary every day. It took away my practically perpetual emotional apathy, which lasted almost three years.
 
Hey Reimert 🙂

I am sorry you are feeling terrible about all of this. A break up is a very hard thing. But do you know what the good news is? God is waiting for you to lean on him. He knows you, and LOVES you. He doesn’t think you are worthless, he thinks you are beautiful (handsome :p), a piece of art! And He is the painter. His Love is something more than anyone can ever describe, is it endless, beautiful, the beginning and the end. His love is what you need and your heart desires. If you let His love conquer your heart, His love will overflow, and you will reach to a point where you can not help but even love the most unlike-able.

Our earthly relationships are temporary. Lean on God, give your heart to him, and I give you my word, your heart will never ever be broken by Him.

I used to feel like I always had to look beautiful. I always had to please others before, and at times I felt really insecure about myself. When I let go of all my baggage and gave to Him, he took it and told me he loved me.

I started praying the rosary, it helps alot. Reconciliation is pretty cool too.

Remember that we are not promised to have an always happy life, there will be suffering. If you pray to Jesus today and just give him all your baggage and suffering, he will accept it and help you in this journey. Our crosses are sometimes too big to carry, if you need help, start with Jesus, he carried one Himself.

God bless you!!
 
I agree praying the rosary is very helpful. Ive heard it said sacraments give us much more than we put into them, even from a psychological standpoint (not including graces), which I think is true. Truthfully I would reccommend forgiving those who have hurt you and moving on. I know, ive struggled with that in the past, especially if you feel that it wasnt fair in some way, but your only hurting yourself by holding on to negative feelings.
 
Riemert said:
Hello everyone I am new to this but as I was on the Internet I figured it was worthy try. The reason I signed up for this is because I feel like I am having issues with my life that if eel I can no longer control. I am 20 years old and a year and a half ago my girlfriend broke up with me. I felt crushed and I still feel the same now. I fell as if god is punishing me because no matter what I do I cannot let go which leads to me getting hurt. I wake up every mourning feeling worthless because she does not want me anymore and I also do not treat my parents as I should. I guess if anyone has any words of advice, any prayers, or anything at all that will help it will be greatly appreciated.
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You should be screened for depression. Try to get out and meet other people. The right person for you is out there you just have to find her.
 
Riemert said:
Hello everyone I am new to this but as I was on the Internet I figured it was worthy try. The reason I signed up for this is because I feel like I am having issues with my life that if eel I can no longer control. I am 20 years old and a year and a half ago my girlfriend broke up with me. I felt crushed and I still feel the same now. I fell as if god is punishing me because no matter what I do I cannot let go which leads to me getting hurt. I wake up every mourning feeling worthless because she does not want me anymore and I also do not treat my parents as I should. I guess if anyone has any words of advice, any prayers, or anything at all that will help it will be greatly appreciated.
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Hello Riemart

I am so sorry you have been suffering so much. Love is painful when it goes wrong.I know I have been there myself.Also I have been through it with my children.
Our self worth gets crushed when relationships break down and we feel inadequate. The trouble is we cannot see into the future and what is in store for us.

All I can tell you is there is a future out there for you.The girlfriend you were with was not the one for you and you will meet the one for you when the time is right.

God loves you as He loves each of us His children.He wants each of us to be happy and fulfilled and united to our partner (if a partner is what we are meant to have). It is understandable that you are feeling as you do but honestly God is not causing this to happen.

Try to get involved in activities to give you opportunitites to meet new friends and from there you may find the person for you.

You are in my prayers.God bless you

Lord please help Riemart and bring him confidence strength and courage.Please guide him to move forward in his life that he may meet the right person for him and they will love each other wholly.Please comfort him and grant him ability to move from this state of mind to a positive state of mind and that he will feel Your love for him in his every day life.Thankyou for hearing our prayers Lord Amen

Memorare (Prayer to Our Lady)
Remember, O most gracious Virgin Mary, that never was it known that anyone who fled to your protection, implored your help, or sought your intercession, was left unaided.
Inspired by this confidence, I fly unto you, O Virgin of virgins, my Mother. To you do I come, before you I stand, sinful and sorrowful. O Mother of the Word Incarnate, despise not my petitions, but in your mercy, hear and answer me. Amen
 
Memorare (Prayer to Our Lady)
Remember, O most gracious Virgin Mary, that never was it known that anyone who fled to your protection, implored your help, or sought your intercession, was left unaided.
Inspired by this confidence, I fly unto you, O Virgin of virgins, my Mother. To you do I come, before you I stand, sinful and sorrowful. O Mother of the Word Incarnate, despise not my petitions, but in your mercy, hear and answer me Amen
 
Mother Mary, I entrust Riemert to your loving care. Please help him to persevere in faith and in a state of grace, and help him to keep focused on God and on Heaven – and not on his past or on his ex-girlfriend.

Hail Mary…

Amen.
 
Memorare (Prayer to Our Lady)
Remember, O most gracious Virgin Mary, that never was it known that anyone who fled to your protection, implored your help, or sought your intercession, was left unaided.
Inspired by this confidence, I fly unto you, O Virgin of virgins, my Mother. To you do I come, before you I stand, sinful and sorrowful. O Mother of the Word Incarnate, despise not my petitions, but in your mercy, hear and answer me. Amen
 
Hail Mary full of grace the Lord is with thee
blessed art thou among women and
blessed is the fruit of thy womb Jesus
Holy Mary mother of God pray for us
sinners now and at the hour of our death
Amen.
 
Hi buddy!!

I’m a 21 year old guy…and i’ve been/am going through EXACTLY the same thing as you. After my breakup, i decided to be a “man” about things and just get on with life. That was a mistake. i’ve learned now that you need to talk to people you trust about what happened and how you are feeling. I didnt, and a year later i was so depressed that i was trying to hang myself! One day i just cracked and told an old friend what i was going through, and see just getting that off my chest, it was the beginning of my healing.

I’ll be honest, i’m still not fully mended, but i’ve found God again, which has made the moast difference of all! It was only through finding Jesus again that my depression lifted. I’m not going to lie, i havnt found another girl since…but i know if i open out my life to God’s will, just as Mary did, then God will provide me with the wife i long for.

My advice:

Talk about how you feel and mourn your loss.
Try to avoid falling into any vices (i’m still trying to get over my masturbation addiction i developed when i was depressed).
Trust in God, knowing that he has things all worked out for the best (i couldnt see God’s work until i looked back at my life
Pray pray pray!
Finally, know that there are people out there who are in the same position. You are not alone. i know what you’re going through and i’ll pray, direct from Belfast, that you’ll get through this soon…because i care.

May God bless you and help and guide you through this most difficult time in your life.

Frankie
 
Memorare (Prayer to Our Lady)
Remember, O most gracious Virgin Mary, that never was it known that anyone who fled to your protection, implored your help, or sought your intercession, was left unaided.
Inspired by this confidence, I fly unto you, O Virgin of virgins, my Mother. To you do I come, before you I stand, sinful and sorrowful. O Mother of the Word Incarnate, despise not my petitions, but in your mercy, hear and answer me. Amen
 
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