Looking for extra-terrestrial friends on a Catholic singles website. Bad idea?

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(OK, not e-t but I needed to make the title “juicier” to increase clicks. 🙂

Probably my main interest is looking for some female companion(s) to do things with. Is it a bad idea to get on a dating website when you don’t exactly want to date per se? (Just find an opposite sex friend to have lunch with, go hiking, random things.) I’m single, and not averse to finding a potential spouse, but it’s really not the main reason for my being there. Is this an imprudent thing to do?
 
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OK, I either am being impatient.

OR

A. This is a dumb question.
B. A misinterpreted question.
C. An uninteresting question.
D. A difficult question.

OK, just forget the main question and answer this one. 🙂
 
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So,…wait, what? Some dating websites have an option such as “Hangout” under your intentions… just be up front about it.
 
hmmm…you want an “e” answer. You’re right. If your answer is “e. other” then please give your reason. 🙂
 
Welll we have no idea who is answering us. For all you know, I could be a Braille reading octopus, trained to give certain responses. Or…an alien
 
But to be serious, it’s fine. Be upfront and say what you typed here
 
So you want the friends you meet to be female, but you don’t want to date them… Then why do they need to be female? Why not just look for friends that enjoy hiking? Or that like searching for ET?

It sounds more like you are saying “I just want to be friends” until you find someone that interests you, and then you will date. And that is fine and as it should be. But you are looking on a dating site. 🤔

Just sayin…
 
I suppose I have a preference for female friends. I’m not sure I want to date at all. It’s a dating website so I was thinking, “Women are not coming here because they want platonic friendships.”

I just think it’s common for one person to like being friends with a person,and the other person is not content with that. So it will only cause trouble. Those are not necessarily my decisive thoughts, just a possibility.
 
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I think your instincts are correct.

And there are always women that think they will win you over. :roll_eyes:
 
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Have you tried looking at MeetUp for your area?

There are different groups that meet for so many different types of interests.

There are some that meet for Book Clubs, for example, and some that meet to go hiking. There are some that meet to go to different restaurants because the members like to go out to eat together. There are some that like to go to different sporting events together, and so on.

There are also singles events, too.

If you haven’t looked into that, that might be worth a try, too. 🙂
 
I feel kind of overwhelmed in groups of people, I don’t know. I’m rather shy in various ways. Being online is kind of like getting into the swimming pool a tippy toe at a time. 🙂
 
I understand. 🙂

Sometimes being in a group can take the pressure off of trying to talk to any one particular person.

I understand about being kind of shy, though.

I can actually be that way, too.

I actually don’t care for group parties all that much, when I feel like I have to be the one to “put myself out” all of the time.

I have been to parties where the host doesn’t introduce anyone to anyone else, and then people just kind of sit there uncomfortably, staring at each other until you’re the one who then reaches out to others sitting/standing around you.

It can make for an awkward time, and I don’t mean to sound like a “party pooper” by saying this, either. 😉 😁
 
It is okay. Indicate on your profile that you are just looking for friends. I have seen this on profiles on CM.

Of course, there are those who say that why look for friends on a dating site? There was one girl who said, I joined a dating site to look for a relationship, not meet new friends. I also wondered in the same manner. So yeah, people are gonna disagree. But never mind that.
 
Yeah. Or even if the host introduces them, but nothing really substantial follows. Most people wait for the other to initiate.
 
I just ended a long friendship with a man I met on Catholic Match – hurt like the dickens. :cry:

Not only did I lose a good friend, but I felt betrayed and used. It was awful.

Seriously, JC, there are better ways of meeting women to hang out with. Gimme a call and we’ll go for a hike. 😉
 
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Probably my main interest is looking for some female companion(s) to do things with. Is it a bad idea to get on a dating website when you don’t exactly want to date per se?
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Dating websites are dodgy as they come.
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(Just find an opposite sex friend to have lunch with, go hiking, random things. I’m single, and not averse to finding a potential spouse, but it’s really not the main reason for my being there. Is this an imprudent thing to do?
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Joining an offical hiking group would be a safer bet,
 
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