Looking for advice from converts

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This has also been my experience, friends have been fine but my sister is horrified. My mother has been nothing but kind and understanding about it all, probably not happy, but she’s been kind. My sister, however, not so much and it has put a strain on our relationship. It breaks my heart that she’s so condescending, telling me my beliefs are of the devil. ~sigh
I’m sorry to hear about your sister. I only have one brother who’s very religious. The other isn’t, and none of my sisters are at all. I suppose it’s my husband’s family I’m most worried about, and the fact that he has no interest in becoming Catholic will only make matters worse.
 
But I think I’m sorry is always in order lol, Christ called to the sinners, not the perfect. How cold can citing and pragmatism be? We are to work with love, not make a bigger abyss of the differences…
:confused: I’m thoroughly confused. I have no plans to highlight the differences between us, but I will need to be able to explain why I believe what I do. An “I don’t know” won’t suffice, at least not among our families. I don’t think that’s a lack of love, as I love my family and friends dearly. But an answer of “I don’t know why Catholics believe/do/say that” wouldn’t do anyone any good, would it?
 
I am a Convert from the Jewish Religion, my parents did not talk to me for ten years, after that they gradually came around because they could see I was not budging. (If God is with us, who can stand against you.) and like Abraham we have to expect to be put to the test IF it comes if not all the better. But we have to LOVE the LORD first he established his Church the Catholic Church its not your fault that there is 33,000 Protestant denominations all believing different things and some of them not even keeping to what the Lord asked of them in the very basic of commandments. Fear not, like the early Apostles the Lord strengthens them who go and walk with Christ. I have no regrets and have had many Blessings and insights of His Love as you will to.

God Bless on your journey go forward and don’t look back, go with your hand in the Lord’s, he is never outdone in generosity:signofcross::highprayer::newidea:.
Wow, thanks for your story. That’s very uplifting.
 
It’s still the elephant in the room at family gatherings and it’s been 2 years since we’ve(my husband and 4 kids) converted. My brother is a non-denominational pastor at a megachurch. My cousin a Church of God pastor. My mom avoids talking about it, and makes snide comments every now and then about priests and church scandals. I am as charitable as can be. And she gets upset when we come to town on a weekend and go to mass instead of my brother’s church.
I did however, get my mother to finally come to a mass with us when my husband was out of town. I think it lowered a boundary, because she kept a bulletin and took it home to show other members of the family in a positive way. She was impressed with the grandkids participating, singing the Glory, etc…she just never understood what the mass was until I explained it to her.

I love the opportunities to plant seeds. My oldest nephew in college asked me about why pray to Mary/the rosary. I explained it, and he walked away knowing now that it’s not worshipping her. he said “wow, I never thought of it that way, thanks for clarifying”

I just pray that they keep asking questions. I’m ready to explain. But they choose to not bring it up. Taboo.🤷
 
It’s still the elephant in the room at family gatherings and it’s been 2 years since we’ve(my husband and 4 kids) converted. My brother is a non-denominational pastor at a megachurch. My cousin a Church of God pastor. My mom avoids talking about it, and makes snide comments every now and then about priests and church scandals. I am as charitable as can be. And she gets upset when we come to town on a weekend and go to mass instead of my brother’s church.
I did however, get my mother to finally come to a mass with us when my husband was out of town. I think it lowered a boundary, because she kept a bulletin and took it home to show other members of the family in a positive way. She was impressed with the grandkids participating, singing the Glory, etc…she just never understood what the mass was until I explained it to her.

I love the opportunities to plant seeds. My oldest nephew in college asked me about why pray to Mary/the rosary. I explained it, and he walked away knowing now that it’s not worshipping her. he said “wow, I never thought of it that way, thanks for clarifying”

I just pray that they keep asking questions. I’m ready to explain. But they choose to not bring it up. Taboo.🤷
Thanks for your story. That’s what I meant, about being able to explain why Catholics do what they do, if it’s brought up by anyone. 🙂
 
Wow, my mother is the only one convinced that i am in a cult, the rest of my family is ok with it and actually, i have even more friends now that i have become involved with the Catholic Parish.
 
Thank you. I think this will be key. I fear I may have to become somewhat of an amateur apologist before I can even fully become Catholic. 😃
No need to “fear”; in fact, we all should become apologists on our path as Catholics. It amazes me how many Catholics have beliefs and practices that we don’t know how to defend. The Apolegetics books are everywhere; we just don’t learn it.
 
No need to “fear”; in fact, we all should become apologists on our path as Catholics. It amazes me how many Catholics have beliefs and practices that we don’t know how to defend. The Apolegetics books are everywhere; we just don’t learn it.
Thanks, Auntie A. I DO find Apologetics interesting. I think I’ve read through the first 20 pages of the Apologetics forums this week. I need to step away from the computer!
 
I’m looking for advice from people who have converted to Catholicism from another denomination (esp. Pentecostal, Evangelical backgrounds).

Were your friends and family accepting? I fear that my family will be extremely disappointed in my conversion, and I expect I may even lose some friends over it. If this has happened to you, how did you talk to them or deal with the loss of the relationship?

If this is posted in the wrong area, please let me know. I’ve looked over the board for several days but can’t seem to find a forum dedicated to converting.
The problem is that it’s impossible to predict the reaction of your family members.

On the one hand, you cannot entirely blame them for being disappointed at your conversion. After all, your parents raised you to be Pentecostal, and they’ll on some level believe that your conversion is, at least partially, their fault.

I think it is important how much will stay the same as opposed to what will change with your conversion to Catholicism. A lot of fundamental beliefs will remain unchanged, and you can enjoy much of your Pentecostal heritage despite your conversion.

I think it will also be important to explain in extensive detail on why exactly you decided to convert. So you can show them that you deeply struggled over the decision and that it wasn’t something that you chose to do without study and thought.
 
Wow, my mother is the only one convinced that i am in a cult, the rest of my family is ok with it and actually, i have even more friends now that i have become involved with the Catholic Parish.
Thanks for your reply. I overlooked it earlier. I hope to make some friends, too (and I hope no one thinks I’m joining a cult :D).
 
After all, your parents raised you to be Pentecostal, and they’ll on some level believe that your conversion is, at least partially, their fault.
I never thought of that.
I think it is important how much will stay the same as opposed to what will change with your conversion to Catholicism. A lot of fundamental beliefs will remain unchanged, and you can enjoy much of your Pentecostal heritage despite your conversion.
Sound advice. Thank you.
I think it will also be important to explain in extensive detail on why exactly you decided to convert. So you can show them that you deeply struggled over the decision and that it wasn’t something that you chose to do without study and thought.
Thank you. I’ll try. Many people know that I have at least thought about it for a few years, including my father. Even my husband knew this, but now that I plan to go through with it, he’s not very supportive. He doesn’t practice any faith right now, but was Pentecostal, too, growing up. 🤷
 
I’m looking for advice from people who have converted to Catholicism from another denomination (esp. Pentecostal, Evangelical backgrounds).

Were your friends and family accepting? I fear that my family will be extremely disappointed in my conversion, and I expect I may even lose some friends over it. If this has happened to you, how did you talk to them or deal with the loss of the relationship?

If this is posted in the wrong area, please let me know. I’ve looked over the board for several days but can’t seem to find a forum dedicated to converting.
I suggest posting in the Evangelizing board.

I converted to Catholicism in 1986. One of my family members originally had trouble with it but she came to accept it and showed up at the Easter Vigil. I was from a Methodist background.

You may lose friends and family, or you may not. Some people may need time to work through their feelings.

Do what is right for you.
 
Do the right thing. When your friends see how joining the church has improved you, perhaps they will become curious.

You can evangelize by example without needing to explain in words!

Maybe you’'ll find new friends as well!

Pray, hope and don’ t worry!

Pax et Bonum+
 
I’m looking for advice from people who have converted to Catholicism from another denomination (esp. Pentecostal, Evangelical backgrounds).

Were your friends and family accepting? I fear that my family will be extremely disappointed in my conversion, and I expect I may even lose some friends over it. If this has happened to you, how did you talk to them or deal with the loss of the relationship?

If this is posted in the wrong area, please let me know. I’ve looked over the board for several days but can’t seem to find a forum dedicated to converting.
If you lose a “friend” because of this they have never been your friend in the first place.
 
Thank you. I think this will be key. I fear I may have to become somewhat of an amateur apologist before I can even fully become Catholic. 😃
Dec -

Continue on CAF asking questions if needed and take a look at Jon Martignoni’s website. He has some free mp3 files that you can download and listen to that will help on your apologetics idea. Scripture says that we should always have an answer…you’ll have a better answer(s) than you think…

1 Peter 3
15 But in your hearts revere Christ as Lord. Always be prepared to give an answer to everyone who asks you to give the reason for the hope that you have. But do this with gentleness and respect,

biblechristiansociety.com/home.php
 
I never thought of that.
I think that probably deeply troubles parents and family more than anything else. Imagine if your child converts to Islam despite the fact you raise it in a Christian household - you’d be mortified - rightly so. I’m certainly not comparing conversion to Catholicism to converting to Islam, but I hope that helps understand the state in which they’re in. And I think knowing that is important when revealing all this to your family.
Thank you. I’ll try. Many people know that I have at least thought about it for a few years, including my father. Even my husband knew this, but now that I plan to go through with it, he’s not very supportive. He doesn’t practice any faith right now, but was Pentecostal, too, growing up. 🤷
That might help. It might also help to reassure him that Pentecostalism is alive and well in Catholicism, in a sense. The* Charismatic Catholic* movement has embraced many people who believe in obtaining the gifts of the Spirit like speaking in tongues, and prophecy, among others.
 
Right here on this site is a great resource for finding what you need quickly. Just click on “Catholic Answers” at the top left and you will see a menu item “Topics.” It’s a good place to start. Also, EWTN has a good Q&A area. You might also get a catechism and begin reading. Each section is cross referenced with biblical passages as well as the early church fathers, although at this point the biblical references will be preferred.
 
Right here on this site is a great resource for finding what you need quickly. Just click on “Catholic Answers” at the top left and you will see a menu item “Topics.” It’s a good place to start. Also, EWTN has a good Q&A area. You might also get a catechism and begin reading. Each section is cross referenced with biblical passages as well as the early church fathers, although at this point the biblical references will be preferred.
Thank you. 🙂
 
Thank you. I think this will be key. I fear I may have to become somewhat of an amateur apologist before I can even fully become Catholic. 😃
Nope nope nope nope.

Learn the Faith as best you can, but don’t feel a need to become an apologist right away. You will probably come acrosss a few family members/friends who will question you on the Faith. And when they ask you about something you don’t know, just admit so.

Best response, “I’m not sure, and that is a great question. I will research this because I’m curious myself. When I find out, I will give you the update.”

ALL questions/accusations they can/will level at you or the Faith, has already been answered fully the Church. We just have to find it.

And the most important thing (besides learning the Faith) is to NOT bullsqueeze an answer. If you don’t know, just admit it and find the answer. Do NOT make up an answer, because it may cause you to lose credibility, and it may cause a future potential convert to reject the Faith if they find out your answer was a bunch of baloney.

God bless, and welcome home!
 
Thanks. I’d never make up an answer and am not afraid to say I don’t know when I don’t. I simply meant that I don’t want to give an “I don’t know” answer because I didn’t take the time to learn about the faith, if that makes sense.
 
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