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EricF
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Take what bits of all the advice given that you can reasonably do. And pay particular attention to @TheOldColonel. That old bugger is wise.
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Crusaderbear
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Praying for you to find your way…
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TheOldColonel
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My wisdom is still as yet unverified. User beware.
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ConfusedLucy
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Small towns don’t suit everyone especially when you don’t meet the right people. What are your plans for further education? I would focus on that.
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KATRINA_68
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It’s hard to find true friends in the teen years. Be patient, your life will change, and Jesus always loves you.
I will pray for you.
I will pray for you.
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misstherese
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Oh boy. I know terribly all too well what you’re going through. I moved my junior year of high school from a small town to the city and found it terribly difficult to make friends in such a large school. Depression crept in fast and along with my shyness, it made it impossible to talk to people.
Pray very much. Talk to Jesus throughout your day and offer him your lonely sufferings. He allows everything for the benefit of our souls. Perhaps he is allowing this so that you depend on Him more, going to Him with all your troubles.
You can also try joining some clubs at school. They say that’s ones of the best ways to make friends. If you see someone has similar interests as you, try striking up a conversation based on that.
Pray very much. Talk to Jesus throughout your day and offer him your lonely sufferings. He allows everything for the benefit of our souls. Perhaps he is allowing this so that you depend on Him more, going to Him with all your troubles.
You can also try joining some clubs at school. They say that’s ones of the best ways to make friends. If you see someone has similar interests as you, try striking up a conversation based on that.
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Oetter4
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Can I ask you have are you doing today?
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LundyLund
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Brother, I am sorry to hear about your present situation. There have been some good responses above. I moved to a small town three years ago, and did not have any friends there. I’m in a different situation than you (adult, with young kids), but we all need friends. I joined the parish men’s group. From there, another younger man invited me to a Bible study. Things sort of blossomed from there - now, I have several friends in town.
Try to be patient, which is hard. If you can get involved in something that interests you, you will meet some folks. It may take time, but I bet you’ll find some connections.
God bless you.
Try to be patient, which is hard. If you can get involved in something that interests you, you will meet some folks. It may take time, but I bet you’ll find some connections.
God bless you.
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misstherese
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Well I made a friend at that school but we don’t talk anymore. Other attempts to chat with people didn’t really amount to anything…I think now, looking back at it, God was leading me to Him because eventually through extreme boredom I started to read more about Catholicism and the saints. Now I talk even less to people because I’ve had to cut off friendships that led me to sin…and now I never feel lonely. I could probably be a hermit. It’s an odd thing.
But consider those cloistered religious who rarely talk to others…when we depend on God for strength we find peace amidst our trials. Try to not despair but put everything into God’s hands.
But consider those cloistered religious who rarely talk to others…when we depend on God for strength we find peace amidst our trials. Try to not despair but put everything into God’s hands.
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Gerhard2
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I don’t know if the same that applies to me applies for you, but I changed drastically when I was 18. Since then it has been easy for me to make friends. You must learn from the Bible and research, but the most important thing is to apply what you learn and while you learn.
So, the main problem is how to approach others. So let’s apply the teaching: “Treat others as you want them to treat you”. What would you like someone that wants to be your friend to tell you, why not a name, what he/she likes, you could even begin by saying “We’ll see each other for the rest of the year so I wondered about xyz”, share your interests, aspirations, what you like the most, what they think is fun, etc. Do with others as you would like them to do with you. I think it’s preferible to introduce yourself to the one’s closer to you in school or to guys, then you can even present your friends to other friends saying someting you know about them.
What comes out of your mouth shows what’s in your heart. People won’t like someone who is sad, so try your best, and if you fail, try better, even ask if you made a mistake if possible, or from help if you do something bad, as a humble person would. Even if you try your best there are people that won’t accept you. But that is not your fault, there’s always people like that and is not easy to know why, maybe they are treated similarly. We are like you, we have the same problems, like many of the same things, wish for the same happiness, have the same needs, don’t think they don’t like you or that they won’t accept you without trying. Act as you wish a best friend should act, and if you fail, apologize and try again.
You can also meet people by helping when someone needs help. In the worst case scenario, people could be indifferent and then for that while there is still someone that loves you and won’t treat you bad ever, and that is God. However, God is the strongest, most important being in the universe, so His friendship is worth any time you have to wait for anything, because He is your eternity and the real source of happiness.
Each teaching you find will help you, and if you want better friends, look for them in places they can be found.
God bless
So, the main problem is how to approach others. So let’s apply the teaching: “Treat others as you want them to treat you”. What would you like someone that wants to be your friend to tell you, why not a name, what he/she likes, you could even begin by saying “We’ll see each other for the rest of the year so I wondered about xyz”, share your interests, aspirations, what you like the most, what they think is fun, etc. Do with others as you would like them to do with you. I think it’s preferible to introduce yourself to the one’s closer to you in school or to guys, then you can even present your friends to other friends saying someting you know about them.
What comes out of your mouth shows what’s in your heart. People won’t like someone who is sad, so try your best, and if you fail, try better, even ask if you made a mistake if possible, or from help if you do something bad, as a humble person would. Even if you try your best there are people that won’t accept you. But that is not your fault, there’s always people like that and is not easy to know why, maybe they are treated similarly. We are like you, we have the same problems, like many of the same things, wish for the same happiness, have the same needs, don’t think they don’t like you or that they won’t accept you without trying. Act as you wish a best friend should act, and if you fail, apologize and try again.
You can also meet people by helping when someone needs help. In the worst case scenario, people could be indifferent and then for that while there is still someone that loves you and won’t treat you bad ever, and that is God. However, God is the strongest, most important being in the universe, so His friendship is worth any time you have to wait for anything, because He is your eternity and the real source of happiness.
Each teaching you find will help you, and if you want better friends, look for them in places they can be found.
God bless
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