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catholic.com/chastity/q7.asp
QUESTION:
Should I move in with my boyfriend before we get married? It seems like a smart move, because you want to really know a person before you commit to life together.
ANSWER:
Most cohabiting couples who hope to marry see their arrangement as a good test run, a way to make sure that they’re compatible before tying the knot. After all, who wants to go through a divorce?
Aside from all of the spiritual factors regarding premarital sex, let’s take a look at what researchers have found about living together before marriage. Two researchers summarized the findings of numerous studies by stating that “expectation of a positive relationship between cohabitation and marital stability . . . has been shattered in recent years by studies conducted in several Western countries.”*(“
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What the studies discovered is this: if you don’t want to get divorced, don’t move in until after the wedding. Why is that? Consider the following facts about cohabitation: Most couples who live together never end up getting married, but those who do tie the knot are almost twice as likely to divorce as couples who don’t live together before marriage.
ii Overall, the divorce rate of cohabiting couples is about eighty percent,
iii and non-virgin brides are sixty percent more likely to end up divorced than women who enter marriage as virgins.
iv Couples who cohabited prior to marriage have greater marital conflict and poorer communication, and they made more frequent visits to marriage counselors.
v Women who cohabited before marriage are more than three times as likely to cheat on their husbands within marriage.
vi The US Justice Department found that women who cohabit are sixty-two times more likely to be assaulted by a live-in boyfriend than by a husband.
vii They were also more than three times as likely to be depressed as married women,
viii and the couples were less sexually satisfied than those who waited for marriage.
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So, from a standpoint of marital duration, marital peace, marital fidelity, physical safety, emotional well-being, and sexual satisfaction, cohabitation isn’t exactly a recipe for happiness. Even
USA Today reported, "Could this be true love? Test it with courtship, not cohabitation."
x You may assume that if the couple had lived together a bit longer, they would have ironed out the difficulties and not had these problems in marriage. The studies show the opposite: longer cohabitations are associated with a higher likelihood of divorce.
xi Now, even if you don’t think that your boyfriend would be abusive or that you would get depressed, the divorce rate speaks for itself.
Like all of us, you dream of a lasting love. If you’re serious about making this relationship work, save your marriage before it starts and don’t move in until after the wedding.
