Little advice .... am I allowed to do this?

[anna1978]

Bunny, at 21 you’re too young for a hysterectomy, especially as there are other ways…I have PCOS, weigh 19 stone and have an incompetent cervix (no problem, as long as the doctors KNOW: mine was just stitched shut! I didn’t even go into labour naturally, again: c-section, no problem!) I have 2 beautiful daughters, aged 3 and 5.

Honestly, there ARE ways, and there are solutions…a hysterectomy at your age would send your body into menopause, you’d most likely get depressed once you meet someone and realise you can’t have kids…honestly, there are better ways!

Where in the UK are you? Google your Diocesan website and they tend to have info on pro-life organisations who’ll also know doctors and specialists they can put you in touch with. Failing that, try ‘SPUC’ in London Colney, St Albans, my husband worked there 2 years and says that although they specialise in saving the unborn from abortion, they have information on ANYTHING to do with reproduction and pregnancy. Give it a try, please…and find a more ‘humane’ GP…the NHS-surgery you’re at must have a couple more working there, one of them ought to know his/her stuff!

Prayers for you and don’t give up!!!

 

[Teakafrog]

Now, I’ve no idea whether the hormonal BC pill would or wouldn’t help the OP’s condition,

Just for reference: NO. Many docs do prescribe it for PCOS, but it does absolutely NOTHING to treat the disease–it only covers up the symptoms. That way you stop complaining to the doc , but the problems are still there. There are medications and even surgeries that can actually treat PCOS, but BCP is not effective at all–it just adds more artificial hormones to a body that is already out of hormonal balance. It’s like putting a bandaid on a bullet wound. May cover up what you see, but the damage is still there below the surface.

 

[monicatholic]

Thanks Teakfrog, for the info. After reading and posting to this thread last night, I read some on PCOS.

What a tremendous burden for women to carry. Seems like a lot in the medical community are disinclined to really discover what helps their patients’ suffering.

 

[HashemEchad]

I just wanted to second the poster who warned against bariatric surgery. Not to scare anyone but a friend of mine died from the surgery, and there is a very definite risk involved. For this reason they usually expect potential patients to lose some weight on their own first, before they do the surgery.

I lost 130 lbs about 7 years ago, just by changing my lifestyle and beginning a daily exercise program. I’ve never eased back on it, and because of that, the weight never returned. Its a permanent lifestyle change, not a “diet”, and that is the most important thing to remember.

I just figure if you need to lose weight before the surgery anyway, why not just keep that up and maybe the surgery won’t be needed. Remember, you need to eat VERY strictly after the surgery anyway, so the best thing is to learn to do it BEFORE and not need it.

 

[Carolinagirl411]

That’s good advice for someone who doesn’t have hormone problems affecting their weight loss. From her description of problems it doesn’t matter if she eats nothing but celery for a week she prob won’t lose any significant weight.

 

[HashemEchad]

That’s good advice for someone who doesn’t have hormone problems affecting their weight loss. From her description of problems it doesn’t matter if she eats nothing but celery for a week she prob won’t lose any significant weight.

FTR, and I think I did mention this, I also have PCOS. I was diagnosed with it during the Csection delivery of my son. My OBGYN expressed surprise that I was even able to get pregnant!

Many heavy people mistakenly think that if they eat VERY little, they will lose weight. But what actually happens is that their body thinks its now being starved, and it HOLDS ON to the fat it has.

To lose weight, you cannot eat less than a certain amt depending on your weight. If you eat too much above that amt, you gain weight. If you eat too much under it, you won’t lose at all.

 

[Carolinagirl411]

yeah…it’s such a pain for women I think. Men seem to have it much easier to lose weight. Although I’ve heard of some men having hormonal weirdness too. And I’ve noticed that society seems to put more pressure on women to lose weight than men as well…but that is just a personal observation.

 

[Julianna]

I just wanted to second the poster who warned against bariatric surgery. Not to scare anyone but a friend of mine died from the surgery, and there is a very definite risk involved. For this reason they usually expect potential patients to lose some weight on their own first, before they do the surgery.

I lost 130 lbs about 7 years ago, just by changing my lifestyle and beginning a daily exercise program. I’ve never eased back on it, and because of that, the weight never returned. Its a permanent lifestyle change, not a “diet”, and that is the most important thing to remember.

I just figure if you need to lose weight before the surgery anyway, why not just keep that up and maybe the surgery won’t be needed. Remember, you need to eat VERY strictly after the surgery anyway, so the best thing is to learn to do it BEFORE and not need it.

It depends on which bariactric surgery you choose. Gastric bypass and stomach stapling have heavy risks. The lap band however has minimal risk and thus far no cases of death have been reported with the lap band.

You are correct that if you eat little, the body thinks you are starving and holds the fat. The nutritionist I am seeing said the exact same thing. It is your “portion” size. Meal portions have been super sized in the last 20 yrs. Increased intake of carbs is a no no. Yes, you do have to prepare for any bariactric surgery, it shows the doctor that you are “serious” about it and they would like to have the fat in your liver reduced as well.

PCOS medication may “cover up” as one poster stated. I would also recommend some counseling as well…because it may not be what you are eating…it may be what is “eating you”.

 

[bunnynessuk]

Hi everyone thankyou all for the advice!!!

My weight is inextricably linked to my illness, and what i can turn into muscle I have (steel arms and legs ) but as for my midriff meh! I would love to loose weight I hate being a size 18!

I dont think I want a hysterectomy - I dont have much faith in doctors they seem to spend to much time playing god rather than listening to him! And the fact that it would be against god to have the surgery finalises my decision. I will look into the links and talk to my priest for advice.

It is such a pain that as women we have these things to deal with I mean what do men get !!! LOL

Anyhow thanks again!

JJ

 

[smswife]

Bunnynessuk,

You wrote:

And the fact that it would be against god to have the surgery finalises my decision.

It would NOT be against God to have the surgery (or take birth control pills) for the medical reasons you state, especially if it turns out to be the only option.

Having said that, I too think you are wise to hold off on surgery while getting other medical opinions.

It might be a reasonable thing to do to take the birth control pills if your doctors think they will control your symptoms which sound severe (yes I know it doesn’t cure the problem!) while you are getting this figured out.

Please consult some more physcians about this, especially the ones linked here.