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I meet a great woman that I plan on marring, She is Catholic and I was baptized Christian at 22 yrs old, but no longer practicing. I am 35 now and I know she wants a Catholic wedding within the Church, is this possible?

Thank you all so much for your time and kind responses.
 
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No. It was done in the Ocean; at New Port Beach, CA
 
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Thank you Irishmom2, I’ll make that a point to speak to Him.
 
Yes, he would be able to best advise you.

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Would you know if the actual ceremony would be different?
 
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The rite of marriage is the same regardless of who is marrying.

There are two choices: the rite of marriage during mass and the rite of marriage outside mass. When a Catholic marries a non-Catholic the rite of marriage outside mass is the norm.

Again, you and she need to speak to the local pastor regarding premarital preparation.
 
Welcome to CAF! We hope you’ll enjoy participating with us. Exploring the different features and archived threads will keep you busy!

If both of you have never been married, there should be no hitches. However if there’s an ex-spouse anywhere in the picture, you’ll need to do a lot of paperwork; a “yes” answer is possible, but not guaranteed, and will depend upon the circumstances. Her priest—now your priest, also—will help you find all the answers.

Best wishes to both of you!
 
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Thank you Mink. No neither of us have ever been married before, or have any kids. All signs point to talking with Her Priest.

I just looked up what 1KE mentioned about “…When a Catholic marries a non-Catholic the rite of marriage outside mass is the norm.” I found out that to be; you can be married, but with no Holy Communion. Kind of hurt to think She wouldn’t be able to take the Holy Communion for Her (our) wedding.
 
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I just looked up what 1KE mentioned about “…When a Catholic marries a non-Catholic the rite of marriage outside mass is the norm.” I found out that to be; you can be married, but with no Holy Communion. Kind of hurt to think She wouldn’t be able to take the Holy Communion for Her (our) wedding.
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The reason for this is basically because at a nuptial mass the bride and groom are supposed to receive communion together as a sign of well, communion (i.e. togetherness). Obviously, when one partner can’t because they’re not Catholic this make it a bit awkward at least in so far as the sign value is concerned! the other problem is that, if communion is distributed to those present then it can be expected that there will be a significant number of people (most from the same side of the new family) who can’t receive - again not is exactly a great start to a marriage, symbolically speaking!
 
Hello Cobhobaroblobie and welcome to CAF.

Congratulations on your engagement and I’m happy to hear you’re agreeable to a Catholic marriage.

A Catholic can marry a non-Catholic and usually using the Rite of Marriage rather than a Nuptial Mass.

There will be one of two issues that revolve around your baptism. This is why it’s best, as others have advised, to speak to the Catholic priest. If your baptism is one that the Catholic Church recognises as valid your fiancee will be entering into what the Catholic Church calls a mixed marriage and she’ll need permission to do this. However, if the Catholic Church considers your baptism invalid your financee faces a different situation called an impediment and the one in question is disparity of cult. If that is the case she will need a dispensation to marry you.
 
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