Loneliness

[iawoveuooo]

Hi Everybody,

I’m writing here because I would like to know if I am at fault in my life. I cannot discuss my deepest feelings with anybody in my life. Some of them hurt, some tell me always what I do wrong or give a lot of advice, others dont have time, or care only about how they want things and about their own issues.
I feel that I am left alone without anybody just understanding me. When I am honest, I have to bear fights, threatening of some sorts, and I am feeling very bad these days keeping all these inside me.
When I feel bad, actually it has been going on for months, its difficult for me to talk to people, I talk a lot less to my friends and they might feel I am not interested to talk. Otherwise, they wont search for me if I am fine, when I dont write to them.
I feel that I was caring so much before, I have tried, and when I feel lonely, I feel that nobody is there just to encourage or understand me without blaming me for everything.
Please pray for me and help.
God bless you all.

 

[Christine85]

You’re in my prayers. And you’re not alone I think a lot of people feel like this , I do sometimes. Like no one really cares, but you know what I figure at the end always is God cares, he is with you and you can talk to him. You also have Mary , the Saints , and Angels and especially your dearest friend your Guardian Angel who knows you very very well and wants to console you. Turn to God , Mary , Angels and Saints when you find you can’t get what you need as in support from humans.
Also sometimes pets are good too because they always love and care and don’t judge.
Hang in there , it’s just a down time, you’re not alone. If you ever need a friend to chat to just pm me

God bless

 

[cmscms]

I can relate to the feeling of being alone and that no one cares. As lonely as it is, sometimes NOT talking is the smart thing to do. Talking to the wrong person DOES cause a lot of harm. It really does.

Pray God will send good people to you. Also, sometimes writing in a diary is a good way to get it out without judgement.

My prays are with you

CM

 

[DL82]

Those who point out your faults are your true friends. Go to them with your problems, even though the things they say can be hurtful.

Loneliness is a great gift, one that many monks spend years cultivating. To know that there is no-one for you but God is a beautiful gift, and one that is often accompanied by many tears.

Give thanks for your solitude and your tears, they are leading you to heaven. Pray the 87th psalm, and offer your loneliness to God. He will bring great things out of this.

 

[kib]

Loneliness is a great gift, one that many monks spend years cultivating. To know that there is no-one for you but God is a beautiful gift, and one that is often accompanied by many tears.

Monks live in community. The monks I know are not lonely because they are brothers above all else. People in religious orders also need special permission to live as a hermit.

Not all people are called to that sort of life. Many people need interaction, community and intimate relationships to be mentally healthy.

Your post is silly, in my opinion, and doesn’t help the OP.

 

[kib]

Hi Everybody,

I’m writing here because I would like to know if I am at fault in my life. I cannot discuss my deepest feelings with anybody in my life. Some of them hurt, some tell me always what I do wrong or give a lot of advice, others dont have time, or care only about how they want things and about their own issues.
I feel that I am left alone without anybody just understanding me. When I am honest, I have to bear fights, threatening of some sorts, and I am feeling very bad these days keeping all these inside me.
When I feel bad, actually it has been going on for months, its difficult for me to talk to people, I talk a lot less to my friends and they might feel I am not interested to talk. Otherwise, they wont search for me if I am fine, when I dont write to them.
I feel that I was caring so much before, I have tried, and when I feel lonely, I feel that nobody is there just to encourage or understand me without blaming me for everything.
Please pray for me and help.
God bless you all.

Hi iawoveuooo, I often feel lonely myself, even though I have a sizable group of friends and acquaintances. Sisters now have husbands and children, so they are also removed a bit from my life. It is a sad thing to experience. I find it so difficult to find kindred spirits in this world. Do you have access to counseling? Perhaps that would be helpful. I will pray that you are able to find some kindred spirits and feel less lonely. God bless you.

 

[Luvz2travel]

I can relate to the feeling of being alone and that no one cares. As lonely as it is, sometimes NOT talking is the smart thing to do. Talking to the wrong person DOES cause a lot of harm. It really does.

Pray God will send good people to you. Also, sometimes writing in a diary is a good way to get it out without judgement.

My prays are with you

CM

Yep be careful who you trust. Prayers.

 

[Bataar]

I’m in the same boat. I know how you feel. I don’t really have anyone in my life I can talk to other than just basic small talk every now and then. I have some acquaintenances that I do activities with every now and then, but no one I would consider a close/good friend.

 

[iawoveuooo]

You’re in my prayers. And you’re not alone I think a lot of people feel like this , I do sometimes. Like no one really cares, but you know what I figure at the end always is God cares, he is with you and you can talk to him. You also have Mary , the Saints , and Angels and especially your dearest friend your Guardian Angel who knows you very very well and wants to console you. Turn to God , Mary , Angels and Saints when you find you can’t get what you need as in support from humans.
Also sometimes pets are good too because they always love and care and don’t judge.
Hang in there , it’s just a down time, you’re not alone. If you ever need a friend to chat to just pm me

God bless

Thank you for your prayers and encouragement. I am really sorry for not answering before, my father died at this time and I just forgot to come back here and answer, and I know it was not nice to do.
Yes, I know God loves me and I can trust Him, and there must be a reason for everything He does as we can have no one else to trust, only Him.God bless you!

 

[iawoveuooo]

Please be assured of my prayers, Jesus knows the feelings of loniliness and isolation, he will comfort you turn to him often.

Something you did not mention that may be influencing things: when you try and talk to others about your “deepest feelings” you are not specific about the nature of those feelings and that may make a difference.

Are your feelings about being depressed or are your feelings anger and bitterness towards other people? You mentioned that others fight with you or tell you that you are wrong when you share your deep feelings. It makes me wonder what those feelings are, and perhaps if others are feeling you are blaming them for things they might get defensive and may not be the good and understanding friends that you want them to be.

If this situation does not improve please seek good Christian counseling if you can. They can help you with recommendations and will listen to you! God bless.

Thank you for your prayers and kind words. I could not come for a long while and Im sorry for that.
Unfortunately my feelings are both, even if I know that I should forgive, I cannot seem to be able to do so,and it creates new painful situations in my life. I have a lot of resentment in me towards people, but I think it is mostly my dissatisfaction with myself and not their problem even if they caused anger in the first place.
I also blame which I know is wrong, but I have an excessive need for caring and intimacy with people I love, and mostly they dont need as much or in a way I would need and that leaves me disappointed.
I hope Jesus will heal this as it hasn’t improved even if I have been praying it for long.
I think it is coming from my childhood that I was blamed for many things and at times I feel and struggle with many different kinds of unnecessary guilt which causes frustration.

 

[iawoveuooo]

I can relate to the feeling of being alone and that no one cares. As lonely as it is, sometimes NOT talking is the smart thing to do. Talking to the wrong person DOES cause a lot of harm. It really does.

Pray God will send good people to you. Also, sometimes writing in a diary is a good way to get it out without judgement.

My prays are with you

CM

Thank you for your advice. I am just starting to realise that my unsocial behaviour which I experience nowadays has many advantages too,as it gives fewer opportunities to harm anyone. I choose prayer many times instead, mostly the Jesus prayer as it gives me a lot of peace to repeat the Name of Jesus as many times as I can during the day.
God bless you and I’m sorry for writing only now.

 

[iawoveuooo]

Those who point out your faults are your true friends. Go to them with your problems, even though the things they say can be hurtful.

Loneliness is a great gift, one that many monks spend years cultivating. To know that there is no-one for you but God is a beautiful gift, and one that is often accompanied by many tears.

Give thanks for your solitude and your tears, they are leading you to heaven. Pray the 87th psalm, and offer your loneliness to God. He will bring great things out of this.

Thank you for your answer. Yes, I liked when my friends point out my faults as I can improve only that way, but also, many times family members and friends too point out things which I cannot see justified even after careful observation. I get through these remarks many times to make sure I am not trying to conceal my mistakes.
I am trying to give thanks as God must know why these pains are good for,and other people have even a lot bigger crosses,but sometimes it’s difficult to feel close to God.I’m hoping He helps in that. God bless you.

 

[iawoveuooo]

Hi iawoveuooo, I often feel lonely myself, even though I have a sizable group of friends and acquaintances. Sisters now have husbands and children, so they are also removed a bit from my life. It is a sad thing to experience. I find it so difficult to find kindred spirits in this world. Do you have access to counseling? Perhaps that would be helpful. I will pray that you are able to find some kindred spirits and feel less lonely. God bless you.

Thank you for your answer! I would have access to regular counselling with a psychologist who is not Christian, which I have not tried yet, as I have experience even with Catholic priests who did not even try to understand my problems,actually one of them almost laughed at me while confession, which was painful as my feelings and problems are not jokes for me even if he considered them unnecessary or invalidated. I have one priest who can give good advice, sometimes I go to confession to him and trying just to talk to God and ask for answers.God bless you too and I am sorry for the late answer.

 

[iawoveuooo]

I’m in the same boat. I know how you feel. I don’t really have anyone in my life I can talk to other than just basic small talk every now and then. I have some acquaintenances that I do activities with every now and then, but no one I would consider a close/good friend.

I am sorry that I could not come back here and react earlier. I am sorry that you have the same feelings and the lack of good Christian friends, it’s strange and sad that people, also Christians don’t have time for anything nowadays, just like me, overwhelmed with always arriving new problems, and we cannot care properly, wcich was given to us as an order from Christ. God bless you and will pray for you.

 

[wumpiesmommy]

Shame on you, whoever called this person’s post silly! Haven’t you learned that Jesus said ,“The King shall say, '-Whatsoever you do to even the least of these my people you do also to me? I was hungry and you did not feed me… I was in prison and you did not visit me… therefore I shall cast you into eternal darkness.”
That’s to warn, not judge that I tell you.