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“erotic art”? Like what? Art that is called erotic is designed for a specific purpose.

Peace,
Ed
What is erotic art anyway? Art with any erotic aspect to it?

…erotic art such as Gustave Courbet L’Origine du Monde for a rather famous example. or the homoeroticism in John the Baptist from Caravaggio. Or the eroticism of the Ecstasy of St. Teresa.

I think it is a pretty good question… How much eroticism is permissible in art?
 
The best explanation of erotic art that I can think of is artwork that has high sexual content, but retains artistic merit. Artistic merit is mostly an abstract concept and difficult to describe.

Basically, the idea of what seperates it from porn is that it is less crude. In the example of a novel or movie; where porn would be nothing but baseless sex scenes, erotic art would still have something resembling a storyline. Pictures are a great deal harder to describe. I’m not sure, but I think the classification is such that: Playboy is erotic, where Hustler is just porn.

I would not be surprised if the Church was against this, but I would like to hear what you think of this. The line between erotic art and porn is blurry, and many will it doesn’t exist, and that eroticism is porn under a more friendly label. But I would like an answer on this.

This also brings up another question I’m curious about. Is porn restricted to simulated/actual sex acts? What about strippers? What about pictures of naked women, such as Playboy mentioned above? The objective is to get you to lust at them, but they’re not having simulated or actual sex, they’re just looking good. And if it doesn’t count as porn, would it be permissable to view them, as long as one was very careful to not lust, but only to admire the asthetic beauty/performance/camera work?
 
Intent is behind everything we do. And in those cases where we do not know the artist’s intent, we NEED to judge the work. If it’s wrong, it’s wrong.

And again, the issue is pornography.

Peace,
Ed
Right, intent is behind everything we do, but the artist’s (name removed by moderator)ut on their own art shouldn’t decide our own on the same. It is what it is to the individual, we choose what it means to us, not the artist. The artist can suggest what he or she will have wanted you to take from it but we choose what we do or do not want and we put or do not put imagination into what we see; He or she cannot force you to do that in a morally neutral artwork, and the best they can do in porn is tempt you, the rest is on you and the power of your will. To see naked people posed in art (and by art I mean drawings, paintings, sketches more so than photography which are real people, not works of fiction) is as little or as much as we choose to make it based on own our predispositions to that kind of subject matter. Are we comfortable with nudity in general? Does it bring us shame or embarrassment? What do we think of when we hear the word nudity? Do we think anatomy or do we think sex acts? (as in thinking of nude people versus what they are doing if anything). These are the questions art viewers need to ask themselves. Do we fear that if we see nudity or attractive people in the nude in art that we cannot or will not control ourselves? The pornographer is betting and hoping that you cannot. The ‘good’ artist is hoping that you will and can enjoy his/her work free of shame as they have in having had the pleasure of creating it. If the artist can control him/herself enough to draw the picture to begin with and do this morally, why can the viewer not do the same in viewing? The burden lies on the viewer, not the artist because it’s their choice what to do with what they see if it is not clearly pornography. And even if it was, it’s their choice to back up, look away, move away, and move on.

Yes, it is about intent. Chances are, that if you are looking at erotic art, you were LOOKING FOR erotic art and you will find this on porn sites, not reputable art/web galleries. When the nudity is morally neutral is when it may be acceptable and perhaps should not be so quickly passed as lustful porn simply because a group, a demographic (pornographers and their victims) will see and use it as such. Morally upright people will not be bothered or affected by nudity in artwork, and if they are, it’s not because it’s nasty or it’s porn, but because the subject just simply makes them uncomfortable (on any number of general or personal levels) or doesn’t appeal to them. This is all obvious and a big DUH, but clearly it’s an issue people still talk about on a catholic website, and with good reason- it troubles their conscience but this would seem more out of an inability to constantly and always discern what is and is not acceptable and morally ok rather than it clearly being ok or not all of the time. People don’t always come here for a yes or no answer and we’re not always capable of giving a yes or no answer.
 
The best explanation of erotic art that I can think of is artwork that has high sexual content, but retains artistic merit. Artistic merit is mostly an abstract concept and difficult to describe.
Lets break this down for the sake of conversation. Describe “sexual content” in an artwork (a painting or drawing for example) where the intention of the artist is morally ambiguous to the extent that the figures (lets say attractive women since that’s the easiest example to use) are not definitely doing anything inappropriate? Since artwork is muted in the sense that it is not animated (like live action) we see one snap shot which depicts a scene, a motion, an action, etc. What are we to take from that ‘snap shot’ where nothing is actually happening other than a nude figure standing or lying or whatever? Where is the “sexual content”?

To answer this question we have to talk about the obvious answer: the figure is depicted in a sexual act or sexual pose. The word ‘content’ is too ambiguous, it reaches in it’s explanation when it’s as simple as answering what are they doing or not doing. If the answer is “nothing, they’re just lying there or in a position that exemplifies their beauty” then there’s clearly nothing wrong and people who say there is are just people who are uncomfortable with nudity for whatever reason.
Basically, the idea of what seperates it from porn is that it is less crude. In the example of a novel or movie; where porn would be nothing but baseless sex scenes, erotic art would still have something resembling a storyline. Pictures are a great deal harder to describe. I’m not sure, but I think the classification is such that: Playboy is erotic, where Hustler is just porn.
Describe “less crude”. Again, it all comes down to what they are or are not doing. Simply being nude and attractive, in the art, is not a crime. Why would an artist NOT want to draw, at least what they envision, to be human bodily perfection, or the closest thing to it? People want to see and create nice looking things. Do note however, that I am referring to actual ART, not photos of REAL people. Hustler and Playboy are purposely meant to tempt you, even if only to buy the magazine, whether you’ll actually look at it. Adverts. work on the same principle. They don’t care whether you use the product, they just want you to buy it. With porn and things that are clearly porn, it’s similar in that the pornographers don’t care about your soul, they’re selling a product.
I would not be surprised if the Church was against this, but I would like to hear what you think of this. The line between erotic art and porn is blurry, and many will it doesn’t exist, and that eroticism is porn under a more friendly label. But I would like an answer on this.
The Church IS against this, the exploitation especially, which is why it emphasizes the people involved (actresses, producers, etc.) just as much as the ACT of viewing or creating it.
This also brings up another question I’m curious about. Is porn restricted to simulated/actual sex acts? What about strippers? What about pictures of naked women, such as Playboy mentioned above? The objective is to get you to lust at them, but they’re not having simulated or actual sex, they’re just looking good. And if it doesn’t count as porn, would it be permissable to view them, as long as one was very careful to not lust, but only to admire the asthetic beauty/performance/camera work?
No, porn is not restricted to sex acts, it can be as simple as a stare, since all the other factors are designed to make that stare as sensual as possible. If that stare was lustful enough to get you to lust in return then the job is done regardless of what else happens.

Strippers are a key example of what I’ve just said.

Pictures of naked women in playboy are the same. Even if they’re just modeling naked, they are usually looking at you with a “come hither” look, or an “I want you” look. This is porn, because the pornographers play (and prey) on the viewer’s fantasy to take it further than it just being an attractive woman you’re looking at. They manufacture fantasies. Artists do no such thing just because they draw nude figures. Yes, they run the risk of some of their viewers possibly fantasizing, but if they did not intend this or wish for this, or are not exploiting this, the way a pornographer would, then clearly the difference between artistic nudity and pornography has been defined.
 
The artist, whether painter, photographer or sculptor, is 100% responsible for his work. Pick up a fine arts magazine. In it, you will find the artist speaking about his work, usually in highly esoteric ways. However, whenever any art is sold or auctioned or cataloged or described in a book or magazine, it most certainly will acquire a label. The same with exhibitions:

“The Smith Gallery presents a series of erotic images by Fill in the Blank.”

Playboy was a package. It contained and promoted the Playboy Philosophy, which boiled down to have sex whenever you feel like it. The only way it separated itself from the gangster version of exploiting women: “We only got classy broads here” was by surrounding its pictures of naked women with classy articles written by classy writers and illustrated by classy artists. Or, in a few cases, not so classy artists.

By imitating, to some degree, true art and culture, it claimed some lineage, but when all the masks came off in the 1970s, it was classified as porn with the rest. I know of no one who collected Playboy for that back issue with the interview with Fidel Castro.

Playboy was not designed as a cultural artifact but as a Trojan Horse to help usher in the Sexual Revolution. It became very obvious when other magazines appeared that had zero classy articles and zero classy art. It was obvious that photos exploiting male and female sexuality was the only point.

Looking at pornography means looking at something designed to cause lust. Period.

Once again, the artist will be called to account by God. If the artist is skilled enough to produce “erotic art” then he is skilled enough to know exactly what he’s doing. It would be untruthful for the venue offering such art to not label it appropriately, just as legitimate art galleries do.

Peace,
Ed
 
The artist, whether painter, photographer or sculptor, is 100% responsible for his work. Pick up a fine arts magazine. In it, you will find the artist speaking about his work, usually in highly esoteric ways. However, whenever any art is sold or auctioned or cataloged or described in a book or magazine, it most certainly will acquire a label. The same with exhibitions:

“The Smith Gallery presents a series of erotic images by Fill in the Blank.”

Playboy was a package. It contained and promoted the Playboy Philosophy, which boiled down to have sex whenever you feel like it. The only way it separated itself from the gangster version of exploiting women: “We only got classy broads here” was by surrounding its pictures of naked women with classy articles written by classy writers and illustrated by classy artists. Or, in a few cases, not so classy artists.

By imitating, to some degree, true art and culture, it claimed some lineage, but when all the masks came off in the 1970s, it was classified as porn with the rest. I know of no one who collected Playboy for that back issue with the interview with Fidel Castro.

Playboy was not designed as a cultural artifact but as a Trojan Horse to help usher in the Sexual Revolution. It became very obvious when other magazines appeared that had zero classy articles and zero classy art. It was obvious that photos exploiting male and female sexuality was the only point.

Looking at pornography means looking at something designed to cause lust. Period.

Once again, the artist will be called to account by God. If the artist is skilled enough to produce “erotic art” then he is skilled enough to know exactly what he’s doing. It would be untruthful for the venue offering such art to not label it appropriately, just as legitimate art galleries do.

Peace,
Ed
I agree 100% in that the artist knows what he’s doing (good or bad) and is responsible in the sense that he chooses how to market himself carefully, but there’s no issue if his conscience is clean, his morals are in good standing when he approaches nudity in his work, and when his artwork clearly is not pornography both by the definition and by the subject matter itself. In order to make this evident however, and not scandalize his name, he should obviously not permit his work to be featured or sold in publications like playboy or hustler or an erotic artwork magazine of any sort (his nudes would be soiled by the raunchy filth). I don’t consider this art, personally, I consider it photography. It was just the way I learned about art as a young child, art = sketches, drawings, paintings. Photos I considered as seperate. This isn’t technically true, since lots of things classify as “art” where you’re creating something, which is where the porno has such easy access and is made to appear reputable and something of substance, which it of course, is a far cry from.
 
Allow me to chime in here, please.

When I was in graduate school I did my thesis on the Law and the Internet. This was 15 years ago when the 'Net was just coming into existence. One of the chapters discussed the subject of online pornography.

The most puzzling question I encountered in my research was, for the purposes of my study, to come up with a definition of “pornography” and, putting morality aside for a moment, I discovered that there is no legal definition of pornography; it is largely in the eye of the beholder. In Miller v. California (1973) even the U.S. Supreme Court could not come up the a working definition of pornography so it left the decision up to the individual localities, essentially saying “If the material violates your local community standards for decency and those communities want to regulate it, you have our (the Court’s) blessing.”

Justice Potter Stewart, in Jacobellis v. Ohio (1964) remarked that he too could not define pornography but (paraphrasing) “[he] knew it when he saw it” and regarding the subject matter at hand, a French film called “The Lovers”, (a story about an adulterous love affair), was not, in his opinion, obscene even though it contained nudity and a scene of adulterous sexual intercourse. :eek:

On the other hand, I remember when I was in Catholic school back in the 70s, the Sisters were quick to snatch the annual Sport’s Illustrated swimsuit issue off the racks of the library because it was “obscene.” :rolleyes: Such stuff is fairly mild by today’s standards.

In my humble opinion, “looking” at “pornography” - however you define it - may or may not be “sinful” depending on the context of the situation. I do not consider my thesis research sinful because I considered it to be for academic purposes; not for sexual titillation. I am also a computer technician by trade and occasionally I have to remove malware and viruses that connect to sexually explicit websites from people’s computers. I may be “looking” at pornography but don’t consider that to be “viewing” pornography (if that makes sense). However, sneaking a look at a stolen Playboy back when I was at Boy Scout camp probably was wrong.

So in conclusion, looking at “porn” or “erotic” art for the wrong reasons (whatever “wrong” means) is probably sinful. Looking at it for academic, scientific, bonafide job-related reasons, or artistic appreciation is probably not.

My 2 cents.
 
Allow me to chime in here, please.

When I was in graduate school I did my thesis on the Law and the Internet. This was 15 years ago when the 'Net was just coming into existence. One of the chapters discussed the subject of online pornography.

The most puzzling question I encountered in my research was, for the purposes of my study, to come up with a definition of “pornography” and, putting morality aside for a moment, I discovered that there is no legal definition of pornography; it is largely in the eye of the beholder. In Miller v. California (1973) even the U.S. Supreme Court could not come up the a working definition of pornography so it left the decision up to the individual localities, essentially saying “If the material violates your local community standards for decency and those communities want to regulate it, you have our (the Court’s) blessing.”

Justice Potter Stewart, in Jacobellis v. Ohio (1964) remarked that he too could not define pornography but (paraphrasing) “[he] knew it when he saw it” and regarding the subject matter at hand, a French film called “The Lovers”, (a story about an adulterous love affair), was not, in his opinion, obscene even though it contained nudity and a scene of adulterous sexual intercourse. :eek:

On the other hand, I remember when I was in Catholic school back in the 70s, the Sisters were quick to snatch the annual Sport’s Illustrated swimsuit issue off the racks of the library because it was “obscene.” :rolleyes: Such stuff is fairly mild by today’s standards.

In my humble opinion, “looking” at “pornography” - however you define it - may or may not be “sinful” depending on the context of the situation. I do not consider my thesis research sinful because I considered it to be for academic purposes; not for sexual titillation. I am also a computer technician by trade and occasionally I have to remove malware and viruses that connect to sexually explicit websites from people’s computers. I may be “looking” at pornography but don’t consider that to be “viewing” pornography (if that makes sense). However, sneaking a look at a stolen Playboy back when I was at Boy Scout camp probably was wrong.

So in conclusion, looking at “porn” or “erotic” art for the wrong reasons (whatever “wrong” means) is probably sinful. Looking at it for academic, scientific, bonafide job-related reasons, or artistic appreciation is probably not.

My 2 cents.
Whoa, wait a minute. I would much rather agree with the nuns that the Sports Illustrated swimsuit issue is obscene. Think about it – from where do “today’s standards” originate? Have you seen them written down somewhere? If so, please send me a link.

I work in the media and I am sick and tired of some voice on the radio telling me that something is “tame by today’s standards” and me, and the average person listening, having NO IDEA as to where these so-called standards are, who wrote them and established them as THE STANDARDS.

By calling something “tame” today, what about ten years from now? Hardcore porn is tame ten years from now compared to what? The latest issue of chainsaw dismemberment photos? To my brothers and sisters in Christ - this is how we become insensitive to sin. Someone tells us - Oh, that’s not so bad. Or, What’s the big deal? The stuff you’re concerned about is “tame” compared to what’s out there. Take a deep breath and realize that today - right now - there is porn at the local gas station, there is porn in some convenience stores, there is porn in some supermarkets. Stop listening and put on the mind of Christ.

Today’s Standards amount to almost NO STANDARDS. You can see it on TV where foul mouthed “comedians” go on and on about graphic sexual situations and can’t stop saying *uck every 5 seconds. Where computer games include a scene where there is an attractive woman and a sexual encounter occurs “off camera.” Wake up!!

Peace,
Ed
 
Whoa, wait a minute. I would much rather agree with the nuns that the Sports Illustrated swimsuit issue is obscene. Think about it – from where do “today’s standards” originate? Have you seen them written down somewhere? If so, please send me a link.

I work in the media and I am sick and tired of some voice on the radio telling me that something is “tame by today’s standards” and me, and the average person listening, having NO IDEA as to where these so-called standards are, who wrote them and established them as THE STANDARDS.

By calling something “tame” today, what about ten years from now? Hardcore porn is tame ten years from now compared to what? The latest issue of chainsaw dismemberment photos? To my brothers and sisters in Christ - this is how we become insensitive to sin. Someone tells us - Oh, that’s not so bad. Or, What’s the big deal? The stuff you’re concerned about is “tame” compared to what’s out there. Take a deep breath and realize that today - right now - there is porn at the local gas station, there is porn in some convenience stores, there is porn in some supermarkets. Stop listening and put on the mind of Christ.

Today’s Standards amount to almost NO STANDARDS. You can see it on TV where foul mouthed “comedians” go on and on about graphic sexual situations and can’t stop saying *uck every 5 seconds. Where computer games include a scene where there is an attractive woman and a sexual encounter occurs “off camera.” Wake up!!

Peace,
Ed
A good Catholic will try and avoid these things, but as you demonstrated by your examples, it’s not always easy, since it permeates the culture. You can’t help being exposed to it when it’s so in your face, but you can avoid it. We still have to live on this world, after all, so it’s never going to end…unless you move somewhere isolated and free of the corruption of society.
 
The Vatican is in Rome, which once was Debauchery Central. We need to think about bringing the Gospel to this culture again. We need to remind ourselves, including me, of what Jesus said: “If you love me, keep my commandments.”

Lust is the number one sin going today. No, it’s not easy in this culture. But if we don’t identify it as a real problem then how can we be the Catholic Counter-Culture to this current hyper-sexualized and dysfunctional mess called modern culture and media?

We cannot be complacent. If we save even one person who is thinking, “Hey. What’s the big deal?” that means something.

Evil triumphs only when good men do nothing. And yes, we need to take up our Cross and bring freedom to those who have lost their way.

Peace,
Ed
 
Whoa, wait a minute. I would much rather agree with the nuns that the Sports Illustrated swimsuit issue is obscene. Think about it – from where do “today’s standards” originate? Have you seen them written down somewhere? If so, please send me a link.
OK. Perhaps it would have been better if I had said “…fairly mild compared to what we see today” instead of “today’s standards.” But I think you are missing my point.

The O.P. asked about the difference between “gazing” at pornography, as opposed to just “looking” at it. Maybe I misunderstood what he was asking, but my point was that just seeing pornographic material may not necessarily be a sin in certain contexts; contexts such as the ones I described. That’s all.

Yes, viewing porn for prurient reasons should be avoided.
 
kbwall The late Holy Father Pope John Paul II explained it all in detail in his weekly Encyclical on nudeity.from art to photographs of the naked body.

Antrim
 
… You can be repaired, but it requires long hours for a long weeks of long months or even years of struggle. And just when you think you’re free, you’re sucked right back in.

I am with you there. This is an addiction that I am trying to shake as well. In the last two weeks, I’ve succumbed twice. This is a harder thing to kick than tobacco But I’ll do it. As someone else mentioned on the board… some things cannot be unseen.

This is true, those things are what satan uses to entice you back, when you are most weak. grrr…
 
Thanks for that post Cyclophile.

We need to keep being brought back to the point of how viewing today’s pornography culminates in addiction. Worse than that … what we become addicted to is merely an illusion. So, as I’ve heard more than one priest say, we “fill ourselves with an emptiness.” This industry has so many victims. The very first victims are the ones posing for and performing the pornography. Many of them are coerced into doing it … and often it’s all downhill from there once they start; what with drugs , std’s etc. Of course, if no one had ever “looked” , they would have never been victims.

Vice cops and computer repair techies aside :

Doubtless, if any half-sensible Catholic saw his mother or sister in a pornographic movie or photo shoot, he wouldn’t want to look … and might even endeavor to make it his business to ensure that no one else could look either.

From this site founded by a Catholic who suffered from an addiction to pornography, here are some of the titles of articles linked at the site concerning what the Bishops are saying :
  • Archbishop Chaput, Archdiocese of Denver - Pastoral Letter:
    “We need to Stop Pornography Now!”
  • Bishop Paul Loverde, Diocese of Arlington, Virginia - Pastoral Letter:
    “Pornography and the Attack on the Living Temple of God”
  • Bishop Robert Finn, Diocese of Kansas City - Pastoral Letter:
    “Blessed are the Pure in Heart”
    Also see: Diocese of Kansas City Anti-Pornography and Education Site “My House”
    NATIONAL CATHOLIC REGISTER: "Kansas City Bishop Takes on Porn Goliath
It may be fine to try and make a little headway by attempting to determine the finer points of difference between erotica and art. However ,unfortunately, the more we split hairs, the more likely we are to end up in moral limbo through the paralysis of analysis.

A much less cumbersome way for Catholics to cut through all the crud, is to place ourselves before our Blessed Mother - the most caring of all mothers, in prayer; then to ask Her quite simply : “Mother, is it wrong for me to look at this ?” or, “Mother is it harmful for me to look at this ?”

If we are honest enough with ourselves to do that, the answer becomes exceedingly clear.
 
The late Holy Father Pope John Paul II said Porn. forbidden. Erotic art is porn I would say therefore that also applies. Nudeity is different and The late Holy Father said nudeity in and of itself is not a sin.
This is an extremely important distinction. Thank you for bringing it up.

Remember that for 500 years the Holy Father’s have sat underneath the ceiling of the Sisteen Chapel on which Michelangelo painted many nudes.

*The LORD God then built up into a woman the rib that he had taken from the man. When he brought her to the man, the man said: “This one, at last, is bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh; This one shall be called ‘woman,’ for out of ‘her man’ this one has been taken.” That is why a man leaves his father and mother and clings to his wife, and the two of them become one body. The man and his wife were both naked, yet they felt no shame. (Genesis 2:23-25)*The human body and spousal union are visible signs of the reality of the exchange between Father, Son and Holy Spirit. The Father and Son so love each other that their love produces the Holy Spirit. We bear testimony to this at every Mass when we say that the Holy Spirit “proceedes from the Father and the Son” in the creed. And the reality of love within the Triinty is reflected in spousal union, where a new life proceeds from the self giving love of husband and wife. The perfection of this is shown in Genesis when, before sin entered the world, Adam and Eve lived in a perfect state of self giving, not lusting or trying to use each other for enjoyment. That is why they could be “Naked and without shame.”

It is through the human body that we experience God. Our toung receives Jesus in the Eucharist. Our body stands to pray and kneels in reverence. Our voices sing. The Body is never dirty or evil but can be used for evil and used in evil ways. Porn distorts the sacramental nature of the human body, the reflection of the Trinity in the naked bodies of husband and wife, turning what should be a holy act where husband, wife and God freely give themselves to each other and come together as co-creators of a new life. Porn flips that upside-down and turns it inside-out, into something where each person uses other human beings for personal pleasure. That is what makes it sinful.

***You have heard that it was said, ‘You shall not commit adultery.’ But I say to you, everyone who looks at a woman with lust has already committed adultery *with her in his heart. (Matthew 5:27-28)**Notice that Jesus did not limit his teaching about lust to only those to whome one is not married. Jesus is teaching us about the self giving love of the Trinity and of Adam and Eve, rather than lust-love which only appropriates for itself and gives nothing in return. Jesus does not say that this stops with your wife! Even your love and desire for your wife must be self-sacrificing or it is adultery! Porn is 100% lust therefor it is evil. We are called to love differently, not to use other’s for our enjoyment.

This is a perfect subject to bring up Pope John Paul II’s catechesis “Theoliogy of the Body” which is best described in the book “Theology of the Body for Beginners” by Christoper West. The Holy Father taught about this exact subject for 129 general audiences and it is one of the reasons why he is being beatified. Every Catholic should read this work by Christopher West.

-Tim-
 
I am with you there. This is an addiction that I am trying to shake as well. In the last two weeks, I’ve succumbed twice. This is a harder thing to kick than tobacco But I’ll do it. As someone else mentioned on the board… some things cannot be unseen.

This is true, those things are what satan uses to entice you back, when you are most weak. grrr…
33 year addiction for me. Totally addicted, couldn’t help myself. Harder to kick than cocaine and I know that by experience.

I can offer this… You may love Jesus but you will not shake porn until you love Jesus more than you love yourself. Only when you love Jesus more than you love yourself, will you be willing to do the things, suffer the withdrawals, fight the urges and persevere for his sake, rather than to give in to your own desires. It’s not a matter of loving Jesus, but of loving him more than you love yourself.

Pray for that.

-Tim-
 
Hello everyone, I am 18 and I really want to kick this :(, over the past 3 years I have been looking at it, but I always thought meh go to confession come out and then go to confession again, but the past few months have really got me worried about where I will go when I die… making me quite anxious…
How do I kick this habit? Do I tell my Mum or someone else for help?
I have tried blocking sites words, but when the desire hits me I always seem to find a way around all the work that I’ve done blocking stuff in the best possible way.
As the situation stands, for some reason I can go 2 weeks fine without looking at the rubbish, then I get the urge to Masturbate and with that urge the longer I hold it, the more I feel a desire to look at a certain pornstar…
How do I go about stopping this :S it feels like a never ending thing, but If the desire only comes once a fortnight, is this and addiction, to me it feels more like a mind set, yea 2 weeks are up now, confession is in only a week or two might as well do it…
If you know what I mean.
Thanks, but I really really need help, please.
 
To everyone who is strugeling with this addiction. Pray the Rosarey every day. Go to confession very often. Ask Our Blessed Mother to wrap you in her Mantle of Holy Purity and develop a deep devotion to her and she will help you overcome it along with a deep devotion to the Holy Spirit. God is all loving and forgiving and loves us more than we can imagine. All he asks is that we are sorry and try to live a good life.

Antrim
 
I have to ask something though, I have noticed the desire to look at this stuff goes down when I masturbate… is it a good or a bad thing to do say if I felt the urge to look at this stuff, to just masturbate? by holding it all in after a few days It just seems I want to look at this stuff…
 
I have to ask something though, I have noticed the desire to look at this stuff goes down when I masturbate… is it a good or a bad thing to do say if I felt the urge to look at this stuff, to just masturbate? by holding it all in after a few days It just seems I want to look at this stuff…
The two go together, you are indulging in sin by looking and by masturbation. It’s not going to be easy but you have to stop looking at the porn AND not masturbate. It is not the kind of sexuality that God has in mind for you, to be alone and fantasizing about women you’ve seen on the computer. Just think about the whole process and you will recognize Satan’s footprint all over it - what is the point of showing you women without clothing and doing sexual acts, other than to get you to do something sinful and twisted, that will affect your sexuality for the rest of your life? Yes you can go to confession but look at what you’ve already done, failed yourself and God over and over, that puts a wedge between you and God and Satan knows that, he will give you guilt and then after a while, you might just turn away from God, saying “Well it’s not really that harmful and the Church is just wrong.” See what Satan has done?

yes you need to tell someone, and have another person put filtering software on your computer with a password you do not know. I don’t know if your Mum is that person or if there is some other man in your life who has struggled with this. There is a tab on the top of this forum for “Chastity” and there is at least one men’s group here on the forum to support men who are struggling to avoid porn. You are young, don’t go any further into this, it’s very important that you stop now!

You should know that confession is not meant to just give you permission to go out and sin again, you are not making a good confession if it is your intention to go and do the same thing over and over. You are lying to yourself, to the priest and to God if that is how you are using the sacrament. You are meant to be in repentance for your sin, to make contrition and penance and then NOT SIN again, that is what you say to the priest. If you are thinking “Oh well, I’ll just do it and then confess it,” you are misusing the sacrament.

I really encourage you to contact other men who are struggling with this. It is a plague on our society that causes all sorts of sexual and moral horrors. Remember that the women you are viewing are someone’s daughter, someone’s sister, maybe even someone’s mother, and that they are likely drug users and/or alcoholics because of the pain involved in using their bodies for sex outside of marriage.

I wish you the best in getting yourself back on track. I am sure you can do it and you will be better for it.
 
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