Sounds like a good opportunity to offer your sufferings to God. I don’t say this flippantly. As a mother of 5 young children, I haven’t been able to completely focus on the Divine Liturgy/Mass in years. I would much prefer a Mass in which I don’t have to take a child out to the bathroom, moderate children talking, continuously remind my 10 year old daughter to keep her body oriented toward the front, etc. I’m sure you would prefer a Mass in which I didn’t have to do that sort of thing, too.

The reality is that life is full of distractions, and those among us who are more easily distracted have got to learn to deal with them. With your ADHD, you have likely struggled with this your whole life, more than most. I can understand why you want your time in Mass to be a refuge from the world, but perhaps ADHD and the consequent stress and frustration at mass is your cross to bear. Some people are gifted with the ability to completely tune things out. My husband, God bless him, is one of them. He can be sitting, deep in prayer and completely focused on God, while the children chatter and do handstands around him.

I get so angry with him because of this sometimes; mostly it is because it leaves me all alone to deal with the kids, but I’m also jealous that he gets to pray and I don’t. He doesn’t get this cross, but he has others.
Will you join my prayer that, rather than focus our frustration and anger at others’ behavior, we can pray for the grace to have fortitude and perseverance in carrying our own cross.