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The body and blood has to take priority but going it alone for almost 10 years has been so hard. On a practical level I am frustrated with not having Godparents for my child as I just don’t have any meaningful relationships with other Catholics.
 
I was raised in the Catholic faith and have a full understanding of everything you stated.
However, now I am agnostic. I don’t subscribe to any one faith. I believe in an inherent moral compass. I believe most religions have tenants based in truth, and some based in make-believe. To me, the Catholic church seems way too preoccupied with human sexuality and procreation. If there is a God, he created procreation in a way that it sort of runs on autopilot. Add to that the brains he gave us to circumvent the process when we don’t want to participate in it, and I think he came up with a pretty good system. A lot of harm can be done by someone with regards to how they conduct themselves in sexual matters. We should never hurt others. That doesn’t, for me, equate to a Church dictating how someone manages their sex life, their marriage, or their family planning.

Like I said, I am agnostic. Always searching. I appreciate the teachings within the Catholic church that I discern to be valid. They are beautiful and useful.
 
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Like I said, I am agnostic. Always searching. I appreciate the teachings within the Catholic church that I discern to be valid. They are beautiful and useful.
If you heard a pastor saying: you can be assured of your salvation if you simply believe Jesus died on the Cross for your sins and you can never lose your salvation, would you grasp at something like that? They’d encourage you to go to Bible studies and that the fruits of the Spirit show that you accepted God’s call of salvation. But you also have to ask yourself who couldn’t love a God who was willing to sacrifice His life under the pain of the Cross to make sure that he would be resurrected and forgive us of our sins? The accounts of his resurrection are miraculous in and of itself and even psychologists who don’t necessarily believe in a God cannot refute the 500 people who witnessed the resurrection and its involvement in the creation of the Church from the apostles. The hardest part to accept about this loving God is why he allows suffering.

What about if you learned about suffering, that God doesn’t make people suffer because of sin but because that suffering can bring about redemption? Can you believe that a good God can allow suffering that suffering is never in vein and always has a divine purpose that gets people to Heaven? The miracles Jesus performed were not the actual healing the people received from their affliction but that they’re sins were forgiven and they must go and sin no more. His grace is the ultimate gift to receive: his gift of his death on the Cross and the resurrection. We should love God and love neighbor so that we can truly appreciate his sacrifice.
 
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If someone is set on leaving Catholicism, I always urge them to at least stick with some form of Christianity. Just don’t give up on being a Christian. Don’t leave Christ.
Oh I so agree with that. Catholics focus on people staying Catholic rather than keeping their Christianity. I think people need a path to salvation and by living the Christian life, they can have that.
went to Catholic school my whole life and they didn’t do a very good job if instilling the truth faith into us. It felt more like nonsensical rules and regulations.
We shouldn’t ignore your experience. We should empathize with why you feel this way. Many hugs. Proper catcheism is more important to developing your own moral compass of right and wrong. Prudence is being able to have free-will and being able to be repentant when we foul up or momentarily turn away from God.

God bless. Lets all be children of God.
 
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You’re leaving the True Presence because people at your local parish weren’t social enough with you?
That is just part of it. Overall, I find the Catholic people I have been around, including many on this forum, to be unpleasant people, lacking even the basics of how a Christian should behave. I have been unhappy since being received. That is not Christianity; it should be a joyous thing.
 
That is just part of it. Overall, I find the Catholic people I have been around, including many on this forum, to be unpleasant people, lacking even the basics of how a Christian should behave. I have been unhappy since being received. That is not Christianity; it should be a joyous thing.
Some of the crosses we have don’t have enjoyment. But I agree with you that people shouldn’t go out of their way to not help you walk in the faith. We do need to make an effort to be open and welcoming.
 
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The body and blood has to take priority but going it alone for almost 10 years has been so hard. On a practical level I am frustrated with not having Godparents for my child as I just don’t have any meaningful relationships with other Catholics.
I’m so sorry. Many hugs. This is why goodwill (innocence) is SO important!

Mother Theresa was special not because she was without sin. She was special because her confessions were like that of a child. She was completely obedient to God. She had goodwill for the undesirables and the innocence to truly be there for the unwanted. She even had the foresight to say that India was a “rich” country and that America was becoming poorer by the day.

How much better would the Catholic Church be if we were all that charitable? Now that’s not the reason to go to Church but it’s so much easier for people to follow their faith if they know someone genuinely cares about the,.
 
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That is just part of it. Overall, I find the Catholic people I have been around, including many on this forum, to be unpleasant people, lacking even the basics of how a Christian should behave. I have been unhappy since being received. That is not Christianity; it should be a joyous thing.
I hear you. I’ve had similar experiences myself, which may lead one to question the community.
 
Thank you! I appreciate it. Yes, proper catechism is so important. Things may have turned out very differently, who knows? Unfortunately, some of my other former classmates turned away completely and have yet to come back. 😔
May the grace of God find them and bring them back into the Christian fold. To mar someone’s spiritually thru lack of goodwill is a real shame and I pray for the lost to be able to come back to the Father like the prodigal son. May they be brought back to the Church whether they receive the incomplete or complete version and may they live their life thru the graces of the Holy Spirit that encourages the perseverance to the end and an eternity in Heaven. We all deserve Hell but God died for our sins so that we could be forgiven thru our imperfection of original sin from our first parents.

The angels in heaven rejoice when a sinner repents of their sin and becomes a Christian. They weep when someone turns their back on the faith. May there be a lot more rejoicing and true candid love for our fellow brothers, sisters, and intersex people of God.

So many hugs. May the angels rejoice! May the angels rejoice! May they rejoice from the people who come back to God. Lets have a feast. May we not leave out someone but trust in St Michael so that evil who prowls about the world seeking the ruin of souls is thwarted and unsuccessful.

May God also help those who are in most need of His mercy per the Lady of Fatima prayer.

St Michael Prayer

St Michael the Archangel
Defend us in Battle
Be our Protection Against the Wickedness & snares of the Devil
May God rebuke him we humbly pray
By the prince of the Heavenly Host
By the Power of God
Thrust into Hell Satan
And all the evil spirits who prowl around the world seeking the ruin of souls
Amen.

Fatima prayer

Oh my Jesus
Forgive us our sins
Save us from the Fires of Hell
Lead all souls into Heaven
Especially those most in need of thy mercy
 
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Now that’s not the reason to go to Church but it’s so much easier for people to follow their faith if they know someone genuinely cares
That is it in a nutshell. Of course the Body and Blood is our reason for going to Mass, as it should be, but the Church was never meant to be only a group of strangers partaking of the Eucharist. We were a community, a family, from the very beginnings of the Church. That is how it is supposed to be. If it is not, if one is on one’s own, it is very very difficult. Christ never meant us to be alone in our faith.
 
Christ never meant us to be alone in our faith.
So true and lacking of our faith in the Catholic Church.

If you have good social skills and are outgoing and involved in the Church, you won’t see the lack of goodwill in the church. You will see that there is a community that cares for you.

If you’re shy, if you don’t have good social skills, or you don’t know how to get involved in the Church, you might feel alone like receiving the Eucharist for the sick & the home-bound. You may feel like you’re walking your faith alone and all you want to do is go to mass and leave as soon as it is done. You see an absent community - i.e. that we receive the Eucharist as a family as a global church but no one truly sharing their experiences with each other and truly enjoying it as a community vocally. The community is more in the heart but not expressive. It’s not out there and a shared experience that is mutually shared in our conversations.
 
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I wasn’t claiming to know everyone’s experience – I am claiming that a generalization saying all Catholic parishes are unwelcoming is categorically false.
 
Why did you join the Catholic Church?

You say you’ve been a part of your parish for 7 months and a member of the church for 4-5 months. Forgive me but why would you draw any conclusions about it as a result?

And again, why would you want to separate yourself from the True Presence because of others in the pew beside you? As someone who relies on the actual presence of Christ in the Eucharist, I can’t imagine being willing to put myself away from it.
 
We converted from Orthodoxy. There is no Orthodox or Byzantine Catholic Church anywhere near us at all. Would be a several hour commute/ferry rides to the nearest one, so we were received into the Roman Church.

Both Churches have apostolic authority and valid priesthoods. Both believe in the Real Presence, so our choice was not worship at all, or become Catholic.

Now we are thinking about going over to the nearest Orthodox Church on Saturday, stay at a hotel, and attend Divine Liturgy that way.
 
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Every Saturday?! That seems a bit much…would you have more of a sense of community only taking part in Church activities once a week-at Mass-at an Orthodox church? Did you sign up for any kind of Stewardship at the RC parish? That’s usually how people gain a sense of friendship and community. My husband is KofC and on the Stewardship committee at our Parish.
 
If you heard a pastor saying: you can be assured of your salvation if you simply believe Jesus died on the Cross for your sins and you can never lose your salvation, would you grasp at something like that?
As an agnostic, I don’t believe in the Catholic or christian concept of God.
 
That’s usually how people gain a sense of friendship and community. My husband is KofC and on the Stewardship committee at our Parish.
Yes, that is part of the problem. We registered, attempted to join many, many ministries, and have been ignored both in returning phone calls and emails. I had a HUGE saga in trying to join the K of C in my parish (which is a huge, active council). I finally enlisted the K of C on the national level to contact them for me and get them to respond. Nothing. Four months and nothing. I view the entire unpleasant experience as my wife and I being directed to return to the Orthodox Faith.
 
I wasn’t claiming to know everyone’s experience – I am claiming that a generalization saying all Catholic parishes are unwelcoming is categorically false.
I was claiming that you didn’t know other people’s experiences and that you only can claim from your experience that parishes as being unwelcoming as false from your opinion.

You don’t own the opinion of another, but simply your opinion. And I or no one else owns your opinion.
As someone who relies on the actual presence of Christ in the Eucharist, I can’t imagine being willing to put myself away from it.
I totally agree with this. I don’t want to give up the real presence because of the unfriendliness of others. That said, it’s okay for me to get my Jesus on in a Protestant Church provided I attend weekly mass and get my Eucharist from the Catholic but abstain from communion in the Protestant Church as that is merely symbolic.
 
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