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Well, duh, of course there is. That’s why most, if not all, third orders have a lengthy discernment process, to allow both the applicant and the community to discern whether the person really has a calling to the particular order and it’s spirituality. Far from having third orders “pushed” on them, new Catholics are often discouraged from applying until they’ve had more time and experience in the Church.But there’s an entirely other way to pursue one’s lay vocation…totally unaffiliated with “orderings”.
Actually, my particular third order commits to living the spirit of the evangelical counsels and the Beatitudes. Not a word about forking over the $$$.And it’s well known that lay 3rd orders DO PROVIDE a source of funding for their orders. That’s often part of the “3rd order” commitments.
Same with we Benedictine oblates. We promised three things at our oblation: stability, obedience, and conversion. Not a peep about $. Our abbey has another group called the “friends” of the abbey. Unlike oblates they are not considered a part of the community and have no formal discernment process, they merely have to pay their dues.Actually, my particular third order commits to living the spirit of the evangelical counsels and the Beatitudes. Not a word about forking over the $$$.
This has been exactly the opposite of my experience with new converts. They rather often exhibit the zeal of the newly converted. I was the same after I reverted after being out of the Church for a long time. Twenty years on since my reversion, I’ve mellowed out. But it is the newly converted who have often (especially on here) lectured me about the alleged weakness of my faith, accusing me of being a “modernist”, “liberal” and other fine epithets, and who tend to be the legalists. But that’s a normal process of discovering faith. Hell hath no fury, nor zeal, like a ex-smoker who just quit.New Catholics should shy away from the over-devout…who seem too happy to peddle their approach on them and then shame them in their own way for not buying this book, reading that book, enrolling in this scapular, or seeking membership in that 3rd order thing.
I’m sorry, but grouping everyone in this thread with people at your parish (or people your RCIA students know) is not fair.I have every right to draw from my many years as a Catholic making conclusions as I see fit.
I taught RCIA for years. I give parish and diocesan formation to children, teens, and adults.
I’ve heard (face to face, not in this silly and irksome forum) too many soon to be Catholics and new Catholics describe some of the over-the-top, ill-considered advice they get from the over-devout (you need to say the rosary daily, you need to get the LOTH and pray it…etc.).
No…be reasonable…befriend these people…take them out for a burger and beer…listen to them,…gauge their level of maturity and readiness…be ready for “little” ideas, reassure them of their freedom, remind them of the 6 ACTUAL precepts of the Catholic Church, don’t overwhelm them…or make them feel they have to do all this other stuff…as good as it might be.
You don’t have a right to prevent my observations or to contort them into some sort of Freudian soup.
Perhaps it’s your tone? This post here is very accusatory. From what I’ve read here in this thread, you seem to be unwilling to accept that either (a) your view is slightly distorted or (b) that due to your choice of words, people are missing your point.Go easy there AF, no one has threatened the “legitimacy” (lol) of the LOTH or tertiaries.
CAF seems unusually filled with posters who seem to have to grossly distort a point in order to dismiss it. I’ve never seen so many red herrings in the boat!